For some reason when singles consider working with a matchmaker or joining a local Denver matchmaking service their expectations are almost totally unrealistic.  Do you use the stock market?  It goes up and down and is never a sure thing.  Neither is investing in real estate as we saw in the last few years.  You join fitness clubs and don’t lose weight or get in shape.  And the list goes on…

But when people hire matchmakers they expect a guarantee.  Why is that?  You are usually considering this because other avenues have not worked.  They didn’t give you a guarantee and didn’t work.  Neither can a matchmaker.  You come with your own criteria, preferences and baggage.  Those three things totally effect your success or failure.  They are yours so you need to own them and not blame Denver dating or matchmaking services for your lack of success.

You will do…

A gentleman joined Bon Jour Matchmaking a year ago in August.  He selectively met a couple of women who appealed to him.  Then for several months he met a woman he dated for a while.  A few months ago a new woman joined Bon Jour who also met a couple of men.  Much of her time has been spent going back and forth out-of-town taking care of her mother in between those matches.

Upon her return about a month ago I matched these two clients and wallah, they are a great match with both seeing long-term potential!  If either had been on a limited contract they probably would not have met.  This scenario has happened countless times through the years with clients of Bon Jour Matchmaking Service all due to the open-ended contract!  They are now engaged as of 2015!  They’ve been married since 2015!

Timing has so much to…

Recently I’ve had the experience with several new clients when they initially called asking what an “open-ended contract” meant.  Other Denver matchmaking services may refer to it as a “Lifetime Contract” or a “Platinum Package” and charge you a lot extra to have that benefit.  EVERY client of Bon Jour has an open-ended contract!  That’s the way it should be if you are a REAL matchmaker.  You never know when that right person will appear and you want to be there when they do!  The longest so far that I’ve worked with a client is 11 years and she DID get married in that 11th year to a man who became a widower the year before and joined my service after that…see, you never know when…

My feeling is that calling it a Lifetime Contract or package is kind of depressing.  Also that is not what I mean by open-ended. 

When hiring a Matchmaker you share the responsibility with the Matchmaker to work together, put your best foot forward, have an amicable relationship with that Matchmaker and be realistic in your expectations.

If you join a matchmaking service it is their responsibility to show your profile to the most appropriate candidates. Not to waste your time setting you up with prospects that do not fit your preferences. It is your responsibility to be realistic with your criteria and realize that whenever you are shown a profile you have the right to turn it down. Conversely when your profile is shown to a prospect they have every right to turn you down. Remember that although new clients come in every week they may not fit your preferences, be the opposite sex or select to meet you. So the key is patience…sometimes there is a match right away and sometimes it can…

When Robin Williams reached Heaven this morning even God gave him a standing ovation.  There really was only one like him.  They say that about many people but in his case he was the definition of unique.  We’ll never see another Robin Williams in our lifetime.  We won’t forget what a superb actor he was…he just did it all with ease.

I can’t help but think of the enormous loss this is to the many people he touched who he worked with over so many years and on so many projects.  The other celebrities who grew up with him.  And, of course, his family and friends who must be in the depths of sadness.

His humor, talent and compassion helped so many people escape from the stress of their lives but sadly no one was able to help him with his own challenges. I’m sure everyone second guesses themselves as…

All information about Denver matchmaking services has come directly from either printed reviews and material already online and/or from callers or clients.  This is not my personal review.

Yes, again a news magazine, this time 20/20, as has Dateline NBC, reported on a rapist who chose his victims from the Match.com inventory.  According to 20/20, the Philadelphia police estimate that at least 21 women who met this guy, Jeff Marsalis, on Match.com were drugged by him and raped.  The women had only vague memories of the incident, which is not unusual having been slipped a date rape drug when they went for drinks.

What attracted all of these women to this guy?  He lied his ass off.  Not unlike many people using Internet dating services.  His lies ranged from his occupation being a doctor, a med student, in the CIA, in the NASA Flight Surgeon program, and more.  He had…

UPDATE:  It is now 2022 and over these several years since this incident, several other “matchmakers” around the country have contacted me in a similar way.  They don’t know me, my service or my clients NOR DO THEY ASK ANYTHING ABOUT ANY OF THOSE!  Yet they are more than willing to ask me to pimp out my clientele so they can fulfill THEIR contract!  THESE ARE NOT MATCHMAKERS!  Consumers need to start being more savvy instead of being ripped off constantly.  READ the contract in full before signing it!  With every new client, they have to read the contracts in front of me before I start the interview.  It’s been that way for 34 years!

I received this email. It is so unprofessional I can’t believe it. Does her “client” even know she’s doing this? She doesn’t say who she is, anything about the client other than she…

Open-ended contract…you are a client until…until you reach your goal;

One Matchmakerwho knows ALL of her clients;

You are ONLY introduced to my clients who I’ve met personally, interviewed and who have had a background check;

34 years of experience in Colorado matchmaking;

300+ marriages;

Feedback both positive and negative to assist you;

Background checks at MY expense on every client;

Coachingto correct unproductive and unsuccessful dating patterns;

Extensive profileswithcurrent photosfor clients to view;

Collaborativeeffort between client and Matchmaker;

Clients decidewho they are interested in meeting after I select appropriate profiles that fit on both sides;

VERY reasonable investmentfee based on each individual client’s situation;

Make your investment fee backif you get married, move or leave Bon Jour.

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