I’ve heard complaints from clients who have used both the Internet dating sites and local dating/matchmaking services that the behavior of people they have met was inappropriate even though in some cases they’ve paid thousands of dollars for the service. I implemented this Behavioral Agreement for every client of Bon Jour Matchmaking from day one in 1989 when Bon Jour was established so that my clients show each other mutual respect. It is most important to me that etiquette mistakes don’t derail the success of any match.
When a new client joins the Bon Jour family they sign both a regular contract stipulating fee and responsibilities of both parties as well as a Behavioral Agreement. Stipulated in the Agreement are basic manners which you would assume people would know and use, however that is not always the case. For example, clients are responsible to let me know if there is a change in their appearance so that I may update their photos, contact information changes, dating status changes, whether they are involved with someone, etc. But most important to me are the points of contact, meeting and feedback.
These stipulations help Bon Jour Matchmaking run smoothly, mitigate the frustration of clients on little things that may impede the success of a match and help me get to know each and every client in more depth than just at the time of the interview. That has to be one of the main reasons there have been 300+ marriages to date through Bon Jour!