This Post is just my opinion of any type of “dating coaches”, especially individuals who come from a totally different field and decide to go into the dating service, matchmaking service, dating coaching arena.  And Denver is crawling with them!  Of course my opinion may hold more water than most since I’ve been a professional Denver Matchmaker for 28 years…

Just seems like a gimmick to me.  Even a “coach” who is trained as a psychologist has nothing to do with dating and matchmaking.  Generally clients who hire them as a psychologist are not talking about their dating challenges, they are talking more about their background, upbringing, personality disorders, marriage issues, etc.  None of that has anything to do with coaching dating or matchmaking.  I sense that these “coaches” are playing on the vulnerability of the clients they are counseling about other issues.  I.e., there is a blog called My Dating Prescription written by a woman whose psychologist told her to go out and date 100 men.  She’s half way through that “prescription” and is burned out and disappointed.  She lives in Washington state but called me to represent her she’s so frustrated!  Of course I only work with people either living in Colorado or who spend a significant amount of time here, specifically Denver’s Front Range.

I’ve heard that they start out being hired as a “dating coach” but then move into matchmaking.  I’ve been told by men, in particular, that they went through this with a couple of these “coaches” who set them up with women who they barely knew, were not interested in a relationship and were baffled at why they were being set up with these men.

A genuine professional Matchmaker should be coaching you at the same time they are matching you.  It should be a package deal, at least it is in Bon Jour Matchmaking Service.  It always has been and always will be.  That’s part of the definition of a matchmaker isn’t it?  So if you want a dating coach and to be matched then hire a professional Matchmaker who has been practicing her craft for twenty years or more…

Published by Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields

I have been a professional Matchmaker for 34 years in Denver, CO. My service, Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, has facilitated 300+ marriages of 600+ Colorado Front Range singles through hand holding, personalized matchmaking. For more information go to

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