Keep these tips in mind as you navigate the dating landscape:

Regarding Attraction:

Women use all of their senses when falling in love.  According to researchers, men process their attraction with the right side of their brains, which is visually stimulated (surprise).  While women use their whole brain to do the job, which is why they communicate more effectively with their partners.

Sense of Adventure:

A mate whose adventure matches your own and who can keep up with you may be a good partner for life.  Specifically adventure, not necessarily specific activities.  Common activities can be cultivated whereas you must have common morals and values.

Self Esteem:

Be secure with who you are and with what you want in a mate.  The better you know yourself and what makes you happy, the better you’ll know what kind of mate is best suited to you.


Don’t be a critic.  You don’t need to tell your date what’s wrong with their clothes, job, home,  family or friends.  It shows that you may be too judgmental.  Even if you don’t see your date as a potential mate be gracious until the evening is over…and make it a short evening.

Talking Over Them:

Allowing a person to get a word in edgewise isn’t just common courtesy, it’s a sign of respect.  If you continuously find yourselves talking at the same time, take turns clamming up and allow the other to speak.  Practice this with friends and family as well.


Don’t be a diva or arrogant.  Boasting and name dropping is more of a turn-off than a turn-on, unless you both do it…

Fight Fair:

A mate who argues by playing passive-aggressive head games or who puts you on the defensive by blaming you is not the mate you want.  Select a person who fights fairly and when rough spots come along (which they will),  find  a mutually acceptable concensus in a loving manner.

Published by Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields

I have been a professional Matchmaker for 34 years in Denver, CO. My service, Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, has facilitated 300+ marriages of 600+ Colorado Front Range singles through hand holding, personalized matchmaking. For more information go to

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