Denver Singles Have Specific Preferences Based on their Sex

In the 33+ years that I have been matchmaking in Denver, there are certain criteria which both sexes consistently prefer.  It’s simple:

99% of the women prefer men with hair, who are tall (at least 5’8″ plus) and clean-shaven.  Women do not care for facial hair and especially dislike mustaches.

98.5% of the men prefer slim, toned, fit or slender women and specific to Colorado (which is no surprise) athletic/outdoorsy builds.

Both sexes in Colorado focus much of their preferences and attention on how athletic and/or outdoorsy a possible mate should be.  With both men and women, through my own life experience and watching the most successful Bon Jour couples, the ones who succeed and are in it for the long-haul focus more on morals and values.  They know that interests can be cultivated.

Things that tend not to matter to either sex generally speaking are…religion, hair and eye color, work hours, prenuptial agreements, type of upbringing, implants, plastic surgery, style of dress and a few others.  Those are all negotiable.

Some things that are either less appealing or not negotiable are:

Women:  education, pets, sometimes political persuasion, multiple divorces, never married raises red flags, how many children, the abortion issue, capital punishment and adoption, smoking is not negotiable, heavy or frequent drinkers, bald (most of the time), under 5’9″ most of the time, toupees turn 100% of women off, pot smokers.  My women will not consider men with sleeve or full body tattoos.

Men:  most men dislike red hair (a few, however, love it), too many pets, women who are ultra-busy where it appears there is no time to cultivate a relationship, overweight or out of shape, women who appear older than their age because of gray hair, weight, their style of dress, insecure, clingy, bossy and 100% of men dislike women who are judgmental.  Many men have not selected women who use pot regularly.

Qualities that both sexes agree upon are:  children are fine depending on the age of the client and their children, pets are fine depending on how many and whether the client is allergic to them, prenup agreements, almost all clients are for capital punishment, most clients feel moderate drinking is fine, clients are negotiable about how religious a person is, no clients will date a smoker, some clients will interracial date, some clients will date someone who is disabled (depending on the disability).

Generally speaking:  men don’t care that much about a woman’s educational level and women don’t put much emphasis on men’s income…contrary to popular belief.

So, there it is in a nutshell.  Being a Denver Matchmaker since 1989, interviewing hundreds of Denver singles between the ages of 25 and 70 through Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, preferences have not changed.  Specific to Colorado are singles who are focused on level of activity and athleticism.  I’ve seen that focus get in the way of finding a mate who would be perfect for them if their criteria were broader and more flexible.

Published by Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields

I have been a professional Matchmaker for 34 years in Denver, CO. My service, Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, has facilitated 300+ marriages of 600+ Colorado Front Range singles through hand holding, personalized matchmaking. For more information go to

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