I start evaluating everything about you from your first contact with me.  If written I notice grammar, spelling, and politeness.  If by phone, attitude, philosophy (i.e., it’s a numbers, game how many clients do you have?), and our communication styles with each other.  This is such a personal endeavor it is important that we communicate well with each other.  As I’ve said many times on this site, I turn down more people than I accept based on a wide variety of factors.

I had a woman call me and leave a message.  So I returned the call promptly and didn’t hear back.  (I do not chase after clients like other Denver Matchmaking Services.  I want to see your level of interest, reliability and motivation).  Months later she called again leaving another message.  Again, I returned her call promptly and again never heard from her.  This shows me a number of things about her and none of them are good.  IF she calls again I will not work with her. My clients deserve people who are sincerely motivated and reliable and that’s what I try to give them.  She has already made a bad impression.

More than likely you will only meet with me face to face once, at your initial interview.  When you dress for the interview remember I am your representative, agent, promoter, confidant and coach.  I am your advocate, I’m on your side to facilitate the best result in your quest.  So just like a job interview you need to make a good impression at this one opportunity.  That means visually as well as personality and attitude.  The more you cooperate, collaborate and follow through in a timely manner, the better our relationship will be.

As with your pictures you need to put a lot of thought into what you wear to the interview.  Also if you are difficult, indecisive or combative throughout the interviewing process that does not make a good impression.  This is an interview like any other so put your best foot and attitude forward.  The nicer and more appealing you are the more I will be apt to recommend you over someone else and push someone towards you when they are on the fence!

Published by Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields

I have been a professional Matchmaker for 34 years in Denver, CO. My service, Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, has facilitated 300+ marriages of 600+ Colorado Front Range singles through hand holding, personalized matchmaking. For more information go to

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