There are services, one in particular, that are branching off in many directions basically to make more money. These services cannot possibly be focusing on matchmaking their singles when they are branching out into other business ventures.
Also, singles, don’t confuse Denver matchmaking services with Denver dating services. There is a definite difference between the two. Click on the above link for an explanation.
The first thing a single should decide when considering hiring a professional is…are you looking for a dating service or a matchmaking service. When someone calls me and asks how many people they will meet a week or a month, I know instantly they are really looking for a dating service. That is NOT Bon Jour Matchmaking.
The goal of Bon Jour clients is marriage or a lifetime partner. They are not looking to “date” a ton of people, they have likely already done that either through dating apps or other local dating services.
If you go to the HOME page on this site, there are several links that will assist you in deciding whether Bon Jour Matchmaking is what you are looking for. I am focused on each and every client because matchmaking is what I’ve done for 34 years!
I was contacted this week by a New York writer doing an article on “high end” matchmaking services. He wanted my take on several comments to him by some “high end” matchmakers.
He shared that one of the “matchmakers” said she has 2,000 women and only 30 men. Well, I knew right away what was going on there. She isn’t charging the women and she’s charging the men twice as much to make up for the lack of income from the women. There is a trend in that direction with some companies.
Then he shared that a “matchmaker” told him the women aren’t her clients since they don’t pay. She only considers the men her clients, since they were charged. I’m sure if you ask the women who signed up with her, they would “think” that she’s representing them. But, apparently, not true. She’s just collecting women to throw at her paying male clients. That exists here in Denver as well.
He mentioned “schools” that teach people how to be matchmakers. What do I think of those? I said they are a money-making gimmick. It’s not rocket science…you do your homework by studying various matchmaking services (and now there are hundreds) and decide which aspects of those appeal to you, fit your personality as a business owner and matchmaker and off you go. If you know anything about websites and SEOs that’s how you can start marketing. This concept of teaching has only been around for maybe 10 years? I started in 1989 and was the first solo, old-fashioned matchmaker. I had only 1 service to study that was impersonal and expensive and that was enough to start a 34-year career!
Also, I tried to hammer home the point that singles need to be good consumers. If you are looking for a matchmaking service and the title of the service has the word dating…it’s NOT a matchmaking service, it’s a dating service!
He asked if I felt that those “high end” services were giving my profession a bad name…YES!
Because these terms are used interchangeably, most people don’t realize there is a significant difference between dating and matchmaking services.
The most obvious is…if the name says “dating” then it IS a dating service. What that means is they sell you a package of DATES at an exorbitant fee for a limited period of time. You are not shown profiles or pictures and THEY make the decision who you meet. Now think about it…they don’t know you, don’t know your taste…how can they possibly set you up with an appropriate match, unless it’s dumb luck or fate. Read the reviews of this structure of service, that’s what they say repeatedly. They were not introduced to people who fit what they specified in the interview.
Dating services like to use the term MATCHMAKER(S) to appeal to serious minded singles EVEN THOUGH THEY ARE JUST DATING SERVICES.
A real MATCHMAKER gives you an open-ended contract as there is no way to know when the “right” person will come in. They may be there when you interview, but if not, at least you have the gift of time to find the right person without being charged a new “sign up” fee. A real MATCHMAKER has an extensive profile on each client and several pictures to share with each potential match. Client and Matchmaker work together to choose who are the best and most appropriate matches. Matchmaker has interviewed every client, in-person and has a track record of marriages as well as years in business.
Bon Jour Matchmaking Service has been in business since 1989 with over 300 marriages!
So, there you have it…be careful, consider all options and select which structure fits the best for you personally.