Below you will see an e-mail I received this morning.  The reason I am explaining this is because I must speak with you to answer questions like this person is asking in his e-mail.  I suspect most singles think that I start evaluating them once they are in front of me interviewing, however I start to evaluate whether we would work well together right from your first contact.  I am what you want, a hands-on “old fashioned”  Matchmaker…I may often contact you by phone as well as e-mail.  So if you are looking for a service that is not in communication or only works through technical means, this would not be that.

Unlike most Denver matchmaking services I don’t require you to meet with me to look you over so I can evaluate how much to charge you.  BUT to answer the questions below I have to at least speak with you.

>“I reviewed your website and want to know how much your service is. I understand you work different than other matchmakers and I would pay per match.
>How much is the initial fee and how much per match? I am a professional 38 year old male.
>Also, how big is your database? I am looking for women ages 32 to approximately 44. Of course, I already know its not a numbers game but want to know currently how many women fit in my age range.
>I am not interested in a phone call at this time,”

Because I am a Matchmaker I do not refer to my clients as a “database”, they are clients.  A real Matchmaker cannot pull a number out of the air and say that is my fee.  I do not have a flat fee with one limited time exception. There are specific questions I need to ask you directly as well as make sure you are a suitable fit for the service. There are requirements on my Behavioral Agreement that a client agrees to follow and I can perceive both from the tone of the e-mail and the questions this may not be the right service for this person.  So to answer one general question, “Do you accept everyone in your service?” the answer is NO.

Telling me that you want to meet women 32-44 only tells me the age. There are 6 pages of questions to ask.  Although the telephone consultation may be lengthy, I cannot ask 6 pages over the phone but to quote how many people someone will view, I have no idea until I interview you You may have several preferences that will either include or exclude people which I will not know until we meet and go through both the interviewing process and viewing profiles.

But the first step is definitely a phone call. The call is merely informational, NOT A SALES CALL.  To write me an e-mail like above is impossible for me to answer.  If you have lots of questions it’s best to speak with me directly.  He’s right about one thing, I am different than the other services!

Published by Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields

I have been a professional Matchmaker for 34 years in Denver, CO. My service, Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, has facilitated 300+ marriages of 600+ Colorado Front Range singles through hand holding, personalized matchmaking. For more information go to

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