The failure of some Denver Dating/Matchmaking Services continues to present itself to me through clients who have fallen for a slick sales pitch.  According to my clients who have used certain other local Denver dating or Denver matchmaking services, following are things to BEWARE of:

1. Interviews you in a public forum, i.e. a noisy and crowded coffee-house or at a hotel or restaurant;

2. Charges thousands of dollars to join for a limited time;

3. Sells you a certain number of dates;

4. Does not SHOW you profiles WITH pictures of prospective matches or a background check (that they may have charged extra for);

5. Has a lot of negative reviews online;

6. Has a poor rating with the BBB of Denver;

7. Charges one sex nothing and the other sex too much;

8. Just started their business and has no track record or clients (that may be why they have a good BBB rating);

9. Again, because it’s worth repeating, has a poor rating with the BBB or no information listed with the Denver BBB;

10. Will not quote their fees over the phone and insists you meet with them to discuss your particular situation;

11.  Be sure a company’s info is consistent, i.e., there is a matchmaking service in Colorado Springs whose website says they’ve been in business since a certain date, but the BBB states a shorter time they have been in business;

12.  Don’t judge a service by the success or failure of a friend.  Each person may have a different experience in any one service;

13.  If a service has several “matchmakers” but none of them know ALL of the clients, don’t join (it is important that each person working in a service know all of the clients in that service);

14.  Both men and women have complained to me that certain local dating/matchmaking services do not have enough men so they disregard both the men’s and women’s criteria and just set the few men they have up with all the new women;

15.  Clients of mine who have used certain local matchmaking services did not recommend them (can you guess which ones?).  So if you are looking at those (view their reviews and BBB rating) consider looking at other local services also who may have a better reputation;

16.   Does a complete interview prior to you becoming a client in hopes that because you spent that time you will join.

One has to be a good consumer and if you follow the above list that should help mitigate some major problems, aggravation and disappointment. One last note: there is a big difference between Denver dating services and Denver matchmaking services.  Real matchmakers don’t sell a finite number of matches or have a limited contract.  A Matchmaker should work with you until the goal is reached, however long that may take!

Published by Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields

I have been a professional Matchmaker for 34 years in Denver, CO. My service, Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, has facilitated 300+ marriages of 600+ Colorado Front Range singles through hand holding, personalized matchmaking. For more information go to

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