Our first interaction on the telephone or if you send me an email starts our journey to discover whether Bon Jour Matchmaking is the right Denver matchmaker for you and you are the right client for the service…whether, as your very personal matchmaker, I feel I can reasonably meet your expectations or I fear you may be disappointed. It is most important to me that I have a reasonable expectation of achieving your goal.
Anyone who calls looking for a guarantee, shows major skepticism, puts all of the responsibility on my abilities as a matchmaker or shows a lack of understanding as to the structure of Bon Jour automatically throws up flags for me. Do the Internet dating sites give you a guarantee? Does the stock market give you a guarantee? For that matter does the person you marry give you a guarantee? Some things are done on faith and hope and realistic expectations. This is one of them.
After professionally matchmaking for 29 years my clientele is set. The criteria and preferences of my clients determine my future clientele. I go strictly according to those, not my own, which is as it should be. If you are outside of those than it is unlikely I will be able to match you successfully and will decline to work together.
If I sense you are very skeptical but willing to go forward anyway I will suggest we don’t. That already puts up a barrier between us and does not let our relationship flow naturally nor the process flow naturally.
I have full confidence in my own ability as a professional Denver matchmaker after practicing this career for 29 years with a success rate of 70%. But is it really all about my abilities? If you are a very picky, inflexible client and no one seems to suit you so you decline everyone I show you or who selects to meet you, then you won’t meet anyone. If people decline to meet you I can exemplify your outstanding virtues and nudge them but no client is forced to meet another client. If I introduce you to a wonderful person and you ruin the potential relationship, I can advise and counsel but ultimately the success of your relationship is up to you and that person.
If I find you difficult in our phone consultation, inflexible, unrealistic, narrow and/or demanding it is likely I will fear that a relationship with you may be more trouble than it is worth. You may seem impossible to please in which case I will decline to work together.
So that’s the story…this is such a personal endeavor we have to have a good rapport, understand each other’s expectations and agree on my philosophy. That’s what makes a good and successful client.