One Little Suggestion Can Help You Succeed

In the 33+ years I’ve been matchmaking the one component that people who meet a mate possess is….they don’t raise their standards just because they are in a service.  All of the Bon Jour Matchmaking Service clients who married (626 people) were realistic in their expectations and chose matches that they would choose anywhere else outside of the service had they had the good fortune to meet them.

When you join a local service, you are exposed to singles who you would never have met otherwise.  They may travel a lot or live in communities you never visit.  They may be involved in some activities slightly different than yours, so you don’t meet through those.  Take advantage of the fact that but for Bon Jour (or any local service) your paths would never have crossed.

Over the years I’ve seen clients turn down…

When you first contact me to ask questions about my service, that is when we both start evaluating whether my structure, philosophy and personality fit for you and I assess whether you are someone my clientele would be interested in meeting, truly understand my philosophy, whether you are realistic, your dating attitude and whether we communicate well enough to work together.  To make this a successful partnership both sides have to fit…just like with your matches.

As it says all over my website this is anOLD FASHIONED MATCHMAKING SERVICE. Presumably you are calling me because you understand that and all that means. So to ask me how many are in my “database” right off the bat tells me you don’t get it. My clients are not a “database”, they are clients. Would you want to be considered part of a database or a client? One implies a much…

Which Do You Prefer?

Are you the type of person who falls for charm and charisma and lives to regret it? Those charismatic charmers are often called scammers. I have a relative who is very, very charismatic, however once he’s “got” you he’s like a snake and will bite you the minute you are off guard. Yes, they are wonderful to chat with but beware of doing business with them or getting romantically involved.

When you are doing business and making a financial investment whether it be with a financial advisor or a personal Matchmaker, is it more important to you that they have a “good bedside manner” even if they are not trustworthy? There are many business owners like that in all categories of business who have left a trail of very pissed off people behind them. In the long run the truth is the most important component regardless…

When you decide to work with me at Bon Jour Matchmaking there is an agreement on both parts.  As your personal Matchmaker I will make every effort to point you in the right direction, counsel you when you receive negative feedback, step in when I feel you may be doing something to sabotage your success and coach you in a variety of areas.  I will select people especially for you who you describe at the time of your interview you wish to meet and you will always have the final say based on photos and a detailed profile whether this person feels good to you.

As a client of Bon Jour Matchmaking presumably you have hired me, not only for my expertise in matching you and for the high quality of clientele I represent, but also to steer you in the right direction when you lose your way.  To coach…

Who hasn’t wondered what happened when a relationship with so much potential ended.  Why someone didn’t call you back after a first date.  I know the answers right from my clients’ mouths.  If you view some of the Posts on POSTS TO READ BEFORE JOINING ANY DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE you will see some that will cause you to have a light bulb over your head reaction.

Whether you are a Denver single who uses any venue to help you meet the “right” person, it becomes both of your responsibilities to make that work.  Through 33+ years of feedback after initial meetings and throughout the dating experience from both sides I have accumulated insights as to why things did not work out.  As a client of Bon Jour Matchmaking I coach you through your dating experience which also gives you information about what the other person is thinking or may be…

How to Interpret Negative Yelp Reviews of Businesses

Owning a matchmaking service is a slippery slope…you are managing people’s hopes and dreams as well as egos and expectations.  Many people who join a service have higher criteria for the people they meet in the service than they would in the “real” world.  So they may turn down potential introductions that could have blossomed into a lifetime if they had not been so overly particular.

Regarding negative reviews…people have many agendas when writing either a positive or negative review of a business. Specifically in a matchmaking or dating service, again we are talking about hopes, dreams and ego. If a person was unsuccessful for any reason they may have a vendetta against that service. It may have nothing to do with the service itself, the owner or even the clients. In fact it may have alot to do with that client’s…

Recently I’ve had the experience with several new clients when they initially called asking what an “open-ended contract” meant.  Other Denver matchmaking services may refer to it as a “Lifetime Contract” or a “Platinum Package” and charge you a lot extra to have that benefit.  EVERY client of Bon Jour has an open-ended contract!  That’s the way it should be if you are a REAL matchmaker.  You never know when that right person will appear and you want to be there when they do!  The longest so far that I’ve worked with a client is 11 years and she DID get married in that 11th year to a man who became a widower the year before and joined my service after that…see, you never know when…

My feeling is that calling it a Lifetime Contract or package is kind of depressing. Also that is not what I mean by open-ended.

Rather than feeling like people perceive you as desperate or a loser, you should really feel that because you are so special and have so much going for you that you’ve chosen to have the exclusive representation of a professional matchmaker!

Working with a Denver matchmaker is not something you should feel embarrassed about.  Do you feel embarrassed that you have a CPA do your taxes?  That you have a hairdresser cut and/or style your hair?  That you have a stock broker manage your investments?  You choose to work with professionals who excel in their fields so that you will get the best results.  Why would that be any different with a professional Denver matchmaker?

You would think people would be more embarrassed to admit they met on the Internet dating sites, dating apps or in a bar.  In this day and age those venues are more for the average…

Since 1989 I’ve observed the types of people who have the most success working with me.  Contrary to popular belief they are not the most beautiful or handsome, in fact they are usually average to a bit above average.  They are not the richest men, they are realistic men and women.  They pay attention to the feedback I give them and suggestions I make to improve their success.  Bon Jour Matchmaking does not accept people who are married or separated.  So below is a short list of the qualities that will make a single successful in the Denver matchmaking market:

1.Realistic– If you come in with the expectation that you can place your order and expect that person to either currently be on file waiting for you or that I can conjure them up you are not being realistic.You know your strengths and weaknesses and you should…