MICHELE, WILL YOU DO MONTH TO MONTH?
The short and direct answer is NO. That is just a gimmick to continue to charge clients every month and does not give clients enough time to meet the right person.
For 35 years my clients have enjoyed an open-ended contract, which is one of the main reasons they chose to work with Bon Jour!
This contract is the best way for singles to insure they will meet their permanent mate, giving them the gift of time.
Remember, this is not a dating service that just throws people at you to meet a contract. I have clients who have been married since the early 1990s! That is because of the structure of Bon Jour Matchmaking.
MICHELE, WHAT IS YOUR MATCHMAKING SUCCESS RATE?
I am often asked that question…the complete answer is…it’s not just about me. There are 2 people in a relationship. I coach, suggest, share information and listen. But ultimately, it’s up to those 2 people to make their relationship work.
There have been many instances early on when, because of a lack of communication usually, the potential relationship starts to derail. That’s when I step in and share information and coach so that every match has the best chance of progressing.
There have been many matches that would not have progressed to marriage had I not stepped in. But of course, the first step is putting the right people together. With the amount of information shared on each client’s profile, as well as their pictures, and each client making the decision themselves who appeals to them…that is the first component to a successful match.
It’s not rocket science, but after almost 35 years of professional matchmaking, that is why so many of my clients have gone on to long and happy marriages!
ARE YOUR CRITERIA REALISTIC and IN YOUR BEST INTEREST IN MATCHMAKING SERVICES?
I have 2 male clients who turn down everyone who selects to meet them by saying they aren’t good looking enough. I know that one of them is comparing everyone against his ex-wife (who cheated on him and left him). I always say, this is a matchmaking service, not a modeling agency. I recently presented a new woman to him who would have been a perfect match, but, of course, he declined based on looks.
Recently a woman called for Bon Jour Matchmaking and her height requirement was unrealistic. She only wanted to meet men 6’2″ to 6’4″! Not every guy will fall into that category, and she is missing out on great guys under 6’2″! Although I have clients in that range, there surely will be other criteria that may exclude them. That was a deal breaker for her, so we chose not to work together.
Another woman who has used many of the Dating Apps and internet dating sites phoned and one of her main criteria was that because she earns a very high salary, her minimum income requirement for the men was $500,000 a year. This was based primarily on her ex-husband who earned less and felt emasculated because of that. Again, eliminating great guys even minimally under that salary.
If you are deciding to utilize a professional matchmaking service, you should take a good look at what’s important in a long-term marriage/relationship. Ask your friends or your parents who have been married for many years what they think are the most important criteria. To come in with criteria that is purely superficial even though I have clients who fit in those categories, is not the big picture.
I agree things should be reasonably equal with income for many reasons and I have clients who fit her criteria but would not be a fit for other reasons. This woman had many criteria that could eliminate a very good potential match. Even when searching for a home, you generally don’t get everything you want, you have to focus on what’s most important.
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