While practicing professional matchmaking since 1989 and seeing which clients marry and which do not, as I mentioned many times in this Blog, stop looking for perfection.
Whether you use the Internet dating sites, Meet Up, matchmakers or whatever if your standards are so high that either you can’t find people to fit them or the people who do fit them don’t want you…get real!
Over 600 singles have married through Bon Jour Matchmaking Service since 1989. Not the most beautiful, not the wealthiest, not the most famous…singles with realistic and sincere, in-depth criteria and expectations. Those are the people who get married. Even on the Internet I know of a few couples who married but they aren’t models or moguls, they found their most appropriate match. Not someone to impress their peers or someone who does everything they do.
Also I have friends and family who have married people they don’t have lots of activities in common with but what they do have are commons goals, values and morals. Activities can be cultivated. If you are so focused on a specific activity or two and demand they do those also you are going to miss out on people who might have been your best partner in life. There’s more to life than skiing, bicycling and hiking…stuff happens and you need to look for more than appearance and activities.
Look at the couples you know or even have just observed…they probably aren’t models or moguls or have every single thing in common. But they may still have outstanding relationships/marriages. I know several who have lasted 25 and 30+ years, including my own parents. They love each other and accept each other and appreciate their differences and respect those while cultivating commonalities through the life of their years together.