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For the past 29 years of the 32 I’ve been matchmaking I periodically receive calls from men who want to meet women 15+ years their junior. I have not accepted those men as women that much younger, especially if they are looking to have children, prefer to date men in their own age range…in the context of Bon Jour Matchmaking Service.
But an interesting twist has started in the past three years that has never happened before. I am receiving more and more calls from women saying almost the exact same thing. How great they look, they don’t look or act their age and they are often being hit on and have dated men up to 8 years younger than they are. This comes up when I ask the age range they wish to meet. So I explain that men, in Bon Jour which is the venue we are talking about, in that younger age range do not want to meet older women. On occasion a man will agree to meet a woman a year or two older than themselves, but all of Bon Jour’s clients are looking for permanent, lasting relationships and I personally do not feel that an older woman with a younger man will last. Or vice versa. Obviously there are exceptions. But when did this new revolution happen? Sure, you hear of it from time to time, but the amount of women who call with this criteria is probably every other woman who phones now. So this is a really new trend locally and in society that has reached a majority of women who feel as I describe above.
They say the same things that men have always said, that men in their age range are inactive, out of shape and they don’t want to be some old guy’s nurse. I have to say to those women the same things I say to the men…if you are in shape, active, curious about life, sexual why wouldn’t there be men your age who are also?????
As men age they tend to turn to younger women for a variety of reasons. So where will these women be when they age and his eye starts wandering? As I said previously I only work with clients who prefer age appropriate matches as those are the ones that have lasted. Look around the world, for the most part when two people of different generations marry it tends not to last.
Bon Jour Matchmaking’s main goal is to facilitate matches that will go the distance and both in my experience and general history around me I see that age appropriate matching lasts. If you prefer to date MUCH younger as a man or woman I think the Internet dating sites are your best resource.