I had a conversation with a very old friend of mine last night and was telling her about a new male client and how fantastic he is.  She said “what’s wrong with him then?”  Nothing is “wrong” with him.  He is divorced once and has two children.  He has absolutely everything going for him…of course I don’t know what he’s like in a relationship or how particular he is with who he will meet yet.

She said “well we’ll see how successful your service is.”  I said hey, if everyone I present to him he declines or everyone who selects him he declines OR if he’s a jerk in a relationship that’s on HIM NOT MY SERVICE.  I can lead a horse to water but can’t make it drink or act appropriately.

I can introduce you to the right people and coach you so that you don’t get in your own way but the responsibility for any relationship succeeding is ultimately your own, NOT the matchmaker’s.

So this man has been divorced once and with two children should be particular about who he brings into his life.  My friend has been married to the same man since she was 20 and she’s now 59!  She does not know and cannot relate to dating at any age let alone in this climate of 2017.

I have had people call me and say how good am I?  I’m as good as you are as a client and partner both with me and interacting with my clientele.  No matchmaker or service can take total responsibility in making you successful.  At least 50% or more is up to each individual.  Please try to be realistic when considering Denver matchmakers and Denver matchmaking services.

What you should be considering is their structure, their track record, their length of time in business, your rapport with the owner/matchmaker and of course their fees and contract lengths.


Published by Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields

I have been a professional Matchmaker for 34 years in Denver, CO. My service, Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, has facilitated 300+ marriages of 600+ Colorado Front Range singles through hand holding, personalized matchmaking. For more information go to

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