This year I have had two women under forty withhold the most important information a client can give me…what’s that?  One told me that she had a baby when the baby was 5 months old during a call I happened to make to her.  So she went 9 months and then 5 months and who knows how much longer she would have gone without disclosing this while I was presenting her profile to possible matches.  I write regular mass emails to my clients and remind them to update me with any new information.  She never did so.

Today, after receiving a number of emails from another female client under forty over the past month, I received a new narrative she wrote for her profile and a couple of updated photos.  I looked at the photos first and she was holding a newborn baby.  I assumed it was a friend’s or relative’s as her status was that she had no children.  In all these emails I’ve received from her she never mentioned any updates, so I was confused…

While I’m reading the narrative, she states that she adopted a baby.  Not when, no age, never let me know prior that she was thinking about doing this or had started the process, again while I was presenting her profile to potential matches.

This is not like oh I got another dog or cat or I got my hair cut…this is pertinent information that was not shared until they felt like it.  Regardless of the fact that during this time I was misrepresenting them for lack of this information.  Both clients have been dropped.

If you are a single female under forty and you are considering using Bon Jour, please think good and hard about whether you will share all pertinent information.

Published by Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields

I have been a professional Matchmaker for 34 years in Denver, CO. My service, Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, has facilitated 300+ marriages of 600+ Colorado Front Range singles through hand holding, personalized matchmaking. For more information go to

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