IF YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND BON JOUR MATCHMAKING’S PHILOSOPHY I WILL DECLINE TO WORK TOGETHER

It’s really more than just that. I just hung up after an hour call with a guy whose ego is so large that he told me how I should operate my matchmaking service to make more money. He never got that it isn’t about the money for me! It’s about my clients’ success.

At 43 he wanted only to meet ages 27-37, begrudgingly, admittedly because of his ego according to him and he doesn’t want to have children. Then proceeded to complain about how my service is set up, I should connect in some way with Bumble (which he said he used and didn’t work), I should get people from various venues that I know nothing about and just argued the entire time with me. Periodically agreeing that his criteria was too narrow.

The one thing I have really honed in 33 years of matchmaking is my listening skill. I really listen! Based on everything I heard and the fact that in the preliminary consultation he argued with me about everything I said this was not the service for him. He asked why and I said you just don’t get it. This is our 2nd or 3rd call in about 2 years and he said he read through my website. So why call if you know how this operates and try to get me to change my philosophy?

After giving him advice for almost an hour he then said that I’m not a nice person…I guess he’s ok with being honest but when someone else is and rejects him that doesn’t work for him. That’s EXACTLY why I declined.

3/20/22: I had a new woman scheduled for today. She’s had a week and a half to call or email me any questions which I advised her to do when we spoke. First thing this morning she sends me her pictures which did not follow anything I directed her to do and did not follow the examples I sent her. So that’s already a problem. She doesn’t follow instructions. The pics she sent would not have helped her, that’s why she had no success on apps, etc.

After spending several days cleaning and prepping for her interview (remember, I work from home, so I like everything perfect when interviewing a new client). I spent all morning doing final preps as well. She calls for directions which I gave her, then I asked whether she had any questions…she came up with every excuse she could think of to cancel but came short of cancelling. Two hours before the interview…when I pointed some things out she cut me off, didn’t want to hear it and I finally said I don’t want to work with you. Mostly I think she felt it was a numbers game, which is the first thing I say, IT IS NOT! She’s been on dating service sites and dating apps with millions of people and she’s had no success, so obviously it is not a numbers game! Ten great prospects are better than thousands of lousy ones!

We have to be a match first to collaborate on this very personal endeavor. And I wouldn’t want to expose my female clientele to this kind of personality. If you are going to fight me all the way on our phone consultation, I’m not going to work with you period.

Published by Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields

I have been a professional Matchmaker for 33 years in Denver, CO. My service, Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, has facilitated 300+ marriages of 600+ Colorado Front Range singles through hand holding, personalized matchmaking. For more information go to http://bonjourms.com

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