I guess the answer depends on your definition of a “Matchmaker”.  It also depends on your agenda when using Denver matchmaking services.  According to World English Dictionary it’s a limited definition (in my opinion)…
World English Dictionary
matchmaker 1 (ˈmætʃˌmeɪkə)
— n
1. a person who brings together suitable partners for marriage

It seems currently in Denver you have two viable options to go about selecting a “matchmaker” to assist you in finding a mate.  There are the packages that have become extremely popular with franchise and local matchmaking services because it takes all of the work out of it for them.  You sign a contract for a specific period of time (for thousands of dollars) for a specific number of “dates”.  You receive very, very limited information about the person, no photos or profile per se and you rely entirely on either someone who has met you once or possibly someone else in that service who has never met you or your match.  But you are guaranteed to meet “people”.  Feedback is that the criteria you set forth initially is almost always disregarded just so they can meet the contract with that specific number of matches.  But if you want a guarantee to meet “people”, for enough money you will.

Your other option is to work one-on-one with a professional matchmaker who gets to know you over time, has interviewed every potential match and knows them personally, sticks to your criteria and preferences, shares a 5 page profile with 6 current photos, shares her experiences and knowledge of both you and your match and you have an open-ended contract.  You can meet as many people as you feel are good matches with tons of information on them.  You are a client until you meet your goal.  If you are overly particular and turn down every profile and every person who selects you, then you may not meet very many people…BUT THAT’S UP TO YOU.  The goal with a professional matchmaker is to be specific enough so that you only meet the best fit and hopefully that happens with just a few matches.  The goal is not to wear you out with a bunch of the wrong people like Internet Dating Sites or packages discussed above, but to be judicious in who you  meet.  Also the fee should not be excessive because this is not New York or L.A.

Those are your two choices practically speaking.  It is up to each individual which definition of a “matchmaker” fits for them.




Published by Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields

I have been a professional Matchmaker for 34 years in Denver, CO. My service, Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, has facilitated 300+ marriages of 600+ Colorado Front Range singles through hand holding, personalized matchmaking. For more information go to

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