Of primary concern is keeping my clients as safe as possible from scammers, liars, felons and criminals. When someone calls for my matchmaking service, at my expense, I conduct a background check on them. I look at all social media as well as use a paid service to conduct those.

How do I keep clients safe? If I find info that is inconsistent with what the person has told me and/or if I find concerning information in their background check, I decline to work with them. A couple of months ago two guys called for Bon Jour, I did background checks and found concerning information, so I declined to work with them. They actually totally understood…

A couple of things that should be noted…I can’t find out if that person is a jerk unfortunately. I recently had a guy call who said he was only going to give Denver 2 months to see if it works out. When going to his Facebook profile it showed lots of friends here and activities, so I don’t know what he’s talking about. Also, his background check showed that he’s moved many times throughout the country showing a lack of stability as well as a couple of other concerning things. I have also had several older men call and lie about their age looking to meet younger women. Don’t work with them either!

Another thing you can’t count on background checks for…just because it may show no criminal activity that may only mean they haven’t been caught yet. Serial offenders can only be serial if they haven’t been caught. So always be careful when dealing with new people.

That said, in the 34 years I’ve been practicing personal matchmaking I have never had an issue…probably because of all of the background checking that I do.

Published by Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields

I have been a professional Matchmaker for 34 years in Denver, CO. My service, Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, has facilitated 300+ marriages of 600+ Colorado Front Range singles through hand holding, personalized matchmaking. For more information go to

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