Recently I have been contacted or worked with several women in their thirties who have had no patience. They have never been married but expect that because they are paying a fee it should happen immediately. They’ve even said they want this to happen yesterday. Well, if you didn’t get it done either yourself or through other venues up to this point, why would you expect me to accomplish this immediately just because this is when you chose to come in?
I stack the deck in each client’s favor right off the bat by giving every client, for FREE, an open-ended contract. That assures them that whenever the “right” person comes in for them they will be here. But in this world of immediate gratification, for some people that is not good enough. I recently spoke with a matchmaker in L.A. who said that when she charges women for her service their expectations go through the roof and she can’t deal with that anymore. So she just has “cattle calls” for women for free but charges the ones she is sure she can match.
Nice lady but that doesn’t seem fair across the board. Some pay, some don’t but all of the men pay. I don’t find that equitable. And yes, I deal with the same issue mainly from women but I have and will continue to deal with it. Not every woman is like that and the majority understand this isn’t a quick fix. That said it is surprising, even to me, how many clients have met their spouses on either the first or second introduction! They were so lucky and it was clearly meant to be. Others it took however long it took but who cares as long as you achieve your goal with the “right” person!
So if you are looking for a quick fix from a Denver matchmaker proceed with packages of dates…there are many Denver matchmaking services out there who offer that. If you are looking for real old fashioned matchmaking and the time to make it happen, perhaps Bon Jour Matchmaking is right for you…best of luck either way!