In the past two weeks I have declined to work with about 10 singles who called for Bon Jour Matchmaking. In case it is not clear that means I turned down a minimum of $20,000 in income!
WHY? It’s called being ethical. I know that is a foreign term in these days of greed, but after 28 years of Denver matchmaking with Bon Jour being so specialized I know from interviewing EVERY client their preferences and flexibility.
Sometimes you absolutely can’t win even when you are trying to be honest and ethical. One of the women I declined (“Olimpia”) wrote a nasty review on YELP. She should have thanked me for not lying to her and taking her money knowing she would not be successful specifically in this service NOT the whole world…this service! EVERY time I decline to work with someone that effects my income, every time.
My clients make it perfectly clear what they are looking for in a mate which includes physical traits obviously. My women are clear that they prefer men 5’9″ or taller with comparable educations and income to theirs. My men specify no women larger than a size 10. That’s just the way it is. I wouldn’t be much of a Matchmaker or business woman if I ignored their criteria or preferences like most other Denver matchmaking services (read their reviews).
There are many, many reasons that I decline to work with someone and height and size are only two of the reasons. Read through the list of things that make someone a poor candidate for Bon Jour.
If I sound angry you bet I am. If “Olimpia” had been a client and I had lied to her about her success that would be a legitimate reason to write a bad review. But to write a bad review because of her hurt ego when I was honest and ethical is ridiculous. This is the kind of attack that makes me consider whether I want to continue doing this. Again, I turn down thousands of dollars a year in an effort to be ethical and not take advantage of vulnerable people!
There are many reasons Bon Jour is unique and ethics is just one big reason.