DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICES WITH DATA BASES…ASK THIS QUESTION…WHAT IS DIFFERENT ABOUT YOUR SERVICE THEN THE OTHERS?

Most other Denver matchmakers accumulate singles into what they refer to as their “data base”. They may not even charge to do that if they feel that assisting you is a long shot. It’s more to be able to tell prospective paying clients how many people they represent (but they leave out that many of those haven’t made a financial commitment).

These services do not have enough clients so they use this to prop up their meager clientele. I guess it’s worth doing if there is no charge. They generally do not do an extensive interview on you or the others, don’t present you with a profile or pictures…and really isn’t that what you are there for? To find out more about these individuals in depth unlike the apps and dating sites?

Also, when judging whether to join a service, ask, what’s different about your service that I can’t get from any other? There is a new service in Denver whose website is exactly the same as all the others except has no info…age range, fee structure, how she actually matchmakes. There is no phone number to call, no email address…you have to fill out her forms to get a response from her.

What’s the point of being in services that basically “house” singles to advance their own agenda which, again, is to be able to tell paying prospects how many clients they represent?

Be discriminating with these…your time, your emotions and your future are worth more than this…

SOME ADVICE WHEN READING THROUGH REVIEWS (In general)

I’d say first keep in mind how long the company has been in business. If it’s 5 years or less there shouldn’t be lots of negative reviews. If it’s 20+ or 30+ years you have to realize how many people they have worked with and even just by percentages there are going to be people who are unhappy for whatever reason.

Also Yelp, in particular, hides many, many, many 5 star reviews if you don’t buy their services…

Consider the source (the reviewer) when reading those negative reviews. Are they vicious, taking shots at things that have nothing to do with service but just to be petty? Does their review sound like it came from someone who is immature based on what they focus on and/or how it’s written?

Did the company respond to the review? Be sure to read that and see which version makes more sense. Businesses like Bon Jour Matchmaking Service who have worked with hundreds or thousands of people over 32 years are going to have those who have a gripe about something…as well as the happy or very happy clients. It’s just numbers…

Certainly matchmaking services often have a high number of negative reviews if they’ve been in business for awhile in that you’re working so personally with people. Some people feel that it’s a good service if they’ve met quality people and received good feedback and coaching, even if they haven’t met “the one”. Others are unhappy unless they meet “the one” and get married. So consider that as well.

I hope this post will be helpful for you whatever business you are checking out.

QUESTIONS TO ASK WHEN CONSIDERING A DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE

Every week I receive calls from singles who have used or spoken to other local Denver matchmaking services. What shocks me every time is the few questions these people ask the other services. Maybe because I conduct at least a 1 hour preliminary phone consultation they think of more questions to ask me…I don’t know. But these are the types of questions you should ask when looking for a Denver matchmaker.

  1. Does the person who will be matchmaking me know ALL of the clients?
  2. Have they interviewed and met with every client?
  3. What are the different contract lengths?
  4. Do I get to view a profile of each client?
  5. Are there pictures of each client that I view?
  6. Who makes the decision on who I meet…the matchmaker and/or me?
  7. Do you vet the people I will be meeting or just grab singles where you can find them to match with me?
  8. Do you do a background check?
  9. Do you share the background check with me…even generally?
  10. Is this truly a matchmaking service or a dating service?
  11. IF it’s matchmaking why am I buying a “package of dates”?
  12. Is there coaching to help me succeed with my matches?

So I will answer all those questions for you in Bon Jour Matchmaking Service:

  1. and 2. I meet with each client in-person and interview every client.
  2. Same.
  3. Every client has an open ended contract.
  4. Clients view a 6 page profile of every client.
  5. Each client has a minimum of 6 pictures which are shared with perspective matches.
  6. We collaboratively decide who are the best matches but ultimately the client has the last word.
  7. Clients are ONLY matched with other clients having their profile, pictures and having done a background check on each. All clients are vetted both for my safety and that of the clients.
  8. Yes, background checks are done on every single who calls me for the service whether they become a client or not.
  9. I do not specifically “share” the background check other than anything interesting. If there is something negative I may not accept them as a client.
  10. This is an old fashioned matchmaking service.
  11. There are no packages of anything, this is matchmaking. You may meet as many or few people as you are interested in who feel the same. But my goal is to hit the perfect match with the first or second introduction.
  12. There is as much coaching as you need to help you succeed. What’s the point of introducing you to people and then having you make the same mistakes you’ve always made?

IT USED TO BE ONLY MEN, BUT NOW IT’S WOMEN TOO

First of all, remember I’ve been matchmaking for 31+ years so I have a lot of history to draw from. When I share info about singles who call me and either become clients or not I am referring strictly to MY clientele NOT the whole world.

Over these many years I have gotten calls from men 55+ who are dead set on only meeting women 35-45 or so. Of course it varies depending on the person but usually 15-20 years younger. I choose not to work with those men in that my clients in that age range are only interested in age appropriate men. Not a judgment call on my part merely the facts about my female clients. That scenario has been going on for years.

BUT in the past about 3 years I have been getting calls from women 55+ who say they’ve been dating men 10 and 15 years younger since they look so youthful themselves and are so energetic. Well, the same goes for them. My men who are that much younger are not interested in women 10-15 years older. So I decline to work with them as well.

This is a fairly new phenomenon recently with the women. I don’t know when there was that switch but I can’t help women in that mindset any more than I can help men. My feeling is the reason they are coming to me (both sexes) is that dating people so much younger obviously isn’t working out…so why would you come in here and do the same thing that isn’t working?

WHY CLIENTS SAY THEY CHOSE BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE

After speaking with Michele I felt confident that she was skilled at her profession. Dr. D

She seemed more sincere. Not a money mill! Brad K.

The personal attention. With It’s Just Lunch I felt as if they didn’t even look at my profile. Daren, Esq.

The reviews and Michele’s interaction with the clients. Patrick A.

I think Michele works hard to find someone who is a good fit. Dave A.

I was impressed with the length of time that Michele has spent in business in the Denver area-it’s clear that this is her calling. I also thought that the open-ended contract was unique and shows that she’s really committed to finding the right match for people, not just limiting your matches to who is immediately available. Taylor H.

I was impressed by Michele’s personalized and localized approach. I appreciate that she meets with each and every one of her clients. Kate D., Phd

I want to find someone to share my life with and appreciate the hands on, personal approach. Julie C.

Because it feels very personalized and isn’t a sales pitch to take your money. Nicole B.

OMG LOOK WHAT DENVER MATCHMAKERS ARE CHARGING!

This information was taken directly from the VIDA website:

KRIS KENNY CONNECTIONS:

Around $3,500 for 6 months, $8,400 for 12 months, and a “VIP” 1-year membership starts at $15,000. Clients typically get a minimum of 1 match per month.

KELLEHER INTERNATIONAL:

Starts around $25,000 and can go higher than $150,000. Cost depends on the number of cities you’d like matchmakers to include in the search, as well as a few other factors. No matter which membership package you choose, you’ll get 13 months worth of search time, and a full year’s worth of pause time.

LUMA:

Having a matchmaker scout for highly compatible singles requires a premium membership, which starts around $5,000. Membership prices can top out north of $50,000, depending on the level of service you’d like.

CALIBER MATCH:

Being listed in the pool of Denver singles is free, but it’s a passive membership – you’ll only be matched when you fit someone else’s criteria. If you want a matchmaker to look for your ideal partner, you’ll need to pay for a Premier membership.

Paid memberships start around $8,500 for 6 months, and $15,000 for 12 months of matchmaking services.

VIDA SELECT:

Clients pay for matchmaking services by the month, rather than committing to a long-term contract. Monthly packages run between $495 and $1,695.

Compiled from VIDA Select.

BON JOUR MATCHMAKING: Not Listed on That Site

ONE-TIME investment fee with open-ended contract ranging from $3,000 to $4,000. Per introduction fee of $35 on both sides of the introduction.

NOTE: There’s a new service in town who runs the same way as all the other services. No profiles, no pictures, no experience and a very young owner charging $5,000 for a 6 month contract! She is currently collecting singles in a data base.

WHO IS MICHELE THE MATCHMAKER FIELDS?

Born and raised in Wilmington, Delaware I moved to Denver in 1981. I had never been here, did not know anyone here and did not have a job. Just showed up bright eyed and bushy tailed…like any 25 year old.

From 25 to 33 I had a variety of jobs but primarily was a legal secretary. Excited to be in this big city with so many options and people, I dated veraciously which in hindsight may have been my mistake. After 8 marriage proposals I never really met the “right” one for me…so I know that the “numbers game” is just that…a game not worth playing.

As a lifelong insomniac I realized that working specific hours was making it worse so decided to start my own business with my own hours. The only service then was GE and as a single myself looked at their structure and decided to do the total opposite thus creating my niche which has flourished for 31 years!

During all this dating and working I volunteered as a rape crisis counselor for RAAP, a counselor for Safehouse for Battered Women and a bereavement counselor for a hospice. I also was involved in fundraising through golf tournaments such as the NFL Alumni Association and the Restaurant Association.

I have a PhD. in dating and relationships from 40 years of doing so unlike someone who has been married for years and doesn’t know the landscape or the current dating apps and internet dating sites. I can totally relate to the frustrations, disappointments, excitement, anticipation and all that goes with trying to find your life partner. Thus allowing me to counsel, console and hand hold my clients during this process. Also to make sure that each match has the best chance by clarifying, correcting and sharing communication between clients so this delicate match has every chance of succeeding.

Here’s your matchmaker from 1989 to 2020…

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BON JOUR IS ALL IN UNTIL YOU ACHIEVE YOUR GOAL

As far as I know Bon Jour Matchmaking is, and has been, the only Denver matchmaking service that has offered for 30+ years an open-ended contract FREE OF CHARGE to EVERY client.

What is the value of an open-ended contract? There is no way to know when the “right” person for you will come in so to have a limited contract that a company continues to try to resign you to make fees is worthless. Let’s say you have a 6 month contract with another service and the “perfect” person for you comes in in month 7…too bad for you!

In addition I do not waste your time setting you up with people who do not fit the criteria you’ve set forth. I adhere very closely to that (so be careful what you stipulate) unlike the other Denver matchmakers (read their reviews, they are consistent how they’ve been set up with people who don’t remotely fit what they’ve stipulated).

You already know that to find the right person has taken time or you wouldn’t be reading this. It may or may not take time in here as well. My goal is to find that person on the first or second match…but that may take time…or not. Just be realistic…I’m a Matchmaker NOT a magician.

The longest I’ve worked with a client was 11 years…and I did get her married in that 11th year. The man she married only met his first choice, her, right after he came in and married her a year later! There was some coaching involved to help this relationship progress. I’ll hang in there as long as you will…

There are MANY different and exceptional aspects to Bon Jour but the open-ended contract is at the top of the list.

THE VALUE OF BON JOUR IS NOT JUST YOUR GOAL

There are so many valuable aspects to Bon Jour Matchmaking before and during your courtship with that special person.

They are listed throughout this site and if you’ve used other local services or even researched them these differences are glaringly obvious.

When considering any service it is a 50/50 proposition. As a client you should be realistic in that your participation, keeping info up-to-date, your feedback, your interaction with clients and YOUR choice in Bon Jour as to who you meet (and don’t meet) is heavily on your side of the equation. It’s NOT just about writing a check and then being a non-participant. Also, the ONE-time investment fee regardless of how long you are in the service!

In Bon Jour you first and foremost have an open-ended contract. So far the longest I’ve worked with someone is 11 years and she did end up marrying a client at the end of that time. If it had taken longer for the right person to appear then we would have gone longer.

The abundance of information you receive on each prospect and the fact that YOU decide your interest level in meeting someone. The immense amount of coaching, the feedback directly from the source, the fact that I respond IMMEDIATELY or ASAP to calls and emails from clients and always have.

Just like with friends, colleagues, dating and even family our relationship may go through some growth spirts and ups and downs. Practicing professional hands-on, old fashioned matchmaking for 30+ years I’ve run into all kinds of individuals. Obviously most of those relationships and interactions have gone well or I wouldn’t still be here. But there certainly have been people that were unhappy, difficult, unrealistic or we just eventually didn’t click. You get the straight scoop in here which is what my clients want, tempered with tact (hopefully). So when reading reviews keep all of this in mind and consider all that you get from this service that you do not get anywhere else.

REVIEW BY “LIFE COACH” STEPHANIE LINDQUIST

Having been in business with Bon Jour Matchmaking Service for 30 years I realize and so should you that I have and will run across people who don’t get it, have their own agenda playing and are just not reasonable, mature or nice people. Unfortunately in this line of career I run across more of those than normal.

People who misunderstand, misinterpret and are just out to bash others trying to do the right thing. The Internet gives them ample opportunity to voice their own biased experience and opinion all over the place. That is certainly the case with Stephanie Lindquist. Imagine someone expecting a business owner to be available every minute of the hours they offer when there is a myriad of responsibilities that owner takes care of. That is exactly WHY I have the vast amount of hours that I have!

I never even spoke with Stephanie Lindquist and she has nothing better to do than write nasty reviews when she didn’t have time to call for the FREE telephone consultation but clearly has the time to write nasty reviews and place them all over the Internet! Again, I made the right call in very short order after an email interaction with her that I did not want to even talk with her or represent her. So she is totally lying when she says SHE decided not to use the service.  I don’t want to embarrass her by sharing HER email response when I merely said I couldn’t conduct the phone consultation when she asked for it. It clearly says on here there is no need to schedule that consultation, just call. So she isn’t great at following directions either which would make her a less than desirable client.

I really felt the need to clarify and remind you the consumer that the best way to judge a business is to go by the majority of reviews that say the same thing. That’s what I do when judging whether to use a business.

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