In the 33+ years I’ve been matchmaking, the one component that people who meet a mate possess is…they don’t raise their standards just because they are in a service. All of the Bon Jour Matchmaking Service clients who married (600+ people, 300+ couples) were realistic in their expectations and chose matches that they would choose anywhere outside of the service.
When you join a local service, you are exposed to singles who you would never have met otherwise. They may travel a lot or live in communities you never visit. They may be involved in some activities slightly different than yours, so you don’t meet through those. Take advantage of the fact that but for Bon Jour (or any local service) your paths would never have crossed.
Over the years I’ve seen clients turn down perfectly appropriate profiles of clients in the service when outside of the confines of Bon Jour I’ve seen them with people who don’t come close to the “standards” they put forth with me. Just because you are investing in a professional to assist you doesn’t mean you should close yourself off to people that you might otherwise have met outside the service.
When you go to the supermarket, the post office, the doctor, work, a restaurant or walk in the park clients are more open to people who do not necessarily meet their high standards when hearing or viewing profiles. Why would you close yourself off inside of a service when you are open outside? That doesn’t make sense. You are shooting yourself in the foot if that is the way you approach your time in local services.
I do adhere to the criteria and preferences you give me and come as close as possible to the “perfect” match(es).
I can provide tons of information, lots of photos, my input and my upscale clientele for your perusal. Also, when I am out and about, I always scan venues for singles who would fit for each of my clients and approach those singles to join Bon Jour. The last woman I approached in a Pilates class became engaged in 2 months to the first man she met through Bon Jour and they are now married. So, I am proactive when living life to encourage singles who fit for my clients to consider the service, as well as social media and referrals.
The bottom line is…be open as much as a client inside of a service as you are when you are living your life and you may get the results you want much faster.