36 YEARS OF MATCHMAKING HAS TAUGHT ME ALOT!

November 8, 2024…I have learned many lessons over this 36-year career.

The reason, I’m told by my clients, that my service is so successful, is that I am so discerning who to accept as a client. Over the years my assessment has not always been correct, and I have learned from those mistakes.

I have learned not to make decisions “for” my clients, but to always give them the power to choose who they feel is best for them. There is a collaboration between matchmaker and client, however clients have the last word.

In the past 2 months I have turned down 8 or more singles who have called for Bon Jour. Following are some of the reasons I may not accept to work with someone:

1. Two gentlemen called who were 69 and I had no one in their age range to present to them at that time. I did suggest that they call back in a few months as the makeup of the clientele is fluid;
2. One guy called who had very narrow criteria and I didn’t feel comfortable accepting a fee as his preferences would eliminate many people I could present to him. Again, I suggested that he try back in a few months;
3. Another guy emailed that he was looking for women 20-25. My clientele starts at 30 at the moment;
4. A guy called who lives in Vail. Previously I accepted a client from Vail and the distance at that time was not acceptable to my clients. He also asked about my women’s income which is 6 figures, and he made less so was not comfortable with going forward which we agreed mutually;
5. A guy called me from Fort Collins. The few clients I’ve had in Fort Collins were also unacceptable to my clients at that point in time and his educational level was not commensurate with my clientele;
6. A woman called who sounded crazy, so declined to work with her;
7. I had an appointment set with a young woman. She kept asking me to go to dinner, to parties, to events, to write a book, etc. She didn’t seem to listen to the information I shared about the service on 2 occasions of 2 hour phone calls. So, I just was not comfortable going forward, which turned out to be the right decision;
8. A guy called yesterday. Zero personality but I was hoping he’s just not a phone person. He argued with me about various structural aspects of Bon Jour. He was focused on numbers, he only wanted to text with me, and I told him I don’t text with clients, I email. I was getting a very bad feeling about the type of client he would be as he first told me that he gave another service a 1 star review on Yelp and that’s how he found me. I declined to work with him, and he IMMEDIATELY wrote a 1 star review about me on Yelp. Again, the right decision on my part!
9. A guy called today and the first thing he said was that he was going to be a challenge. He’s going to be honest with me, he wants a woman with a big butt and hips. There were a couple of other qualifiers, but I can’t even remember them because the focus was the aforementioned. He did not fit what my particular clientele is seeking, and I will not accept money just for the sake of making money. I politely explained that, and I won’t take a fee if I feel it is unlikely that my women will be interested. It’s too much of an investment. He became VERY defensive and hung up on me.

So, there it is. A few reasons why people may not be accepted, at least at the point in time they call.

You realize that is a SUBSTANTIAL amount of income I turn down because of ethics and experience!