BEWARE OF FAKE MATCHMAKERS ONLY IN IT FOR THE MONEY

I am often contacted by people calling themselves matchmakers, usually from outside of Colorado, wanting me to set up THEIR clients with my clients.  I don’t know their clients, haven’t met or interviewed their client, don’t know the quality of their clients and don’t know them or their service.

SOME GENERAL ADVICE:  Do not join a service who does not SHOW you profiles WITH pictures and that THEY decide who you are going to meet rather than you deciding.  It should be a collaboration, not a dictatorship.  Or that sells you packages of dates.  I.e., 3 month contract for 3 matches.  THAT IS NOT MATCHMAKING!

MY clients hire me because I vet all clients and have for 30 years!  I don’t drag someone off the street or call other “matchmakers” to solicit people for them to meet knowing nothing about that person or that company.  Not having met and interviewed them or qualified them for my clientele. Continue reading “BEWARE OF FAKE MATCHMAKERS ONLY IN IT FOR THE MONEY”

Colorado veteran charged nearly $10,000 by dating service

I was sent this thread from a client who thought I might find it of interest…not knowing I’ve seen this type of thing before about this service.

https://kdvr.com/2018/11/05/colorado-veteran-charged-nearly-10000-by-dating-service/amp/

Yet another investigation of this “dating service”.  Although the practices of Mile Hi Singles a/k/a Great Expectations make me sick, consumers need to be more diligent.  As I’ve said before many times on this website, you need to be a good consumer and ask a lot of questions, check reviews (which are horrible on this service), do not give out your credit card info ever actually.  If you can’t afford to write a check in full or pay cash then you can’t afford the service!  That holds true with any purchase but especially with dating services.

I have been professionally matchmaking in Denver for 30 years in January, if you have a question about a local service call me BEFORE joining and maybe I can give you some insight based on what my clients have said and people who call who have used those services told me.  Also just plain common sense things you should look for and be aware of.  303-756-8106

SINGLES USE THIS DENVER MATCHMAKER FIRST FOR COACHING AND SECOND TO MEET THEIR MATE

Many of my clients have no trouble meeting people, however they do have trouble sealing the deal.  Being an objective source to their actions I am in a perfect position to point out behavior that is undermining their success.

For example, texting has been around for at least 10 years but I strongly discourage clients from texting for the first two months.  My experience is that once that door is open it is used way too often.  Texting is not the way to cultivate a new relationship.  In all that time I have never had a client in a new match open by texting.  I specify in my instructions to CALL.  If you are not in a position to call i.e., being on vacation without phone access, then they should inform me and I will pass that along.  That is my role, to fill the gaps when they arise.  Just had a client text his new match.  Really foolish.  That is no way to introduce yourself to someone you’ve never met or spoken with.  This is the first time that has happened and hopefully the last.

This is an old fashioned matchmaking service and that is not just a slogan.  Everything done in Bon Jour Matchmaking is organic.  The only electronic actions are the website and emails.  I do not even text my clients.  We either talk or email or both.  That is a relationship, not texting.

People fall into comfortable habits when dating without giving it much thought.  One of my most important roles is to point out mistakes they make repeatedly based on feedback  from their matches and 30 years experience being the go-between for my clients.  I wish I had someone do that for me when I was dating!

Unlike your friends, I am not guessing what someone is thinking.  I ask and report back verbatim so there is no wondering, guessing or lamenting.  Really, does it get any better than that????

WHAT’S THE BIG DEAL ABOUT THIS DENVER MATCHMAKER vs. INTERNET DATING SITES?

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Wow, where to start…

Because I meet with and interview every client in my service I can speculate that they have no criminal history (which I check prior to any interview), that they are sincere and serious about finding a mate, that they can afford the service (Hours, Locations and Fees) and that they are single.

No Internet Dating Site can claim any of the above.

The pictures that people post on those sites can be years old, the person only showing their head usually because they are a larger individual, people wearing hats in every picture usually because they are bald and other obscure pics.  In Bon Jour Matchmaking Service every client profile has a minimum of 6 snapshots that are CURRENT and represent honestly what that person looks like.  They are comprised of head shots and full length shots.

No Internet Dating Site can claim that.

For the most part men on Internet sites merely view the pictures and don’t bother to read the profile you so painstakingly wrote.  In Bon Jour I am either there in person when the client is reading your profile or on the phone reading the profile to them.  That way if a client reads into something incorrectly or jumps to inaccurate conclusions by something you wrote I am there to immediately correct those errors.  That is a vitally important concept in Bon Jour.  If someone reads into your profile incorrectly on the Internet Dating Sites they merely go on to the next person.  And that’s the end of that…not the case in Bon Jour.

No Internet Dating Site can claim that.

Early on in a new relationship there can be (and often are) miscommunications, misinterpretations and a lack of communication.  I am right there to correct those to give this fragile new relationship a fair shot.  Many, many of my married clients had those issues and I was there to catch the relationship before it fell through the cracks.

No Internet Dating Site can claim that.

That is just the tip of the iceberg.  There are so many more benefits to working with one matchmaker who has been matchmaking for almost 30 years!

 

A TOTALLY DIFFERENT DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE

I’m getting ready to celebrate my 30th anniversary practicing Denver matchmaking.  I don’t need any more practice I have it down LOL.  Some facts about Bon Jour Matchmaking Service:  (Please click on the blue print to go to Posts or Pages)

  • This is an old fashioned matchmaking service with ONE professional Denver matchmaker;
  • My goal is NOT to set you up on a million “dates”…but rather to zero in on what you are looking for in a prospective partner and hopefully find that person in one or two matches;
  • I strongly suggest NOT texting in the first two months you start dating…that is not the way to cultivate a new relationship;
  • I do a lot of coaching in hopes of avoiding the pitfalls that often happen early in a relationship;
  • Coaching is also to help clients avoid misunderstandings, miscommunications, lack of communication and jumping to inaccurate conclusions by something they’ve read;
  • At Bon Jour you receive as much information as I can share so that you may make an informed decision on who you would like to meet;
  • As a client YOU decide based on the profiles I share and my input who intrigues you and resonates with you to meet;
  • Clients do not view every profile.  As your agent I present your profile only when that person fits what you are looking for and vice versa;
  • Having an open ended contract helps to assure your success in Bon Jour.  It may not happen right away so this gives you the gift of time to find the right partner;
  • There is ONE investment fee at the time of the interview, then a per introduction fee when you are introduced to someone (on both sides).  So regardless of how long you are in the service there are no other fees!;
  • I am a hands-on matchmaker in all aspects of what you would consider a matchmaker to be;
  • I turn down more potential clients than I accept because all new clients must fit what the clientele is looking for.  I will not waste your time, money and emotion working with someone who is not a fit for my clients;
  • This service has pictures of each client along with their profiles so that you have as much information as possible when deciding who to meet;
  • Last but not least…I am looking for clients who make a commitment to Bon Jour.  Who keep their pictures and info up-to-date and work in collaboration with me.

So, if this fits for you please call me for your FREE PHONE CONSULTATION at 303-756-8106.

 

INTERNET DATING SITES vs. MICHELE THE MATCHMAKER FIELDS

Positives of Internet Dating Sites

Convenience, Easy to Lie, Free or Lower Fees, Meet as many people as will meet you

Negatives of Internet Dating Services

Easy to Lie, People who are just playing around on the site, Old or fake pictures, People jumping to wrong conclusions about what you’ve written, Clients are not held accountable, No one there to correct misconceptions, No one to assist you in directing your search more accurately, No one to counsel you when people don’t respond to your winks, smiles or notes, No way to know whether people are felons because they may use fake names, No way to know whether they are married or seriously involved with someone already, No one to let you know why they disappeared, monthly fee…and the list goes on.

People often ask how many clients I have or how many are in their age range.  These are frequently people who have used Internet Dating Sites.  Well if you’ve used those and there are hundreds of people on them but you are still calling me then doesn’t that scream that it’s NOT a numbers game?  It’s not the amount of people…it’s about finding the right person.

POSITIVES OF MICHELE THE MATCHMAKER FIELDS

One time investment fee, open-ended contract, current pictures of all clients, extensive profile taken by Matchmaker Michele personally of each client, clients are held accountable for their actions, people who are genuinely serious about marriage and/or a permanent relationship, counseling and coaching for each client, a matchmaker who knows every client and has interviewed every client, hands-on matchmaker available 7 days a week, clients who you know are not married or seriously involved, reasonable fee(s) (per introduction fee of $35 on both sides), direct feedback from the matchmaker about what your match thought and is thinking going forward if they have not been clear or communicative, a matchmaker with 29 years of experience, a matchmaker who ONLY accepts new clients who fit what her current clientele is looking for, ongoing support from your personal matchmaker.

NEGATIVES OF MICHELE THE MATCHMAKER FIELDS

Each client works solely and directly with Matchmaker Michele, there is a protocol in her service to make sure things run smoothly, you are required to tell the truth and update any information that changes including updating pictures, investment fee is required at the time of the interview in full, because Michele the Matchmaker is a REAL matchmaker and zeros in on the RIGHT match for each client clients need to have patience for however long the process takes in this open-ended contract.

The above are not necessarily negatives depending on your personal perception and opinions.

 

 

29 YEARS OF DENVER MATCHMAKING IS WORTH A LOT

Anyone who calls for their FREE phone consultation has as much time as they need to think about whether this service is right for them, they are prepared and ready to take this step and to call and chat with me as many times as needed BEFORE making an appointment.

But once you schedule an appointment, I send you info and you respond likewise, come in and sign both contracts which CLEARLY STATE NO REFUND OF FEES that’s it.  If you then feel you’ve made a mistake, it is YOUR mistake.  I have held up my end of the bargain by talking with you as much as needed, preparing you for the interview and success in the service, gone through the trouble of preparing for your in-person interview in my home office, conducting the two hour interview which includes sharing CONFIDENTIAL client profiles I expect a grown up professional person to follow through.

If for whatever reason you decide not to then that is your mistake and your loss.  You have to be an adult and recognize that.  NO REFUNDS…29 years of experience in this field and all that I go through before you even come in qualifies me to not have to refund any monies because you became insecure, flaked out, got an email from an ex that upset you or whatever.  I have fulfilled my side of the contract and intend to do so going forward.  If you don’t wish to then you have to take the loss as a lesson and move on!

IT’S A WIN/WIN FOR YOU AT BON JOUR MATCHMAKING

Now in my 30th year practicing matchmaking I’ve developed a new plan that can make you your investment fee back if the situation fits.

After you become a client of this Denver matchmaking service, if you meet someone either in or outside the service and cultivate a long and hopefully permanent relationship I’m inviting you to either GIFT or SELL your place in Bon Jour.  This also applies if you move out of state.  If you SELL your place you cannot sell it for more than you paid, so you would have to ask me what you paid if you don’t remember.  The prospective buyer MUST MEET ALL BON JOUR MATCHMAKING CRITERIA first or I will NOT honor the sale.  There are NO REFUNDS from Bon Jour Matchmaking Service or Michele Fields.  If you gift your place in Bon Jour there will be a $500 transfer fee for the new client.

There will be a transfer fee (for them) of $500 to initiate another 2-hour interviewing process and view confidential profiles and pictures with this new client who is taking your place.

Those conditions are:

  1. The person must live in Colorado and spend at least half their time in the Denver or surrounding cities;
  2. That person MUST be totally single (not separated) or in any type of serious relationship which includes living together;
  3. That person must be in the age range of 30-70;
  4. Buyer should be reasonably fit or they will not be very successful;
  5. Buyer must be well educated or equivalent business acumen;
  6. Buyer cannot be an alcoholic or drug user or seller;
  7. Buyer must be willing to pay a fee for their initial interview;
  8. Female buyers do best a size 8 or under;
  9. Male buyers do best 5’8″ or taller;
  10. MUST HAVE A CLEAN BACKGROUND and preferably be a professional.

This person should be someone you would like to meet while you were in the service and fit for your own criteria.  The sale would be totally between you and the buyer but you must run them by me before selling so as to make sure they fit in and this is the right service for them.

I try to make Bon Jour Matchmaking as winning a situation for everyone as I possibly can.

I DEAL IN REALITY

This service deals in honesty and reality.  If you are calling to hear someone only confirm what you think this is probably not the service for you.  I accept or reject clients STRICTLY according to the preferences and criteria of my clients.

A woman called this morning and when I asked her age (63) she right away said I DO NOT WANT TO MEET MEN THAT AGE.  I LOOK GREAT AND THEY WOULD NEVER KNOW MY AGE!  My answer is first of all I’m not accepting women over 55 at the moment because men in that age range often want to date much younger women so obviously they are not going to go to 63 regardless of what you look like.  She then proceeded to tell me how superficial my men are after just declaring the EXACT SAME THING!  She wasn’t going to give anyone near her age range a chance…because she wants what she wants…no different than the men.

I merely try to explain my clientele, compare it with what you are looking for and tell the truth.  I know that is a novel concept these days but I actually tell the truth as it is at that point in time.  My experience with both men and women is they want what they want for the most part.  If I find that not in line with my clients or unrealistic I will suggest this is not the service for you.

Even after 28 years I’m still learning about people.  Many people just want someone to agree with their perspective and if you don’t they get mad.  If that is you and you don’t want the facts and the truth save yourself a phone call and I wish you the best of luck.  There are tons of local services who will gladly say whatever you want to hear to get your money…

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