CHANNEL 7 KMGH INVESTIGATION ON IJL (It’s Just Lunch) A MUST VIEW

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Class action lawsuit claims It’s Just Lunch defrauded customers

Local matchmaker service faces legal action as many of its customers call It's Just Lunch a waste of money

By:Jennifer KovaleskiPosted at6:00 PM, Feb 15, 2021and last updated10:51 PM, Feb 15, 2021

DENVER — Elizabeth Young first saw ads for It’s Just Lunch in airplane magazines.

After not having luck with other online dating apps, Young, a 41-year-old school counselor, said she decided to write a check to It’s Just Lunch Denver. It cost Young $2,700 for a lifetime membership and then a fee of roughly $90 per month.

The dating service sells itself as an elite international matching service that has offices across the country, including in Denver.

“What they say is ‘It’s Just Lunch is the world’s No. 1 personal matchmaking service. It’s personal, it’s private, it’s convenient, it’s real.’ They just forgot it’s a scam,” said Young, while reading the company’s website.

She saw the purchase as a major investment with the promise of handpicked…

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STUNNING MATCHMAKER NEWS OUT OF NEW YORK

I was contacted this week by a New York writer doing an article on “high end” matchmaking services. He wanted my take on several comments to him by some “high end” matchmakers.

He shared that one of the “matchmakers” said she has 2,000 women and only 30 men. Well, I knew right away what was going on there. She isn’t charging the women and she’s charging the men twice as much to make up for the lack of income from the women. There is a trend in that direction with some companies.

Then he shared that a “matchmaker” told him the women aren’t her clients since they don’t pay. She only considers the men her clients, since they were charged. I’m sure if you ask the women who signed up with her, they would “think” that she’s representing them. But, apparently, not true. She’s just collecting women to throw at her paying male clients. That exists here in Denver as well.

He mentioned “schools” that teach people how to be matchmakers. What do I think of those? I said they are a money-making gimmick. It’s not rocket science…you do your homework by studying various matchmaking services (and now there are hundreds) and decide which aspects of those appeal to you, fit your personality as a business owner and matchmaker and off you go. If you know anything about websites and SEOs that’s how you can start marketing. This concept of teaching has only been around for maybe 10 years? I started in 1989 and was the first solo, old-fashioned matchmaker. I had only 1 service to study that was impersonal and expensive and that was enough to start a 34-year career!

Also, I tried to hammer home the point that singles need to be good consumers. If you are looking for a matchmaking service and the title of the service has the word dating…it’s NOT a matchmaking service, it’s a dating service!

He asked if I felt that those “high end” services were giving my profession a bad name…YES!

DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICES WITH DATA BASES…ASK THIS QUESTION…WHAT IS DIFFERENT ABOUT YOUR SERVICE THEN THE OTHERS?

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Most other Denver matchmakers accumulate singles into what they refer to as their “data base”. They may not even charge to do that if they feel that assisting you is a long shot. It’s more to be able to tell prospective paying clients how many people they represent (but they leave out that many of those haven’t made a financial commitment).

These services do not have enough clients so they use this to prop up their meager clientele. I guess it’s worth doing if there is no charge. They generally do not do an extensive interview on you or the others, don’t present you with a profile or pictures…and really isn’t that what you are there for? To find out more about these individuals in depth unlike the apps and dating sites?

Also, when judging whether to join a service, ask, what’s different about your service that I can’t get…

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ARE YOU SEEKING A DENVER DATING SERVICE…OR A DENVER MATCHMAKER?

Because these terms are used interchangeably, most people don’t realize there is a significant difference between dating and matchmaking services.

The most obvious is…if the name says “dating” then it IS a dating service. What that means is they sell you a package of DATES at an exorbitant fee for a limited period of time. You are not shown profiles or pictures and THEY make the decision who you meet. Now think about it…they don’t know you, don’t know your taste…how can they possibly set you up with an appropriate match, unless it’s dumb luck or fate. Read the reviews of this structure of service, that’s what they say repeatedly. They were not introduced to people who fit what they specified in the interview.

Dating services like to use the term MATCHMAKER(S) to appeal to serious minded singles EVEN THOUGH THEY ARE JUST DATING SERVICES.

A real MATCHMAKER gives you an open-ended contract as there is no way to know when the “right” person will come in. They may be there when you interview, but if not, at least you have the gift of time to find the right person without being charged a new “sign up” fee. A real MATCHMAKER has an extensive profile on each client and several pictures to share with each potential match. Client and Matchmaker work together to choose who are the best and most appropriate matches. Matchmaker has interviewed every client, in-person and has a track record of marriages as well as years in business.

Bon Jour Matchmaking Service has been in business since 1989 with over 300 marriages!

So, there you have it…be careful, consider all options and select which structure fits the best for you personally.

SOME FREE ADVICE FOR SINGLES FROM A VETERAN DENVER MATCHMAKER

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Let’s start with the men:

Men are very visual and want a woman who is fit and healthy, has an interesting style and he will be proud to introduce to friends, family and co-workers.  Do you have any idea how hard it is to find men in Denver who dress well????  They are few and far between.  The best way to make a great first impression on a woman is to give your attire as much thought as women do before meeting you.  Especially in Denver where everyone is overly casual.  There is casual stylish and neat and there is casual sloppy.   Women are just as visual as men.  If you have facial hair make sure it is cropped so if you are inspired to go in for the kiss it doesn’t scratch her and make her back up.  Wear deodorant and/or cologne, preferably both but at least one of…

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MYTHS AND TRUTHS ABOUT MATCHMAKING SERVICES AND DATING SERVICES

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In my opinion thenumber 1 myth is…the more expensive a service is the more successful it is and the higher quality their clients are. If you look at reviews of the most expensive services around the country as well as Denver matchmaking services, you will see many, many negative reviews. So you should not judge a service by what they charge you. Many are just greedy and want to make lots of money for doing nothing.

  1. If a service says they have lots of clients for me should I trust that? MYTH, NO, NO, NO. A real matchmaking service has no idea how many clients fit for you until they interview you thoroughly. To throw out arbitrary numbers over the phone is unprofessional and merely a sales tactic.
  2. If a service has been covered by the media that means it is a good service and you can…

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MYTHS AND TRUTHS ABOUT MATCHMAKING SERVICES AND DATING SERVICES

In my opinion the number 1 myth is…the more expensive a service is the more successful it is and the higher quality their clients are.  If you look at reviews of the most expensive services around the country as well as Denver matchmaking services, you will see many, many negative reviews.  So you should not judge a service by what they charge you.  Many are just greedy and want to make lots of money for doing nothing.

  1. If a service says they have lots of clients for me should I trust that?  MYTH,  NO, NO, NO.  A real matchmaking service has no idea how many clients fit for you until they interview you thoroughly.  To throw out arbitrary numbers over the phone is unprofessional and merely a sales tactic.
  2. If a service has been covered by the media that means it is a good service and you can trust what you see in the news story.  MYTH,  Again, if you look at reviews of some of those services you will see that clearly the reporter/writer did not do their due diligence before writing or reporting the story.  It is not wise to join a service or use any company JUST because they were covered by the media.
  3. If you make a major financial investment in a service then it should work for you.  MYTH,  A service cannot overcome, in many cases, your own personal issues/habits or force clients to meet each other.  If you work with a Professional Matchmaker who coaches you that should increase the odds of it succeeding.  It is just one of many options of how to meet like minded, appropriate people who have the same goal.
  4. All you have to do is join a service and you do not have to put any effort into it.  MYTH,  If you decide to make the financial investment you should also realize you have to invest psychologically.  If you are coached to update a look, write something to be more appealing, cooperate when sending in photos or whatever you should be prepared and willing to do so.  To just plop down some money and expect everything to take care of itself is not realistic and not the point of working with a Professional Matchmaker.
  5. If you join a Denver matchmaking or Denver dating service that does not show you profiles or photos, but selects FOR you because you have bought a package of so many dates for so many months you will be happy with that.  MYTH,  Most people who contact me have either looked at that structure or tried it or know someone who has and were very unhappy with the results.  Check out their reviews…  How can someone select FOR you after meeting you once briefly and not showing you any information?  What are you paying for?
  6. That because you are a “mature” man who is financially set you deserve to meet beautiful, YOUNG women since you are paying to use a Matchmaker.  MYTH,  I can’t speak for other services but my female clients are highly educated, financially stable/secure, attractive, extremely interesting individuals (even the younger ones) who are interested in meeting ONLY age appropriate men, especially if they are younger and looking to start a family.
  7. I’ve been asked by some singles if they will for sure meet someone.  TRUTH,  My response is that is primarily up to you.  If you turn down every profile you are shown and say no to every person who selects you, then NO, you will not meet anyone.  But you are in control of that, not I.  I can present clients who fit what you are looking for and are good matches but if you always say NO then I guess the answer is no.
  8. You specifically join a Denver matchmaking service that offers coaching so one would assume you are open and willing to accept suggestions and feedback.  TRUTH,  Why else would you join a service with coaching?  If you don’t listen to the suggestions and feedback, again you may not be as successful.  What other venue can give you feedback about what the other person is thinking?  Only working with a Professional Matchmaker.
  9. That reviews of matchmaking/dating services are a reflection of the service.  MYTH,  NOT ALWAYS TRUE.  As listed above the client has a lot to do with their own success.  Lots of people get mad because they are disappointed that a service didn’t solve all of their dating issues.  Sometimes those reviews are a reflection of the client not the service.  If you are narrow in your criteria and inflexible that is your prerogative, however that probably will reflect your success.
  10. The length of time in business is not a reflection of how successful a service is.  MYTH,  This is a very competitive field especially in Denver.  The longer a company (like any company) has been in business the more credibility it should have…of course you have to figure that in with many other factors.  But length of time in business is certainly one.  Bon Jour Matchmaking Service is celebrating 34 years of full-time Denver matchmaking success!
  11. Aren’t dating services and matchmaking services the same?  MYTH, a dating service sells packages of dates, with no information or photos and selects for you.  You buy a package for 6 months with 6 introductions.  They merely throw someone at you once a month disregarding your criteria and preferences to meet the contract…THAT’S A DATING SERVICE!  A genuine matchmaker gets to know you, shares profiles and pictures with you and guides you through YOUR selection process based on taste and common information presented in that profile.  A matchmaker should extend to every client an open-ended contract as well to give the right person for you the time to present themselves.

WHY YOU MAY NOT BE THE RIGHT CLIENT FOR THIS DENVER MATCHMAKER

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Singles hire a matchmaker because they are having trouble of some kind in their interactions with dating.  Yes, it is to find the right person who has as yet been elusive, but there may be many things you yourself are doing that derail, curtail or just plain prevent successful long term relationships.

One glaring example is you are difficult or impossible to connect with. Whether it be by phone or setting up meetings or dates. If I have trouble getting you on the phone that alerts me that my clients may also have difficulty that may cause them to get frustrated and just move on. If that’s how I feel you can be sure that’s how they will feel. If I find this the case before you even become a client (which happened this morning) I will suggest that you contact another Denver matchmaking service. My clients expect and deserve…

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EXAMPLES OF POTENTIAL CLIENTS BON JOUR MATCHMAKING HAS DECLINED

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I received a call from a 62 year old doctor who is interested in dating women in their thirties and having children. He has never been married or had children. So now, at the age of 62 that’s his agenda. My women are ONLY interested in meeting men who are age appropriate, especially to have children with. DECLINED…

I received a call from a 36 year old man who is divorced, no children. His primary focus was how many women he would meet and how quickly. He told me that he met 100 women in a 2 year period through internet dating services and dating apps. He also did not want children or to date someone with children and in the age range he specified my women either have them or want them.

I am a matchmaker with all that implies. I do not just throw people at each other…

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SOME ADVICE WHEN READING THROUGH REVIEWS (In general)

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I’d say first keep in mind how long the company has been in business. If it’s 5 years or less there shouldn’t be lots of negative reviews. If it’s 20+ or 30+ years you have to realize how many people they have worked with and even just by percentages there are going to be people who are unhappy for whatever reason.

Also Yelp, in particular, hides many, many, many 5 star reviews if you don’t buy their services…

Consider the source (the reviewer) when reading those negative reviews. Are they vicious, taking shots at things that have nothing to do with service but just to be petty? Does their review sound like it came from someone who is immature based on what they focus on and/or how it’s written?

Did the company respond to the review? Be sure to read that and see which version makes more sense. Businesses like…

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