SOMETIMES EVEN AN ETHICAL MATCHMAKER CAN’T WIN

As I’ve explained in several previous posts, I turn many people down if I don’t feel they fit what my clients have set forth for their criteria and preferences. Also, if I find them combative in the FREE phone consultation. My feeling is, if you don’t like my structure, or whatever, don’t call and argue with me, call another service! If I feel that working with you may be more trouble than it’s worth, I will decline.

That’s what happened recently. Michael Piccirillo called me and initially seemed to fit my clients’ preferences. This is exactly why I conduct an extensive telephone consultation…with further discussion it became clear, not only that my clients would not be interested based on the fact that I interview EVERY client, but that he had issues with a couple of questions on the profile that he wanted me to delete. After 36 years of tweaking the profile, removing questions, adding pertinent questions, it is what it is.

So, I sent him an email saying exactly that I didn’t feel that we would make a good partnership and I wish you the best of luck. Soooo, I told him the truth, I didn’t take his money or interview him, and he has had a total meltdown! Has been posting vile 1-star reviews all over the internet. So vile that even Yelp (who never removes a review) not only removed his reviews, but he can no longer post about Bon Jour.

All because I declined to work with him and take his money! This has been going on for 2 weeks. He blew up my phone and email to the point that I had to block him! I made the right call on that one! He’s a nightmare…he won’t quit, I guess it’s his ego, because I did nothing except decline to work together.

Had I accepted him, he would have been impossible to please, would have threatened me, would have written 1- start reviews anyway.

Bottom line…sometimes I can’t win! Even with the highest ethics, I’m being harassed! There have been a few other people who I declined to work with over the years who wrote 1-star reviews because I didn’t work with them. But NONE have gone to these lengths…

BON JOUR MATCHMAKING STILL GOING STRONG

While other local Denver matchmaking and dating services are going under in this economy due to their excessive fees, limited contracts and high overhead, Bon Jour Matchmaking Service in my 36th year of creating lifelong marriages is still going strong!

Regardless of how the economy is all over the place and there are higher fees and bills, I am determined to continue facilitating couples as I’ve done since 1989!

With a reasonable fee, open-ended contract, abundant information on clients including photos and lack of overhead Bon Jour can easily outlast less favorable Denver dating and matchmaking companies.

Clients understand this is not a race. In many cases couples click in short order of joining the service. In other cases it has taken time. But because of the open-ended contract and one-time investment fee, clients have all the time in the world to be patient until the “right” person presents themselves!

LEARN TO BE APPRECIATIVE

In the past 6 months I’ve had many people call for Bon Jour Matchmaking. In many of the cases I had to either turn people down because they did not fit what my clientele is searching for, or because I didn’t feel that I could meet their criteria. In some cases I asked them to call back in a month or two when I might have more clients in the age range they desired.

That equaled THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS that I walked away from because I’M ETHICAL! Believe me, no other Denver matchmaking or dating service would turn down your money regardless of whether they could help you or not!

Many people cop a nasty attitude instead of being appreciative that I didn’t scam them out of their money! WTF????? This is the society we’re living in now…

Rarely do people thank me for being honest. Well, wake up! It’s time to show appreciation for being treated ethically and honestly. Again, this is my only income and every time I feel I need to turn someone down, I make no fee, regardless of how long I consult on the phone with them. How about “thank you for your honesty”?

37 YEARS SHOULD SAY IT ALL!

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A small business that has been in operation for 37 years demonstrates strong resilience and likely a successful business model. It suggests the business has adapted to changing market conditions, managed challenges, and built a loyal customer base over a significant period. This longevity also implies a strong reputation and potentially a well-established brand in its industry. 

If you are considering a matchmaker/matchmaking service, if you’ve had a bad experience previously or are just very skeptical, read through this website and it may put your mind at ease to call.

Practicing matchmaking since 1989 should say it all, both about my experience and my success rate as well as my integrity!

37 years is a track record throughout this country, not just Colorado. I AM the oldest practicing matchmaker in the country…both that and my success rate, along with the structure of Bon Jour should give you security in working with me.

You should understand that no service can guarantee your success. YOU have a lot to do with that, both in the choices you make and how you behave in a relationship. My success rate is directly impacted by your choices and behavior. I have for 37 years structured the service to be the best opportunity you have for success. It’s just a phone call for an exchange of information. You have nothing to lose.

WHY DOES BON JOUR SHARE THE FEE ON THIS WEBSITE?

Now in my 37th year of professional matchmaking, I have always been confident in my fee structure, therefore, there is no reason not to publish the fee.

I feel you should have as much information about Bon Jour Matchmaking as possible before calling for your FREE PHONE CONSULTATION.

I have no interest in trying to talk you into my service or justify the fee. You either understand the philosophy of Bon Jour and agree with it or you don’t. Talking people into anything does not make for a good client! If you’ve read through this site at all you can see the fee is more than justified. Unlike other services who won’t quote fees over the phone or on their websites and insist that you come in, then give you the hard sell, Bon Jour sells itself. There is no need for sales pitches.

DISCLAIMER FROM BON JOUR

DISCLAIMER

WHAT TO EXPECT FROM YOUR TELEPHONE CONSULTATION WITH BON JOUR MATCHMAKING

This is NOT a sales call. It is merely an exchange of information to see whether you fit the preferences and criteria of my current clientele AND whether Bon Jour fits what you are looking for.

I ask how you found me so I can assess which types of venues appeal to singles searching for a matchmaker.

Then I need to know the following:

  1. Your age;
  2. The age range you’re looking to meet, youngest to oldest;
  3. For men your height, for women your size;
  4. Do you have any tattoos;
  5. What part of town do you live in;
  6. Your educational level;
  7. Have you ever been married…how many times;
  8. Do you have any children;
  9. Do you have any pets;
  10. Do you understand the structure of Bon Jour and do you agree with it.

Once that has all been established, if you are a fit, I will answer any questions you have and explain the interviewing process as well as share some anecdotal stories with you.

It’s that simple! The call can run from 45 minutes up to 90 minutes, so please allow that amount of time. And PLEASE read through some of the website prior to calling.

36 YEARS OF MATCHMAKING HAS TAUGHT ME ALOT!

November 8, 2024…I have learned many lessons over this 36-year career.

The reason, I’m told by my clients, that my service is so successful, is that I am so discerning who to accept as a client. Over the years my assessment has not always been correct, and I have learned from those mistakes.

I have learned not to make decisions “for” my clients, but to always give them the power to choose who they feel is best for them. There is a collaboration between matchmaker and client, however clients have the last word.

In the past 2 months I have turned down 8 or more singles who have called for Bon Jour. Following are some of the reasons I may not accept to work with someone:

  1. Two gentlemen called who were 69 and I had no one in their age range to present to them at that time. I did suggest that they call back in a few months as the makeup of the clientele is fluid;
  2. One guy called who had very narrow criteria and I didn’t feel comfortable accepting a fee as his preferences would eliminate many people I could present to him. Again, I suggested that he try back in a few months;
  3. Another guy emailed that he was looking for women 20-25. My clientele starts at 30 at the moment;
  4. A guy called who lives in Vail. Previously I accepted a client from Vail and the distance at that time was not acceptable to my clients. He also asked about my women’s income which is 6 figures, and he made less so was not comfortable with going forward which we agreed mutually;
  5. A guy called me from Fort Collins. The few clients I’ve had in Fort Collins were also unacceptable to my clients at that point in time and his educational level was not commensurate with my clientele;
  6. A woman called who sounded crazy, so declined to work with her;
  7. I had an appointment set with a young woman. She kept asking me to go to dinner, to parties, to events, to write a book, etc. She didn’t seem to listen to the information I shared about the service on 2 occasions of 2 hour phone calls. So, I just was not comfortable going forward, which turned out to be the right decision;
  8. A guy called yesterday. Zero personality but I was hoping he’s just not a phone person. He argued with me about various structural aspects of Bon Jour. He was focused on numbers, he only wanted to text with me, and I told him I don’t text with clients, I email. I was getting a very bad feeling about the type of client he would be as he first told me that he gave another service a 1 star review on Yelp and that’s how he found me. I declined to work with him, and he IMMEDIATELY wrote a 1 star review about me on Yelp. Again, the right decision on my part!
  9. A guy called today and the first thing he said was that he was going to be a challenge. He’s going to be honest with me, he wants a woman with a big butt and hips. There were a couple of other qualifiers, but I can’t even remember them because the focus was the aforementioned. He did not fit what my particular clientele is seeking, and I will not accept money just for the sake of making money. I politely explained that, and I won’t take a fee if I feel it is unlikely that my women will be interested. It’s too much of an investment. He became VERY defensive and hung up on me.

So, there it is. A few reasons why people may not be accepted, at least at the point in time they call.

You realize that is a SUBSTANTIAL amount of income I turn down because of ethics and experience!

ASK THESE QUESTIONS BEFORE JOINING ANY DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE

DISCLAIMER

As a Bon Jour client, it is important to realize that not everyone who joins the service is a potential match for you. I will have people of the same sex, people outside of your age range, people outside of your criteria and you may be outside of theirs.

I’m often asked my success rate. I am only maybe 1/3 of the equation. Ultimately it is the two people who have to communicate and make the relationship work. I do all I can with feedback and coaching to assist in making every potential relationship go the distance.

That is the value of the open-ended contract! In a few instances, clients were with me long periods of time before fate presented the person they ultimately married. But because they believed in the service, in me and in the structure, they were patient, and it paid off!

I truly aim to only connect people with the type of match they specified which can take time. This is a matchmaking service and all that implies. I don’t just throw people at you to meet a contract. And, ultimately, each client makes the decision who they wish to meet. I cannot make clients meet each other, I just give them the space and information to make a solid choice.

So, that’s the story…