Many of my clients have no trouble meeting people, however they do have trouble sealing the deal.  Being an objective source to their actions I am in a perfect position to point out behavior that is undermining their success.

For example, texting has been around for at least 10 years but I strongly discourage clients from texting for the first two months.  My experience is that once that door is open it is used way too often.  Texting is not the way to cultivate a new relationship.  In all that time I have never had a client in a new match open by texting.  I specify in my instructions to CALL.  If you are not in a position to call i.e., being on vacation without phone access, then they should inform me and I will pass that along.  That is my role, to fill the gaps when they arise.  Just had a client text his new match.  Really foolish.  That is no way to introduce yourself to someone you’ve never met or spoken with.  This is the first time that has happened and hopefully the last.

This is an old fashioned matchmaking service and that is not just a slogan.  Everything done in Bon Jour Matchmaking is organic.  The only electronic actions are the website and emails.  I do not even text my clients.  We either talk or email or both.  That is a relationship, not texting.

People fall into comfortable habits when dating without giving it much thought.  One of my most important roles is to point out mistakes they make repeatedly based on feedback  from their matches and 30 years experience being the go-between for my clients.  I wish I had someone do that for me when I was dating!

Unlike your friends, I am not guessing what someone is thinking.  I ask and report back verbatim so there is no wondering, guessing or lamenting.  Really, does it get any better than that????

Published by Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields

I have been a professional Matchmaker for 34 years in Denver, CO. My service, Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, has facilitated 300+ marriages of 600+ Colorado Front Range singles through hand holding, personalized matchmaking. For more information go to

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