Because these terms are used interchangeably, most people don’t realize there is a significant difference between dating and matchmaking services.

The most obvious is…if the name says “dating” then it IS a dating service. What that means is they sell you a package of DATES at an exorbitant fee for a limited period of time. You are not shown profiles or pictures and THEY make the decision who you meet. Now think about it…they don’t know you, don’t know your taste…how can they possibly set you up with an appropriate match, unless it’s dumb luck or fate. Read the reviews of this structure of service, that’s what they say repeatedly. They were not introduced to people who fit what they specified in the interview.

Dating services like to use the term MATCHMAKER(S) to appeal to serious minded singles EVEN THOUGH THEY ARE JUST DATING SERVICES.

A real MATCHMAKER gives you an open-ended contract as there is no way to know when the “right” person will come in. They may be there when you interview, but if not, at least you have the gift of time to find the right person without being charged a new “sign up” fee. A real MATCHMAKER has an extensive profile on each client and several pictures to share with each potential match. Client and Matchmaker work together to choose who are the best and most appropriate matches. Matchmaker has interviewed every client, in-person and has a track record of marriages as well as years in business.

Bon Jour Matchmaking Service has been in business since 1989 with over 300 marriages!

So, there you have it…be careful, consider all options and select which structure fits the best for you personally.

Published by Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields

I have been a professional Matchmaker for 34 years in Denver, CO. My service, Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, has facilitated 300+ marriages of 600+ Colorado Front Range singles through hand holding, personalized matchmaking. For more information go to

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