Since 1989 I’ve observed the types of people who have the most success working with me.  Contrary to popular belief they are not the most beautiful or handsome, in fact they are usually average to a bit above average.  They are not the richest men, they are realistic men and women.  They pay attention to the feedback I give them and suggestions I make to improve their success.  Bon Jour Matchmaking does not accept people who are married or separated.  So below is a short list of the qualities that will make a single successful in the Denver matchmaking market:

1.   Realistic – If you come in with the expectation that you can place your order and expect that person to either currently be on file waiting for you or that I can conjure them up you are not being realistic.  You know your strengths and weaknesses and you should expect to meet someone who both accepts and compliments thoseTiming has much to do with your success so patience is also a requirement.  You are not looking to meet someone who is 15+ years younger than you.

2.   Patient – You realize that the person you are seeking may not be in the service at the exact time you join.  This is the reason for the open-ended contract.  So that you will be in the service when that “right” person comes along, whenever that may be.

3.   Open-Minded – At the time of your 2-hour interview you are shown all of the profiles of clients belonging to Bon Jour Matchmaking Service who are a fit for you personally.  Don’t compare them against each other, but evaluate each profile on a per person basis whether this person is a good match for you.  Your expectations are the same as they would be outside of the service rather than higher because you’ve made a financial investment.  Instead of thinking that you only want to meet the exact same type of people that you usually date, consider that may be the problem and open up to other types.  I.e., don’t look at a person and say they remind you of someone who didn’t work out so you won’t meet them.  They are not that person.  Obviously, there was something that attracted you to that person but this may be a better version of them…open your dating palate.

4.   Reasonable – You don’t judge whether a person is “cheap” or insecure by something they do or don’t do during the first meeting.  Everyone is uncomfortable with a first meeting and may not do everything perfectly.

Those are just a few of the reasons certain people are successful with Bon Jour Matchmaking.  They are realistic, patient, open-minded and reasonable.  Are you?


Published by Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields

I have been a professional Matchmaker for 34 years in Denver, CO. My service, Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, has facilitated 300+ marriages of 600+ Colorado Front Range singles through hand holding, personalized matchmaking. For more information go to http://bonjourms.com

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