I AM A REAL MATCHMAKER LOOKING OUT FOR MY CLIENTS

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Bon Jour Matchmaking Service is a REAL matchmaking service, not a dating service calling itself a “matchmaking” service!

You probably can tell that from the rest of this site and immense amount of information contained in it. I have 2 contracts that every client signs.

One is your contract stipulating your fee, what you should expect from me and what I need from you.

The other is a Behavioral Contract. Most of my clients have had bad experiences on internet dating sites and dating apps where people do not follow through. I do not want that to happen in here. It is most important to me that clients treat each other with courtesy and respect.

The way I judge whether someone will be a good client to work with is BEFORE you become a client. If you say you will do something and don’t follow through…bad sign. If you…

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I RECEIVED THIS A WHILE AGO FROM SOMEONE WHO VISITED MY MATCHMAKING WEBSITE

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Somehow I missed this when it was posted…

BMJun 19, 2018

I used Caliber Match’s services about 4 years ago and it was absolutely the worst experience customer service wise that I have ever had, business or personal. Emily Hellman is the owner and I can say she flat out lied to me to get me to sign a contract, but once under contract I called her out asking when things aren’t going the way she explained in my consultation meeting and she started to ignore me and only give partial answers to my questions. Basically she held me to the terms of the contract even though she didn’t follow the contract herself. My attorney told me on one hand, her lies are the only reason I signed the contract to begin with (I agree, hence why I went to him), but on the other hand, the contract is…

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IT’S 2014…WHY IS BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE STILL “OLD-FASHIONED”?

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Over these many years since the creation of Bon Jour Matchmaking Service established in 1989 many well-meaning people have suggested that I go more high-tech.  The reason I have resisted is because I genuinely feel that there are some endeavors that are and should stay “old-fashioned”.  Of course I have incorporated aspects of current high-tech as I am writing a Post for my Blog on my website to post on Facebook, LinkedIn and Twitter.  Some portion of my communication with clients is by e-mail and I send pictures of prospective matches through that venue.  But when it comes to interviewing clients to really get to know them there is nothing that takes the place of looking someone in the eye and asking follow-up questions.  Talking on the phone rather than always e-mailing or IM’ing to nurture a relationship between client and Matchmaker.

There is a trend amongst Denver Matchmakers to…

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KEEPING CLIENTS SAFE AT BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE

Of primary concern is keeping my clients as safe as possible from scammers, liars, felons and criminals. When someone calls for my matchmaking service, at my expense, I conduct a background check on them. I look at all social media as well as use a paid service to conduct those.

How do I keep clients safe? If I find info that is inconsistent with what the person has told me and/or if I find concerning information in their background check, I decline to work with them. A couple of months ago two guys called for Bon Jour, I did background checks and found concerning information, so I declined to work with them. They actually totally understood…

A couple of things that should be noted…I can’t find out if that person is a jerk unfortunately. I recently had a guy call who said he was only going to give Denver 2 months to see if it works out. When going to his Facebook profile it showed lots of friends here and activities, so I don’t know what he’s talking about. Also, his background check showed that he’s moved many times throughout the country showing a lack of stability as well as a couple of other concerning things. I have also had several older men call and lie about their age looking to meet younger women. Don’t work with them either!

Another thing you can’t count on background checks for…just because it may show no criminal activity that may only mean they haven’t been caught yet. Serial offenders can only be serial if they haven’t been caught. So always be careful when dealing with new people.

That said, in the 34 years I’ve been practicing personal matchmaking I have never had an issue…probably because of all of the background checking that I do.

THE BEST ASPECT OF BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE

Open-ended contract…you are a client until…until you reach your goal;

One Matchmaker who knows ALL of her clients;

You are ONLY introduced to my clients who I’ve met personally, interviewed and who have had a background check;

34 years of experience in Colorado matchmaking;

300+ marriages;

Feedback both positive and negative to assist you;

Background checks at MY expense on every client;

Coaching to correct unproductive and unsuccessful dating patterns;

Extensive profiles with current photos for clients to view;

Collaborative effort between client and Matchmaker;

Clients decide who they are interested in meeting after I select appropriate profiles that fit on both sides;

VERY reasonable investment fee based on each individual client’s situation;

 Make your investment fee back if you get married, move or leave Bon Jour.

These are just the highlights.  Please read through this web site to gain more in-depth information.

I’D RATHER DECLINE THAN DISAPPOINT Your Denver Matchmaking Desires

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As I’ve written many times on this website, I turn down more potential clients (and income) than I accept.  If I sense that this really is not what you are looking for in a service or potential relationship (doesn’t line up with my clientele) I would rather decline to work together than sign you and disappoint you.

That’s why the initial FREE PHONE CONSULTATION is sooooo important and that you be honest and candid, not only about what type of relationship you desire but also about your personal information.  I recently had two people lie to me about their age and I don’t work with people who lie.  If you want to lie use Internet Dating Sites or Dating Apps!  How do I know they lied?  I do a background check before you become a client both for my safety and for my clients as well as to make…

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WHAT TYPES OF PEOPLE ARE NOT RIGHT FOR BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE

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To perhaps make things a bit simpler for singles who view this website and have an interest in Bon Jour Matchmaking, but in all honesty just don’t jive with this 34 year established clientele, here are some situations and/or characteristics that MAY preclude you:

  1. An overabundance of piercings;
  2. If when we have the FREE phone consultation you argue with me about the service structure, pictures or anything else, that is a very bad sign to me and shows we are not a match;
  3. Men shorter than 5’7″;
  4. If you are married or separated;
  5. Women wearing a size 12 or higher;
  6. Bald men do not do as well in general BUT that depends…if that is the only thing on this list that doesn’t fit it is worth calling;
  7. Men with “shaved” heads do better than bald men;
  8. If your education ends at high school that will be an issue;
  9. Smokers;

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IN BON JOUR MATCHMAKING WE ARE PARTNERS

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When you first contact me to ask questions about my service that is when we both start evaluating whether my structure, philosophy and personality fit for you and I assess whether you truly understand my philosophy, whether you are realistic, your dating attitude and whether we communicate well enough to work together. To make this a successful partnership both sides have to fit…just like with your matches.

As it says all over my website this is anOLD FASHIONED MATCHMAKING SERVICE. Presumably you are calling me because you understand that and all that means. So to ask me how many are in my “database” right off the bat tells me you don’t get it. My clients are not a “database”, they are clients. Would you want to be considered part of a database or a client? One implies a much closer relationship than the other.

If your philosophy is…

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I’D RATHER DECLINE THAN DISAPPOINT Your Denver Matchmaking Desires

Bon Jour Matchmaking Service

As I’ve written many times on this website, I turn down more potential clients (and income) than I accept.  If I sense that this really is not what you are looking for in a service or potential relationship (doesn’t line up with my clientele) I would rather decline to work together than sign you and disappoint you.

That’s why the initialFREE PHONE CONSULTATIONis sooooo important and that you be honest and candid, not only about what type of relationship you desire but also about your personal information. I recently had two people lie to me about their age and I don’t work with people who lie. If you want to lie useInternet Dating Sites or Dating Apps! How do I know they lied? I do a background check before you become a client both for my safety and for my clients as well as to make…

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TRUST ME…I’VE BEEN A PROFESSIONAL MATCHMAKER FOR 34 YEARS

Presumably if you are considering hiring a Denver matchmaker it’s because you have not had success on your own. Either because of the venues you’ve chosen or things you have done that didn’t work.

When you hire any professional you defer to their experience and wisdom or else what is the point in working with them? The more experience they have, the more you should trust them.

With 34 years under my belt and my one-on-one, hands-on approach I see how clients react to profiles and the pictures. If someone calls for Bon Jour Matchmaking’s free phone consultation and argues with me about my different types of approach, first of all this is not the service for them. Secondly, I can see the writing on the wall that this will be a difficult client, impossible to please, who will fight me every inch of the way.

This is not a service with multiple “matchmakers”. It’s all me, so I know the clients and how they react to profiles and pictures. If you are considering Bon Jour you need to understand and accept my structure and approach. If you argue with me before even becoming a client, then this is not the service for you. Two potential clients just did that, and I decided not to work with either of them. My clients “get it”…

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