The actual reason for this post is that there seems to be some confusion from time to time and I want to clarify. Some clients and future clients have thought they can only meet or date one person at a time. NOT TRUE. That is TOTALLY up to each individual client. If you are comfortable meeting and/or dating more than one person that is absolutely YOUR prerogative.
Additionally I want to clarify also because of confusion based on experience in other Denver matchmaking services…this is nothing like other services and that is why you are still searching for assistance. There is no such thing as “HOLD” in Bon Jour. Regardless of what your situation is at a point in time I still share your profile with new clients if and when appropriate. If they select to meet you I would then email you asking your current status. People’s status is very fluid so checking periodically is more than appropriate. Also, I can’t possibly remember over months or years that you are involved with someone which new clients did and didn’t view your profile when they came in so I just continue to show it and check with you.
Just more info showing yet more differences between Bon Jour Matchmaking and other Denver matchmakers and Denver dating services.
As I’ve written many times on this website, I turned down more potential clients (and income) than I accept. If I sense that this really is not what you are looking for in a service or potential relationship (doesn’t line up with my clientele) I would rather decline to work together than sign you and disappoint you.
That’s why the initial FREE PHONE CONSULTATION is sooooo important and that you be honest and candid, not only about what type of relationship you desire but also about your personal information. I recently had two people lie to me about their age and I don’t work with people who lie. If you want to lie use Internet Dating Sites! How do I know they lied? I do a background check before you become a client both for my safety and for my clients as well as to make sure the information you have presented is true and honest.
Very often when people contact me at Bon Jour Matchmaking one of the questions they ask is what is my success rate.
My success rate has everything to do with you as a client. If you turn down everyone who would like to meet you, don’t select people to meet who are the best prospects (which I tell you), continue to make the same mistakes I have pointed out to you through my coaching, well your success rate will not be as good as a client who is more open minded with prospective matches or listens to my coaching and implements it.
We are a collaborative partnership. It’s not just MY success rate in this Denver matchmaking service. You as a client have everything to do with your success. I have several clients who have superficial requirements that must be met or they are not interested. I.e., one woman will not consider men who are conservative regardless of how good a fit they are in other ways. Doesn’t even want to see their profiles.
Another is an avid skier and directly told me not to show anyone her profile who is not an avid skier as all of her vacations are ski vacations. A male client is only interested in women who emulate Cameron Diaz. If she is “exotic” like Angelina Jolie he’s not interested. Well….I follow strictly what I’m told, unlike the other local Denver matchmaking or Denver dating services. That’s the good news, but if you are so restrictive as these clients it may take forever to make that match.
So, in short, my success is based on the client completely.
WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE?
Let me count the ways that I am different from all those “matchmaking services” who sell packages of dates! First of all that says it right there…they sell packages of DATES so they are DENVER DATING SERVICES NOT MATCHMAKERS.
Why, why, why would anyone pay thousands of dollars to let someone you’ve met briefly decide FOR YOU who you are going to meet when you’ve only bought so many DATES? They give you no information, no pictures and they make the decisions. Consistently their reviews state over and over that clients were not set up with people who fit their criteria. Even when they’ve specified repeatedly what they are looking for. You know why? All the service has to do is throw how ever many people you’ve bought at you and they’ve met the contract. Really, does that sound like a matchmaking service???
Here’s what a REAL DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE should provide:
- Extensive profiles on each and every client;
- Current pictures of each and every client;
- A reasonable length contract allowing clients to meet their goals;
- A collaboration between client and Matchmaker;
- Client decides based on the aforementioned information who they would like to meet;
- Not wasting clients’ time on matches that don’t fit their criteria and preferences;
- Feedback following each introduction and following clients for up to 2 months while dating;
- Coaching before, during and after introductions.
THAT IS WHAT BON JOUR MATCHMAKING PROVIDES TO EACH AND EVERY CLIENT.
I’ve written many Posts about what makes a good client but after my interaction this morning with a current client who is the perfect example of a poor client I’ve decided to explain.
Before you meet anyone in Bon Jour you have to have a good relationship with me. I am your agent, coach, matchmaker and advocate. If our relationship is not good than more than likely you may not achieve the success you desire. We have to communicate clearly and as a client you MUST keep all information and pictures updated.
This morning it was like pulling teeth….first she writes that she is now available to meet people and there are no updates. Then she writes she moved but no address. Then she sends the address but with no zip code or specifics after prompting and I try to call her. Her cell is no longer a working number…REALLY????? So I write again asking for the correct number. She sends that and then says she got a puppy. Those are changes… then writes that she lost 8 lbs. but does not give me her current weight. So I ask again, she still has not given me that. These are obvious updates and should have been shared when they happened! Come on…
Then I say I need current pictures reflecting her weight loss and she sends me old pictures from before the weight loss. As of 4/11/19 she still has not sent me current pictures. THIS IS NOT AN INTERNET DATING SITE OR A DATING APP. Everything must be current and is in your best interest to be current!
Regarding pictures…one of the biggest benefits of Bon Jour Matchmaking is that I share pictures of all of my clients. They have to be current and preferably taken specifically for this endeavor. I don’t think that’s too much to ask when you are making both a financial and emotional investment with me.
I’m flattered that so many people decide to call me first when they are doing their due diligence researching “matchmaking” services. Let me start by saying that they all call themselves “matchmaking” services when in reality they are merely DATING services. DATING services sell packages of dates for a finite period of time then if you don’t meet “the one” they try to re-sign you. They have multiple “matchmakers” actually salespeople throwing their clients together with whomever so they meet the number on the contract. None of the “matchmakers” knows every client in the service, only the handful that they brought in. Continue reading “QUESTIONS YOU SHOULD ASK A DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE BEFORE YOU JOIN”
People constantly ask me whether matchmaking is lucrative and how much money I make. They seem to want to judge this vocation by monetary success rather than what the basis of my chosen vocation is which is how many people working with me have reached their life goal of finding a mate. The reason I don’t charge the types of fees other “matchmakers” charge is because that is not what it is about for me. The success of my clients is the yard stick with which I measure my success! NOT everything is about money…this is not my “job”, it is my calling which has little to do with the superficiality of wealth accumulation. But rather the satisfaction of achieving an illusive life dream for my fellow human beings.
NOTE: If your mentality is that it’s a numbers game and you wish to meet someone every week…this is NOT the service for you. This is a MATCHMAKING service NOT a dating service. It is VERY specific in introducing you ONLY to people who fit your criteria and preferences, and of course, you fit theirs. THAT is why it is so successful! Continue reading “Why Choose Bon Jour Matchmaking Service”
When I began my service in 1989 the only other service was Great Expectations. As a single 33 year old I didn’t like the structure or philosophy of GE so I did the total opposite in my service.
Prospective clients call me every day and one of the main comments they make is that after reading through this website they selected to call me instead of other services because I’m authentic. Such a really fantastic compliment. I started being different and have remained that way through the Internet dating sites, franchise dating services and Denver dating services. Continue reading “THE BEST DENVER MATCHMAKER SINCE 1989!”
I am often contacted by people calling themselves matchmakers, usually from outside of Colorado, wanting me to set up THEIR clients with my clients. I don’t know their clients, haven’t met or interviewed their client, don’t know the quality of their clients and don’t know them or their service.
SOME GENERAL ADVICE: Do not join a service who does not SHOW you profiles WITH pictures and that THEY decide who you are going to meet rather than you deciding. It should be a collaboration, not a dictatorship. Or that sells you packages of dates. I.e., 3 month contract for 3 matches. THAT IS NOT MATCHMAKING!
MY clients hire me because I vet all clients and have for 30 years! I don’t drag someone off the street or call other “matchmakers” to solicit people for them to meet knowing nothing about that person or that company. Not having met and interviewed them or qualified them for my clientele. Continue reading “BEWARE OF FAKE MATCHMAKERS ONLY IN IT FOR THE MONEY”