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When you first contact me to ask questions about my service that is when we both start evaluating whether my structure, philosophy and personality fit for you and I deduce whether you truly understand my philosophy, whether you are realistic, your dating attitude and whether we communicate well enough to work together. To make this a successful partnership both sides have to fit…just like with your matches.
As it says all over my website this is an OLD FASHIONED MATCHMAKING SERVICE. Presumably you are calling me because you understand that and all that means. So to ask me how many are in my “database” right off the bat tells me you don’t get it. My clients are not a “database”, they are clients. Would you want to be considered part of a database or a client? One implies a much closer relationship than the other.
If your philosophy is the more people I meet the more apt I am to find the right one, that it’s a numbers game, this is not the service for you. This is a MATCHMAKING service, consequently you are not thrown together with just anyone in your age range or that you purchased in a package. You are MATCHED, on both sides, with the most appropriate people. I presume you are only looking for “The ONE”, not the bunch to have a serious relationship with or marry. Remember, almost all the couples who have married, married either the first or second person I introduced them to.
If we decide to work together I will ask you to send me 6 pictures prior to your interview. I will also be sending you one of the 5 pages on the questionnaire to fill out and send back before we meet. If you do not follow those requests it becomes clear that you may be difficult to work with. There are things in this service that you agree to follow as on the Behavioral Agreement and Contract and I need to see prior to our meeting that you are reliable and follow through. I must protect my clients from people who do not walk the talk. They have already experienced that on Internet dating sites and in other local services. Again, this is a partnership and from the very first contact it becomes clear to me whether you are with me or against me.
When we work together I am your advocate, confidant, partner, agent and representative. I am always present either in person or by phone when I read someone your profile and send them your photos so they often ask my opinion of you and/or whether you would be a better choice than someone else they have viewed. So if I were the client I would be as nice, polite, obliging and cooperative with my matchmaker as possible so that when a prospect asks about me my matchmaker would gush about how much they like me and how easy I am to work with, etc. Doesn’t that make sense to you?
Some of the Posts on my website may come off as very direct and emphatic. I am very confidant both in my matchmaking abilities and the structure of my service. I didn’t purchase Bon Jour from someone else, I created it in 1989. I didn’t work for another service and then decide to steal their clients and start my own. This is and always has been my baby. My clients are my “kids” and I’m as protective of them as a mother would be of her children. I guess the bottom line is…you can choose to be part of a database or you can choose to be one of my clients. Either way I wish you the best of luck in your quest!