Bon Jour Matchmaking Service

Rather than feeling like people perceive you as desperate or a loser, you should really feel that because you are so special and have so much going for you that you’ve chosen to have the exclusive representation of a professional matchmaker!

Working with a Denver matchmaker is not something you should feel embarrassed about.  Do you feel embarrassed that you have a CPA do your taxes?  That you have a hairdresser cut and/or style your hair?  That you have a stock broker manage your investments?  You choose to work with professionals who excel in their fields so that you will get the best results.  Why would that be any different with a professional Denver matchmaker?

You would think people would be more embarrassed to admit they met on the Internet dating sites, dating apps or in a bar.  In this day and age those venues are more for the average…

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I was watching Colorado Voices on PBS tonight and Barry Fey was a main focus. I was honored that Barry chose to work with me two different times, about 16 years apart. Sadly, he was a client of mine when he died.

Along with Barry, during my 34 (almost) year career in matchmaking, the sister of a music icon became a client. I don’t want to share her name for privacy reasons (she’s still living). When her name was given to me years ago as a referral, hearing her last name I only knew of one person with that name…so I asked the client if they were related and he said yes, they were sisters. This woman ended up being so difficult to work with bordering on nasty, that after her interview I called her and told her I would refund her money and delete her as a client. She begged me not to and sent me a note of apology along with a signed copy of a book she had written on her sister. My first decision not to represent her turned out to be the right one ultimately.

Another national celebrity from many years ago I met at Rick’s Cafe. He was the President of one Colorado’s major sports teams and went on to be the President or CEO of the Staple Center. Unfortunately, that didn’t work out very well either and I dropped him.

Although the concept of working with major celebrities is exciting, many have such big egos and are so difficult, it’s ultimately not worth it. The local celebrities I’ve worked with have been much easier to deal with and more fun. Most have been local TV anchors, sports anchors and meteorologists.


Bon Jour Matchmaking Service

Since 1989 I’ve observed the types of people who have the most success working with me.  Contrary to popular belief they are not the most beautiful or handsome, in fact they are usually average to a bit above average.  They are not the richest men, they are realistic men and women.  They pay attention to the feedback I give them and suggestions I make to improve their success.  Bon Jour Matchmaking does not accept people who are married or separated.  So below is a short list of the qualities that will make a single successful in the Denver matchmaking market:

1.Realistic– If you come in with the expectation that you can place your order and expect that person to either currently be on file waiting for you or that I can conjure them up you are not being realistic.You know your strengths and weaknesses and you should…

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Bon Jour Matchmaking Service

After a 33 year career of Denver matchmaking it is clear to me that my clients are so patient and willing to wait for the right person to come along.  To help them with that goal I give every client an open ended contract, meaning they are a client until….until they meet that right person who goes the distance.

More than half of the marriages through Bon Jour Matchmaking Service happened at that first interview when a new client was presented with the perfect match.  I lit the fire, and the rest is history.  But others have taken longer on one side or both.  Remember, this is matchmaking NOT buying a package of dates (that’s a dating service).  Thus, several things need to match up on both sides and then have chemistry.  But the majority of marriages have come from the first or second match made through Bon Jour…

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Marry the First or Second Match?

Bon Jour Matchmaking Service

What does that mean?

Throughout the 32 year history of Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, the majority of the 300+ couples who married sealed the deal with either their first or second introduction.  NO that doesn’t mean you HAVE to marry the first or second person you meet.  My goal is to be so discriminating in matching people who fit each other’s preferences and criteria that regardless of how long it takes for those matches to present themselves they will be so spot on that they culminate in marriage.

I am writing this post to clarify this statement in that it has been misinterpreted a couple of times.  There is no pressure or requirement to marry the first or second person you meet.  This is merely an observation from over a quarter of a century of matchmaking in Denver.

A matchmaking service is not a dating service.  A matchmaker, by…

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Bon Jour Matchmaking Service

  1. Bon Jour: One matchmaker who has interviewed EVERY client face-to-face/Local Services: Multiple “matchmakers” who only know the clients they’ve sold and have not met and interviewed all clients;
  2. Bon Jour: Every client is interviewed in the privacy of my office face-to-face/Local Services: Many of these do zoom interviews or have people fill out forms on the computer. Many interview in public places with no privacy;
  3. Bon Jour: Every client has a 6-page profile along with a minimum of 6 current pictures/Local Services: Client has no idea what their match looks like and never gets to view a full profile, if any profile, of their match;
  4. Bon Jour: Every client decides for themselves along with my input who they would like to meet/Local Services: THEY dictate who you meet, and you have no say. You are stuck with who…

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Bon Jour Matchmaking Service

Open-ended contract…you are a client until you reach your goal;

One Matchmaker who knows ALL of her clients;

You are ONLY introduced to my clients who I’ve met personally, interviewed and who have had a background check;

33 years of experience in Colorado matchmaking;

300+ marriages;

Feedback both positive and negative to assist you;

Coaching to correct unproductive and unsuccessful dating patterns;

Extensive profiles with current photos for clients to view;

Collaborative effort between client and Matchmaker;

Clients decide who they are interested in meeting after I select appropriate profiles that fit on both sides;

VERY reasonable investment fee based on each individual client’s situation;

 Make your investment fee back if you get married, move or leave Bon Jour.

These are just the highlights. Please read through this web site to gain more in-depth information.

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Bon Jour Matchmaking Service

Recently I’ve had the experience with several new clients when they initially called asking what an “open-ended contract” meant.  Other Denver matchmaking services may refer to it as a “Lifetime Contract” or a “Platinum Package” and charge you a lot extra to have that benefit.  EVERY client of Bon Jour has an open-ended contract!  That’s the way it should be if you are a REAL matchmaker.  You never know when that right person will appear, and you want to be there when they do!  The longest so far that I’ve worked with a client is 11 years and she DID get married in that 11th year to a man who became a widower the year before and joined my service after that…see, you never know when…

My feeling is that calling it a Lifetime Contract or package is kind of depressing. Also that is not what I mean by open-ended.

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Bon Jour Matchmaking Service

Now in my almost 34th year practicing matchmaking I’ve developed a new plan that can make you your investment fee back if the situation fits.

After you become a client of this Denver matchmaking service, if you meet someone either in or outside the service and cultivate a long and hopefully permanent relationship I’m inviting you to either GIFT or SELL your place in Bon Jour.  This also applies if you move out of state.  If you SELL your place you cannot sell it for more than you paid, so you would have to ask me what you paid if you don’t remember.  The prospective buyer MUST MEET ALL BON JOUR MATCHMAKING CRITERIAfirst or I will NOT honor the sale.  There are NO REFUNDS from Bon Jour Matchmaking Service or Michele Fields.  If you gift your place in Bon Jour there will be a $500 transfer fee for the…

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Bon Jour Matchmaking Service

Every week I receive calls from singles who have used or spoken to other local Denver matchmaking services. What shocks me every time is the few questions these people ask the other services. Maybe because I conduct at least a 1 hour preliminary phone consultation they think of more questions to ask me…I don’t know. But these are the types of questions you should ask when looking for a Denver matchmaker.

  1. Does the person who will be matchmaking me know ALL of the clients?
  2. How long have you been in business?
  3. How many marriages have you had?
  4. Where is the interview conducted? In a quiet, private place or at a coffee shop or hotel?
  5. Are you matching me with YOUR clientele or with other local matchmakers? Have you interviewed and met those clients if they are not yours?
  6. Have they interviewed and met with every client?
  7. What are the different…

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