Is It Always the Services’ Fault?

After 34 years of matchmaking in Denver (or this applies to anywhere) the impression has become very clear that singles think that if they “pay a lot of money” to a matchmaker, matchmaking service, etc. THAT will be the definitive way to meet the right match.  The more expensive the service, the more of a guarantee they “think” they are making to assure this outcome.

As you’ve read on my last Post about an outrageously expensive “matchmaking” company run by Lisa Clampitt in New York, she appeared, from the Complaint, to have not disclosed information or followed her client’s wishes.  But the guy who wrote that Complaint agreed to pay $1500 to meet ONE woman without seeing any information except a picture.  So whose fault was that really?  You have to be a wise consumer!  The fact he paid $1500 did not make this match outstanding.  In fact he reports that he did not really care for her.

Many people who come to me have already tried the Internet dating and/or various local services and obviously since they are now coming to me they have not been successful.  In many cases it was something with the service.  In many cases those people have definite dating issues that get in the way of their success.  Apparently the other services did not assist/coach them to correct those issues.  So no matter what they try if they continue those habits and ways of thinking they will get the same result.  It isn’t the vehicle, it’s the driver.

You can ask any of my clients, I really get in their business and try to clarify, redirect, encourage, be the voice of reason and common sense as I work with them in Bon Jour Matchmaking.  But it is up to them as to whether they listen to me.  Definitely click on this link to the Post as it will illuminate what I just said.  I can talk to some clients until I can talk no more and they will continue either not to listen and do the opposite or maintain doing what they’ve always done.

One of the main areas where this issue comes up is in the selection of people to meet.  This is not the Internet.  Do not conduct your search in the same way you would using an Internet Dating Service or Apps or you will surely get the same results!  Don’t come in and say, “this is the type I always date”.  That one phrase tells both of us exactly why you have been unsuccessful.  So as a client of Bon Jour we work very hard together to be more flexible, more open-minded and reasonable when selecting your matches together.  That’s why it works so much of the time, but not all of the time or for everyone.