To Capture The Most Interest From The Opposite Sex

If you are working with a genuine, professional Matchmaker she will have interviewed ALL of her clients personally.  In which case she will know their preferences in most areas and be able to guide you through the first introduction with them as well as ongoing in the relationship.

Many years ago, in about 1996, I had a male client who was what you might call a “nerd” or “geek”.  Highly intelligent and nice, however wore aviator glasses, had a bowl haircut and had a scruffy beard (you know the kind that men grow but shouldn’t).  He selected 5 women that he wanted to meet.  When presented with his profile all of them declined mainly because of a lack of attraction to his appearance.  Yes, women also need to have that attraction at first sight.  Anyway, I suggested to him that he go get a descent haircut, update his glasses and shave off the beard.  I promised him that I would run his profile by the same 5 women again after he accomplished this.

To his credit he went out and did all that I asked of him.  We took new pictures and I presented his profile to the same 5 women.  And guess what?  3 of the 5 said YES.  They didn’t even realize it was the same guy!  So I’m telling you, if you take the time and investment to work with a REAL  Matchmaker than you should also listen to her/him.

Conversely I currently have a gentleman who had a beard when he signed up but in a short period of time shaved it down to a mustache.  Every woman who has viewed his profile has said NO because of the facial hair, but particularly with the mustache.  So I’ve given him their feedback repeatedly and strongly suggested that he shave the mustache.  Well he dug in his heels and wouldn’t do it.  Finally I said it appears you’ve chosen your mustache over meeting someone.  And guess what?  He finally wrote that he’s shaved the mustache!  So once I have his new pictures I will run his profile past the same women and see if there are any takers.

On my questionnaire I specifically ask questions about height, hair, facial hair, make-up, body build, etc.  So I KNOW what my clients prefer.  With no exceptions 100% of the women prefer a clean shaven man.  I don’t make the news, I just report it.  So with 24 years of matchmaking under my belt and having interviewed EVERY client that’s the scoop.  LISTEN TO YOUR MATCHMAKER.

Published by Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields

I have been a professional Matchmaker for 34 years in Denver, CO. My service, Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, has facilitated 300+ marriages of 600+ Colorado Front Range singles through hand holding, personalized matchmaking. For more information go to

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