Let’s start with the men:

Men are very visual and want a woman who is fit and healthy, has an interesting style and he will be proud to introduce to friends, family and co-workers.  Do you have any idea how hard it is to find men in Denver who dress well????  They are few and far between.  The best way to make a great first impression on a woman is to give your attire as much thought as women do before meeting you.  Especially in Denver where everyone is overly casual.  There is casual stylish and neat and there is casual sloppy.   Women are just as visual as men.  If you have facial hair make sure it is cropped so if you are inspired to go in for the kiss it doesn’t scratch her and make her back up.  Wear deodorant and/or cologne, preferably both but at least one of them.  Women put a ton of thought into that first outfit (or at least they should) and if you want that attractive, stylish woman you have to be as well.

Now for the women:

I am always shocked when in 2023 women say to me “I don’t call men”.  Well, I’m here to tell you you’d better start!  Men have told me directly they get tired of always having to call and make the plans.  If they didn’t pick up the signal that you are interested men hate rejection.  They may opt not to call if they think they will be rejected.  So, if you ARE interested you better let them know.  Also return their calls in a timely manner and initiate calls and plans.  If you don’t do it some other woman will and that’s who he will be dating.  This is 2023 stop with the “Rules” they no longer apply.  They don’t apply for wearing white after Labor Day, hemlines, haircuts, etc.  Men are tired of doing all the work.  Yes, they enjoy the chase, but they want to be chased back!

I’ve got lots of dating advice.  You may read other posts on this Blog or become a client and receive those and feedback as part of my matchmaking.

Published by Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields

I have been a professional Matchmaker for 34 years in Denver, CO. My service, Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, has facilitated 300+ marriages of 600+ Colorado Front Range singles through hand holding, personalized matchmaking. For more information go to

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