ANOTHER “MATCHMAKING” SERVICE TAKING MONEY WITHOUT CLIENTS

As I’ve written before, I receive emails like this from “matchmakers” throughout the country annually. Exactly like this one they don’t even bother to go to my website to see what my service is about because all they are interested in is looking for matches for clients they took money from with the promise of matches, yet have none. So, they have to contact other services to get them to set up THEIR clients!

Matchmaking Collective in Phoenix, AZ…if you want to collaborate with other services, you do that in advance of taking money from people, NOT afterwards then struggle to get another service to set up YOUR client!

I have no idea who they are, who their clients are and vice versa, they do not know me or anything about my clients! Yet they’ve taken money from people and are now scrambling to get others to find a match for their clients. Disgusting!!!

Again, this happens several times a year. The exact same scenario. In reading reviews of services throughout the country people complain that they’ve been told these services have clients in their city and once they pay…no clients. Disgusting!

I turn down people I don’t think I can assist for whatever reason. I have NEVER in 37 years claimed to have matches that I don’t have. It’s called ETHICS!

CELEBRITIES WHO HAVE CHOSEN BON JOUR MATCHMAKING TO FIND LOVE OVER 37 YEARS

I am going to list well-known people who were past clients of Bon Jour. Those listed by name are sadly now deceased. I’m not comfortable listing living celebrities by name…

  1. A sibling of one of the most iconic international performers from the 1960s;
  2. Chris Poole, Denver radio personality/Program Director (sadly died at age 35 of a drug overdose in 1990);
  3. Barry Fey (Feyline productions) twice at ages 56 and 74 chose Bon Jour;
  4. The President of one of Denver’s professional sports teams;
  5. Cynthia Hessin (Channels 6 and 7 during her career) chose Bon Jour twice;
  6. An astronaut/pilot living both in Colorado and Florida;
  7. Several meteorologists (Channels 4 and 7);
  8. High profile district attorney in one of the counties in Colorado;
  9. A sports anchor from Channel 2;
  10. A reporter from Channel 7;
  11. The owner of several iconic restaurants in Denver and Boulder;
  12. Two NFL players;
  13. A staff writer from The Rocky Mountain News;
  14. A staff writer from Colorado Business Magazine

It is exciting to work with these well-known folks and I am so appreciative that they chose Bon Jour to assist them in reaching their romantic goal.

I did receive a call from a very famous radio personality in Denver, however I declined to work with him due to his criteria and recent well documented relationship issues. So, I decline celebrities the same way I would decline anyone who calls and doesn’t fit for my clients.

37 YEARS OF MATCHMAKING HAS TAUGHT ME A LOT

Singles tend to think if they pay money it should work to find a relationship. Meeting the right person is only the first step in the process. That’s why in Bon Jour Matchmaking there is so much feedback and coaching (if needed) to take the bud of a meeting through to a full-blown permanent relationship.

If you are uncommunicative, you jump to conclusions quickly that may be inaccurate, you don’t make an effort than without my assistance surely any potential relationship will fail.

I’ve learned over these years how little people communicate with each other even though they claim to want a relationship. You need to share your expectations with that person, or they might inadvertently not meet them.

In at least 3/4 of the couples who married through Bon Jour, I had to share information with each client because they didn’t share it with each other. I had to correct misperceptions, or the relationship would not have moved forward. It’s much more than having people thrown at you and hoping for the best.

I repeatedly clarify on this site and when speaking to potential clients, this is a matchmaking service which means we are looking for “the one”. I am not interested in just throwing people at you to meet a package in a limited contract…that would be a dating service. Before you spend the money with any service think about your goal. Is it to meet a bunch of people and hope for the best with no assistance but a large financial investment? Or is it to find a permanent relationship with the help if need be of a seasoned 37-year veteran matchmaker with a track record of hundreds of marriages since 1989?

TRUST ANALYTICA continued

…Moreover, the permitting of a more extended contract until the right person is met allows for a more fruitful partnership. Many messages applaud Michele’s excellent advice and communication skills, describing her as “caring” and “professional” because she gives her opinions genuinely and shows commitment. Clients appreciate the service’s reasonable contract terms and its impressive preconditioning standards which clarify its focus on consumers. Bon Jour’s clients are also drawn by the promptness with which feedback is given to requests or any new individuals offered. The business model of Bon Jour Matchmaking is genuinely customer-centered and trust in its potential to achieve its purpose. For clients who are interested in the service, many reviews say Bon Jour Matchmaking should be the first place they consider.

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN DATING SERVICES AND MATCHMAKERS

Most people do not know or understand the difference between the two. BIG difference!

DATING SERVICES: Sell you a package of dates (ala dating service). Or they promise a certain number of dates during your contract, which is usually a limited timed contract.

MATCHMAKERS: Really should offer an open-ended contract as you never know when the right person will present themselves in the service. They ONLY match you with the most appropriate people who fit your criteria and you fit theirs. They SHOULD share profiles AND pictures of your prospects with you. Their goal is not to inundate you with matches, but to zero in on the best prospects to help assure success on both sides.

BIGGEST ASPECT OF BON JOUR IS THE COACHING!

My coaching is based on a few factors. One is my own extensive dating experience and what I’ve learned from that. Another is my clients’ dating experiences which further educates me and finally the direct feedback I receive from your match(es).

Some people have a perception of themselves a certain way and that’s how they present themselves to me. In some cases I find their perceptions are incorrect.

There are few if any venues where you can receive direct feedback from a person you are dating…this is one. I even cut and paste the feedback and share it to you, so you know exactly what that person is thinking and don’t have to take my word for it!

YOU CAN COUNT ON BON JOUR MATCHMAKING

You can count on Bon Jour Matchmaking NOT to sell my clients out!

Several times a year I receive either calls or emails from domestic “matchmakers” who took peoples’ money knowing they have no clients to introduce them to. Consequently, they contact matchmakers in those states asking them to “pimp out” their clients to fulfill that matchmaker’s contract!

But the most interesting contact I had recently was a man named “John”, just John, from an area code I’m not familiar with, saying his friend who is in Japan is a “matchmaker” and has Japanese women who want to meet American men. Would I set my male clients up with her women? She doesn’t speak English so how are we supposed to communicate “John”? Well, she’ll find someone to talk for her.

If you don’t have matches for the singles you sign, DON’T TAKE THEIR MONEY…it’s as simple as that! Don’t call me and ask me to pimp out my clients, never having met her, her clients, and she doesn’t know anything about me or my clients. So clearly these two don’t care about safety or quality merely about the bottom line.

If you consider a service other than Bon Jour, please be sure they have clients to set you up with who THEY have interviewed and done a background check on. That they are not contacting other services to find matches they’ve never met.

When singles call me in an age range that I don’t have enough clients to make the investment worthwhile, I suggest they call again in a few months to see whether there are new clients in that age range at that point in time. I DON’T TAKE THEIR MONEY until we both feel there are viable matches for them.

HERE WE GO AGAIN…

New “Matchmakers” Who Solicit From Established Services

Frequently I receive either phone calls or emails from new “matchmakers” either in other states who took money from people without having any clients in Colorado to set them up with or locally…consequently they contact local, established matchmakers looking for us to pimp out our clients to fulfill their contracts! I know nothing about their clients and they know nothing about mine. But they took people’s money regardless and I have to wonder if clients understand what is going on. During our FREE PHONE CONSULTATION if I see that I don’t have enough clients who fit your criteria at that particular time, I will suggest that you call back at a later date to see if I have them then. I don’t just take people to make money…it’s called ETHICS!

Last week I had a new local “matchmaker” call me to “collaborate” because they have no one to set their clients up with but took their money anyway. I have to meet, evaluate, interview and background check anyone who I set my clients up with. I have to have pictures and a full profile! THAT is what my clients are paying for!

That is not what these people are asking from me. They have already charged that person a large fee (even though they have no clients) and want to give me a small pittance to use my clientele. I don’t know these people (the matchmaker or her clients) and I won’t expose my clients to people I know nothing about firsthand!

NOW I TOTALLY GET WHAT CLIENTS REFER TO AS A WASTE OF TIME DATING APPS

I have so many singles call me who have tried many dating apps and express frustration and more. Years ago, I tried the online dating sites myself and found they left something to be desired.

So, I thought I would go on an app now and see exactly what these singles are talking about. OMG!!!

Within seconds of being on there, even though I specified the age range I was interested in, several guys in their 20s contacted me. I also specified location and most of the men who contacted me lived in other countries! WOW, what a waste of time, energy and money (I did the free version). I didn’t even keep the profile on for 24 hours because I was constantly receiving emails of interest from totally inappropriate people, assuming they were legitimate profiles and not fake.

So, now I really get the total frustration, anger and disappointment singles have shared when calling for Bon Jour Matchmaking!

BEWARE…WHEN SEARCHING FOR A MATCHMAKING SERVICE

With 37+ years of experience in the matchmaking profession, I can tell you what types of matchmaking services should be avoided right off the bat.

Services that do not post their fees: There are a few reasons why a service does not post their fees on their website. High priced services; services that require you to come in to discuss becoming a client; AND waiting to find out what you are worth so that they will increase the fee for you if they perceive you have “money”.

Services with multiple “matchmakers”: If there are several people “matchmaking” they have not met every client in the service. If they don’t know every client, how can they matchmake? They are generally sales people who call matchmakers, who only know the people they themselves have sold.

Fancy Shmancy Websites: Guess who’s paying for that? Many of those are fluff with no real substance, they just look expensive (which they are), but that’s all. All overhead contributes to your fee!

Services with multi plan structures: The least expensive, which are still pricey, offer very little control on the part of the client. Paying more may give you more options, but price has nothing to do with a client’s success.

Services that won’t quote their fees on the phone: These services know they are unreasonably expensive and know that if they quote the fee by phone, the potential client may not pursue. Clearly, they know they are extravagant so they are embarrassed to tell you, especially if you’ve spoken with more reasonable services.

Those are the top red flags to help you assess right off the bat whether the service is worth your time. Remember, I have 37+ years of experience in this business and field and know what I’m talking about. I receive feedback from callers and clients of Bon Jour Matchmaking about other services they’ve called and/or used.