STOP rushing to judgment when you meet someone.  I had a client last year who I introduced to another client.  Her feedback on him was that he was very mannerly, very interesting, very nice but that he had “herpes”.  Well I spent two hours interviewing this gentleman and saw no signs of “herpes” or anything else that would give me pause.  However, if I had I would have asked about it.  She spent two hours with him and never asked about it.  Had she done so she would have found exactly what I presumed she meant.  This gentleman has psoriasis and had a particularly bad flair up when they met.  I really feel he should have explained that to her which would have pre-empted her rush to judgment and/or she should have asked.  But to jump to the WRONG conclusion is inappropriate and not fair to either you or the other person.  She even said to me that it would not be prudent for people to know that I have someone with “herpes” I’m setting up.  WELL I DON’T and don’t appreciate that comment when she was dead wrong about her assessment!

I’m sure that happens often whether it is a physical thing or behavioral.  I know when I was dating that was a mistake I made…rushing to judgment.  So here I sit setting up everyone else in Denver due to so many mistakes I made through 40 years of relationships.  The good news is that I have vast experience and the objectivity to assist clients in making the right decisions, judgments and choices.

So regardless of the venue you use to meet people, try, try, try to stay open minded until you know the facts.  And if you have a question about something ask them.

Published by Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields

I have been a professional Matchmaker for 34 years in Denver, CO. My service, Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, has facilitated 300+ marriages of 600+ Colorado Front Range singles through hand holding, personalized matchmaking. For more information go to

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