A matchmaker has met with (in-person) and interviewed ALL of her/his clients. She/he has an extensive profile on each client for prospects to view, along with several current pictures. In a matchmaking service the client and matchmaker work together collaboratively to select the most appropriate match. Both clients should be able to talk prior to their initial meeting and set up their own time and place. Communication starts right there. A true matchmaker ONLY matches clients with the most appropriate people who fit, on both sides, the criteria and preferences each has set forth. A professional matchmaker requires feedback and shares and coaches each client to help every match have the best chance of success.

A dating service for the most part sells you a package of dates. They have several different plans and fees. They have finite contracts. In dating services that have several “matchmakers” no one knows ALL of the clients. Each one knows the ones they’ve sold. THEY decide who you meet. When they set you up THEY decide when and where you meet. You cannot speak with the match prior to the meeting. You are not shown a profile or pictures. They MAY read you a sentence or two about the person but that’s all. In reading their reviews, clients state that they repeatedly tell the “matchmaker” that person did not fit their criteria, they were allergic to the food where the date was set up, the person lives out of the radius they specified and the service does not listen. A dating service’s goal is to sign you, set you up according to the number of DATES you’ve purchased and sign you again. THAT is their goal.

So when shopping around Denver, first decide which you are interested in….a matchmaking service or dating service. Otherwise you will have wasted your investment and your time and be disappointed in the outcome.

Published by Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields

I have been a professional Matchmaker for 34 years in Denver, CO. My service, Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, has facilitated 300+ marriages of 600+ Colorado Front Range singles through hand holding, personalized matchmaking. For more information go to

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