Starting at the beginning, the answers to these three questions will start your date out on the right foot.

1.     How long should a first date last?  I always suggest to my clients to meet for coffee with an option.  An option that if things are going really well they can continue the date with lunch or dinner depending on what time the meeting is.  That seems to work very well.  I think the absolute WORST time to meet is at lunch during the work week.

2.     How should you dress for a first date?  That depends on several factors.  What are you doing on that first date?  If you are meeting for coffee, casual but clean, neat and put together.  Wear something flattering as first impressions stick.  On subsequent dates “know your audience”, meaning be yourself and wear what’s comfortable for you keeping in mind the type of person you are going out with.  If you are flamboyant and your date is conservative, just tone it down a bit with them in mind.  Or vice versa.  Always dress with the activity and venue in mind.

3.     How much should you drink on a date?  Men appear obnoxious when they are drunk but women really look bad when they get drunk.  I think less is best.  One or two drinks is quite enough.  If you are drinking because you’re nervous, just work through it.  Even just holding and sipping a glass of water will help calm you down.

Submit any other questions you may have below and I will answer them in another blog.

Published by Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields

I have been a professional Matchmaker for 34 years in Denver, CO. My service, Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, has facilitated 300+ marriages of 600+ Colorado Front Range singles through hand holding, personalized matchmaking. For more information go to

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