I am often contacted by people calling themselves matchmakers, usually from outside of Colorado, wanting me to set up THEIR clients with my clients.  I don’t know their clients, haven’t met or interviewed their client, don’t know the quality of their clients and don’t know them or their service.

SOME GENERAL ADVICE:  Do not join a service who does not SHOW you profiles WITH pictures and decide who you will meet rather than you deciding.  It should be a collaboration, not a dictatorship.  Or that sells you packages of dates.  I.e., 3 month contract for 3 matches.  THAT IS NOT MATCHMAKING!

MY clients hire me because I vett all clients and have for 34 years!  I don’t drag someone off the street or call other “matchmakers” to solicit people for them to meet knowing nothing about that person or that company,  not having met and interviewed them or qualified them for my clientele.

So, this week a girl called me from The Modern Matchmaker in Pittsburgh, PA.  (Check the complaints on the Pittsburgh BBB on this service) Her client has a home in Colorado so she wanted me to find someone for her client.  I wrote to her and explained that I meet face-to-face with all of my clients for a two-hour interview, that’s what I’m getting paid for, and if her client had an interest in that they may contact me.  Initially I have to see if that person even fits what my clients are looking for.  This is not just about HER client, it’s also about mine!  I viewed their website to see who I was dealing with and came up with several women in their thirties or maybe even twenties.  So as with all services with multiple “matchmakers” none of them knows all of the clients of that service and obviously does not know my clients.  In looking deeper this girl who contacted me has only been with this company a little over a year and her background is in speech pathology.  This is her first job outside of that field and she calls herself a matchmaker…hmmmm.  I’ve been matchmaking professionally for 34 years and she may not even be 30 years old.

BE A GOOD CONSUMER!  I’m guessing this service charges a lot of money, as many do who aren’t REALLY matchmakers.  Look up their backgrounds on LinkedIn.  If you are older than the “matchmakers” you may not want to use them because they can’t relate to someone at your stage of life.  Especially when they are in their twenties and thirties.  I have always kept my clientele within my own age range so that we could relate to each other and I would have the best understanding of their mindset and position in life.

So, this girl writes back and says that I can use THEIR profile and I should do it as a professional courtesy….LOL!  Are you kidding????  I’m guessing they have no pictures because services rarely if ever have pictures of their clients and I have no idea whether they ask the in-depth or amount of questions I require to be able to match someone.  Again, I have to meet anyone I’m matching, that’s what you are paying for when you are a client of Bon Jour Matchmaking Service!  And it should be that way with ANY legitimate matchmaking serviceReally, take your time, don’t join a service because it’s the holidays and you are feeling lonely, or you’ve just gone through a break up.  Be careful or you may lose a lot of money with people who have no background in this business and have not been doing it for any substantial period of time.

Published by Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields

I have been a professional Matchmaker for 34 years in Denver, CO. My service, Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, has facilitated 300+ marriages of 600+ Colorado Front Range singles through hand holding, personalized matchmaking. For more information go to

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