Now in my 30th year practicing matchmaking I’ve developed a new plan that can make you your investment fee back if the situation fits.
After you become a client of this Denver matchmaking service, if you meet someone either in or outside the service and cultivate a long and hopefully permanent relationship I’m inviting you to either GIFT or SELL your place in Bon Jour. This also applies if you move out of state. If you SELL your place you cannot sell it for more than you paid, so you would have to ask me what you paid if you don’t remember. The prospective buyer MUST MEET ALL BON JOUR MATCHMAKING CRITERIA first or I will NOT honor the sale. There are NO REFUNDS from Bon Jour Matchmaking Service or Michele Fields. If you gift your place in Bon Jour there will be a $500 transfer fee for the new client.
There will be a transfer fee (for them) of $500 to initiate another 2-hour interviewing process and view confidential profiles and pictures with this new client who is taking your place.
Those conditions are:
- The person must live in Colorado and spend at least half their time in the Denver or surrounding cities;
- That person MUST be totally single (not separated) or in any type of serious relationship which includes living together;
- That person must be in the age range of 30-70;
- Buyer should be reasonably fit or they will not be very successful;
- Buyer must be well educated or equivalent business acumen;
- Buyer cannot be an alcoholic or drug user or seller;
- Buyer must be willing to pay a fee for their initial interview;
- Female buyers do best a size 8 or under;
- Male buyers do best 5’8″ or taller;
- MUST HAVE A CLEAN BACKGROUND and preferably be a professional.
This person should be someone you would like to meet while you were in the service and fit for your own criteria. The sale would be totally between you and the buyer but you must run them by me before selling so as to make sure they fit in and this is the right service for them.
I try to make Bon Jour Matchmaking as winning a situation for everyone as I possibly can.
This service deals in honesty and reality. If you are calling to hear someone only confirm what you think this is probably not the service for you. I accept or reject clients STRICTLY according to the preferences and criteria of my clients.
A woman called this morning and when I asked her age (63) she right away said I DO NOT WANT TO MEET MEN THAT AGE. I LOOK GREAT AND THEY WOULD NEVER KNOW MY AGE! My answer is first of all I’m not accepting women over 55 at the moment because men in that age range often want to date much younger women so obviously they are not going to go to 63 regardless of what you look like. She then proceeded to tell me how superficial my men are after just declaring the EXACT SAME THING! She wasn’t going to give anyone near her age range a chance…because she wants what she wants…no different than the men.
I merely try to explain my clientele, compare it with what you are looking for and tell the truth. I know that is a novel concept these days but I actually tell the truth as it is at that point in time. My experience with both men and women is they want what they want for the most part. If I find that not in line with my clients or unrealistic I will suggest this is not the service for you.
Even after 28 years I’m still learning about people. Many people just want someone to agree with their perspective and if you don’t they get mad. If that is you and you don’t want the facts and the truth save yourself a phone call and I wish you the best of luck. There are tons of local services who will gladly say whatever you want to hear to get your money…
If you read through the bulk of the reviews of many Denver dating services and Denver matchmakers you will see a consistent theme. That the people who used them were not introduced to people who fulfilled their criteria and preferences. That is constant across the board…except for Bon Jour Matchmaking Service. Don’t think there’s even one review stating anything like that!
So, after 29 years and an established clientele and as a REAL professional Denver Matchmaker, the fact that I interview every single client allows me to know without a doubt the types of qualities my clients are searching for in a mate. That is TOTALLY dictated by the clients, I HAVE ALMOST NOTHING TO DO WITH IT! To achieve what they have hired me to do I need to have the types of clients who fit their requested criteria. So when people call who are outside of that and I know that emphatically, it would be unethical for me to accept them as a client. Unethical both for my current clients and for a prospective client. Is that a really tough concept to grasp???? It seems so…
Yes, during the FREE phone consultation I will ask questions to qualify you just as you will ask to qualify me. But I don’t make the rules of who is and is not a fit. That is almost strictly done by my clients. Of course if I perceive that we are not a good match or that you are not grasping the concept in the way I need you to I will decline to work together. That is why Bon Jour does not have reviews like the other services about clients’ criteria and preferences not being followed.
My own criteria is whether you “get it”…the structure, philosophy, concept and whether you and I will work well together to achieve your goal. So there are a myriad of reasons someone may not be a fit…if I accepted everyone who called I’d be a millionaire ten times over, which I’m not. That is not my goal. I am not driven by money but by the success of my clients which has shown over these 29 years!.
In the past two weeks I have declined to work with about 10 singles who called for Bon Jour Matchmaking. In case it is not clear that means I turned down a minimum of $20,000 in income!
WHY? It’s called being ethical. I know that is a foreign term in these days of greed, but after 28 years of Denver matchmaking with Bon Jour being so specialized I know from interviewing EVERY client their preferences and flexibility.
Sometimes you absolutely can’t win even when you are trying to be honest and ethical. One of the women I declined (“Olimpia”) wrote a nasty review on YELP. She should have thanked me for not lying to her and taking her money knowing she would not be successful specifically in this service NOT the whole world…this service! EVERY time I decline to work with someone that effects my income, every time.
My clients make it perfectly clear what they are looking for in a mate which includes physical traits obviously. My women are clear that they prefer men 5’9″ or taller with comparable educations and income to theirs. My men specify no women larger than a size 10. That’s just the way it is. I wouldn’t be much of a Matchmaker or business woman if I ignored their criteria or preferences like most other Denver matchmaking services (read their reviews).
There are many, many reasons that I decline to work with someone and height and size are only two of the reasons. Read through the list of things that make someone a poor candidate for Bon Jour.
If I sound angry you bet I am. If “Olimpia” had been a client and I had lied to her about her success that would be a legitimate reason to write a bad review. But to write a bad review because of her hurt ego when I was honest and ethical is ridiculous. This is the kind of attack that makes me consider whether I want to continue doing this. Again, I turn down thousands of dollars a year in an effort to be ethical and not take advantage of vulnerable people!
There are many reasons Bon Jour is unique and ethics is just one big reason.
I was recently asked what makes me a good matchmaker. I took that question very seriously and gave it some thought before responding. Looking back over 29 years of Denver matchmaking I don’t think it’s just the matching that is my strength or the strength of this Denver matchmaking service.
- Giving all clients the time for their best match to present in the service by virtue of my open-ended contract has something to do with it;
- The amount of information shared with each client contributes to making the best choices;
- Following the criteria and preferences set forth by each client and not wasting their time with people who don’t fit for them;
- Allowing clients to meet as many people as they feel could be their best mate;
- The reasonable filing/investment fee in joining Bon Jour so that appropriate singles feel comfortable with this investment;
- The length of time I have been practicing matchmaking by coaching, interviewing and meeting every single client by means of the structure of this matchmaking service; and
- Last but not least…the ongoing intensive coaching before, during and after couples meet to mitigate so many initial issues within the first couple of months of a potentially permanent relationship.
Matchmaking is so much more than just throwing people together and letting them sink or swim. Many people put up obstacles that diminish their chances of a relationship progressing. They need someone objective to have the guts and insight to point out those habits and zeroing in on things that, in the scheme of a lifelong relationship, just are not important. That is my goal for you…a lifetime relationship!
Singles hire a matchmaker because they are having trouble of some kind in their interactions with dating. Yes, it is to find the right person who has as yet been elusive, but there may be many things you yourself are doing that derail, curtail or just plain prevent successful long term relationships.
One glaring example is you are difficult or impossible to connect with. Whether it be by phone or setting up meetings or dates. If I have trouble getting you on the phone that alerts me that my clients may also have difficulty that may cause them to get frustrated and just move on. If that’s how I feel you can be sure that’s how they will feel. If I find this the case before you even become a client (which happened this morning) I will suggest that you contact another Denver matchmaking service. My clients expect and deserve reliable people to meet for potential relationships.
If I find that you do not follow directions well even though I repeat them over and over it will discourage me from working with you as there are contracts stating timing that you have to adhere to and other things that, as a client, you need to follow through on as there is usually someone waiting for an answer (someone meaning a prospective match or me).
Whether you are in Bon Jour Matchmaking Service as a client or out in the world dating, look at the obstacles you are putting in the way of smoothly getting to know someone and cultivating a potential relationship. Actions that may be discouraging, frustrating or just plain turning good potential mates off. THAT is what I help with, that is the coaching in Bon Jour Matchmaking that is so invaluable!