Born and raised in Wilmington, Delaware I moved to Denver in 1981. I had never been here, did not know anyone here and did not have a job. Just showed up bright eyed and bushy tailed…

For the first few years I had a variety of jobs but primarily was a legal secretary. Excited to be in this big city with so many options and people, I dated veraciously which in hindsight may have been my mistake. After 8 marriage proposals I never really met the “right” one for me…so I know that the “numbers game” is just that…a game not worth playing.

As a lifelong insomniac I realized that working specific hours was making it worse so decided to start my own business with my own hours. The only service then was GE and as a single myself looked at their structure which was overpriced and impersonal and decided…

I had a guy phone me for my service. He left a message and I needed to call him back, but before doing so I decided to do a background check. Regardless of what I find on that I always call people back out of courtesy, even when I know I’m going to decline to work with them.

What I found on the background check, although several years ago, was Rape, Sodomy, public intoxication, DUIs. The first 2 had been dismissed, but that may mean he had a good attorney. Obviously, I was going to decline to work with him.

So we were talking and he has used Kelleher and Associates who he paid $29,000 to, who claimed to have clients in Denver but didn’t. Then he hired Tawkify for $9,000 for 1 year. They also did nothing. So, with each he kept telling me that he could have done…

The email below clearly shows my coaching and a brand new client who hired me specifically for that, who clearly does not want a relationship either with me or my clients to be successful: (the names have been disguised to protect the innocent and that CLIENT)

Dear CLIENT,
I received the email above from K this morning. So…here is a list of all of the things you have, according to her that turned her off and put me off:

1. Sent the answers to the questions inside an email without the questions when told to attach it so it could be printed out and attached to your profile;
2. Sent the total opposite pictures of what I not only asked you to send, but showed you on the computer at the time of your interview. Got into a fight with me when I kept trying to explain what type of…

Which Do You Prefer?

Are you the type of person who falls for charm and charisma and lives to regret it?  Those charismatic charmers are often called scammers.  I have a relative who is very, very charismatic, however once he’s “got” you he’s like a snake and will bite you the minute you are off guard. Yes, they are wonderful to chat with but beware of doing business with them or getting romantically involved.

When you are doing business and making a financial investment whether it be with a financial advisor or a personal Matchmaker, is it more important to you that they have a “good bedside manner” even if they are not trustworthy?  There are many business owners like that in all categories of business who have left a trail of very pissed off people behind them.  In the long run the truth is the most important component regardless…

Every day I receive calls at Bon Jour Matchmaking Service from single Denver men who exclaim they want beautiful, fit women to meet.  My question to you is do you look like Pierce Brosnan, Clive Owens or Hugh Jackman?  These are Hollywood’s sexiest men and not only because they are soooooo handsome but even more so because of who they’ve chosen to spend their lives with.  If you don’t look like any of these types of men, maybe you need to reassess the “beautiful model type” you are searching for.

These are long married and happy couples.  Not like the ones choosing only models who play musical wives.  And have you noticed, you don’t hear about these men cheating on their wives like with men who were married to beautiful women like Halle Barry, Sandra Bullock, Tiger Woods’ ex-wife or Jennifer Aniston and yes, even Christie Brinkley, etc.   Which…

The failure of some Denver Dating/Matchmaking Services continues to present itself to me through clients who have fallen for a slick sales pitch.  According to my clients who have used certain other local Denver dating or Denver matchmaking services, following are things to BEWARE of:

1. Interviews you in a public forum, i.e. a noisy and crowded coffee-house or at a hotel or restaurant;

2. Charges thousands of dollars to join for a limited time;

3. Sells you a certain number of dates;

4. Does not SHOW you profiles WITH pictures of prospective matches or a background check (that they may have charged extra for);

5. Has a lot of negative reviews online;

6. Has a poor rating with the BBB of Denver;

7. Charges one sex nothing and the other sex too much;

8. Just started their business and has no track record or clients (that may be why…

This service deals in honesty and reality.  If you are calling to hear someone only confirm what you think, this is probably not the service for you.  I accept or reject clients both according to the preferences and criteria of my clients and whether your goal lines up with my clientele and you understand my structure and philosophy.

A woman called this morning and when I asked her age (63) she right away said I DO NOT WANT TO MEET MEN THAT AGE.  I LOOK GREAT AND THEY WOULD NEVER KNOW MY AGE!  My answer is…first of all I’m not accepting women over 55 at the moment because men in that age range often want to date younger women so they are not going to go up to 63 regardless of what you look like.  She then proceeded to tell me how superficial my men are after just declaring the…