37 YEARS SHOULD SAY IT ALL!

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A small business that has been in operation for 37 years demonstrates strong resilience and likely a successful business model. It suggests the business has adapted to changing market conditions, managed challenges, and built a loyal customer base over a significant period. This longevity also implies a strong reputation and potentially a well-established brand in its industry. 

If you are considering a matchmaker/matchmaking service, if you’ve had a bad experience previously or are just very skeptical, read through this website and it may put your mind at ease to call.

Practicing matchmaking since 1989 should say it all, both about my experience and my success rate as well as my integrity!

37 years is a track record throughout this country, not just Colorado. I AM the oldest practicing matchmaker in the country…both that and my success rate, along with the structure of Bon Jour should give you security in working with me.

You should understand that no service can guarantee your success. YOU have a lot to do with that, both in the choices you make and how you behave in a relationship. My success rate is directly impacted by your choices and behavior. I have for 37 years structured the service to be the best opportunity you have for success. It’s just a phone call for an exchange of information. You have nothing to lose.

WHY DOES BON JOUR SHARE THE FEE ON THIS WEBSITE?

Now in my 37th year of professional matchmaking, I have always been confident in my fee structure, therefore, there is no reason not to publish the fee.

I feel you should have as much information about Bon Jour Matchmaking as possible before calling for your FREE PHONE CONSULTATION.

I have no interest in trying to talk you into my service or justify the fee. You either understand the philosophy of Bon Jour and agree with it or you don’t. Talking people into anything does not make for a good client! If you’ve read through this site at all you can see the fee is more than justified. Unlike other services who won’t quote fees over the phone or on their websites and insist that you come in, then give you the hard sell, Bon Jour sells itself. There is no need for sales pitches.

DISCLAIMER FROM BON JOUR

DISCLAIMER

WHAT TO EXPECT FROM YOUR TELEPHONE CONSULTATION WITH BON JOUR MATCHMAKING

This is NOT a sales call. It is merely an exchange of information to see whether you fit the preferences and criteria of my current clientele AND whether Bon Jour fits what you are looking for.

I ask how you found me so I can assess which types of venues appeal to singles searching for a matchmaker.

Then I need to know the following:

  1. Your age;
  2. The age range you’re looking to meet, youngest to oldest;
  3. For men your height, for women your size;
  4. Do you have any tattoos;
  5. What part of town do you live in;
  6. Your educational level;
  7. Have you ever been married…how many times;
  8. Do you have any children;
  9. Do you have any pets;
  10. Do you understand the structure of Bon Jour and do you agree with it.

Once that has all been established, if you are a fit, I will answer any questions you have and explain the interviewing process as well as share some anecdotal stories with you.

It’s that simple! The call can run from 45 minutes up to 90 minutes, so please allow that amount of time. And PLEASE read through some of the website prior to calling.

36 YEARS OF MATCHMAKING HAS TAUGHT ME ALOT!

November 8, 2024…I have learned many lessons over this 36-year career.

The reason, I’m told by my clients, that my service is so successful, is that I am so discerning who to accept as a client. Over the years my assessment has not always been correct, and I have learned from those mistakes.

I have learned not to make decisions “for” my clients, but to always give them the power to choose who they feel is best for them. There is a collaboration between matchmaker and client, however clients have the last word.

In the past 2 months I have turned down 8 or more singles who have called for Bon Jour. Following are some of the reasons I may not accept to work with someone:

  1. Two gentlemen called who were 69 and I had no one in their age range to present to them at that time. I did suggest that they call back in a few months as the makeup of the clientele is fluid;
  2. One guy called who had very narrow criteria and I didn’t feel comfortable accepting a fee as his preferences would eliminate many people I could present to him. Again, I suggested that he try back in a few months;
  3. Another guy emailed that he was looking for women 20-25. My clientele starts at 30 at the moment;
  4. A guy called who lives in Vail. Previously I accepted a client from Vail and the distance at that time was not acceptable to my clients. He also asked about my women’s income which is 6 figures, and he made less so was not comfortable with going forward which we agreed mutually;
  5. A guy called me from Fort Collins. The few clients I’ve had in Fort Collins were also unacceptable to my clients at that point in time and his educational level was not commensurate with my clientele;
  6. A woman called who sounded crazy, so declined to work with her;
  7. I had an appointment set with a young woman. She kept asking me to go to dinner, to parties, to events, to write a book, etc. She didn’t seem to listen to the information I shared about the service on 2 occasions of 2 hour phone calls. So, I just was not comfortable going forward, which turned out to be the right decision;
  8. A guy called yesterday. Zero personality but I was hoping he’s just not a phone person. He argued with me about various structural aspects of Bon Jour. He was focused on numbers, he only wanted to text with me, and I told him I don’t text with clients, I email. I was getting a very bad feeling about the type of client he would be as he first told me that he gave another service a 1 star review on Yelp and that’s how he found me. I declined to work with him, and he IMMEDIATELY wrote a 1 star review about me on Yelp. Again, the right decision on my part!
  9. A guy called today and the first thing he said was that he was going to be a challenge. He’s going to be honest with me, he wants a woman with a big butt and hips. There were a couple of other qualifiers, but I can’t even remember them because the focus was the aforementioned. He did not fit what my particular clientele is seeking, and I will not accept money just for the sake of making money. I politely explained that, and I won’t take a fee if I feel it is unlikely that my women will be interested. It’s too much of an investment. He became VERY defensive and hung up on me.

So, there it is. A few reasons why people may not be accepted, at least at the point in time they call.

You realize that is a SUBSTANTIAL amount of income I turn down because of ethics and experience!

ASK THESE QUESTIONS BEFORE JOINING ANY DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE

DISCLAIMER

As a Bon Jour client, it is important to realize that not everyone who joins the service is a potential match for you. I will have people of the same sex, people outside of your age range, people outside of your criteria and you may be outside of theirs.

I’m often asked my success rate. I am only maybe 1/3 of the equation. Ultimately it is the two people who have to communicate and make the relationship work. I do all I can with feedback and coaching to assist in making every potential relationship go the distance.

That is the value of the open-ended contract! In a few instances, clients were with me long periods of time before fate presented the person they ultimately married. But because they believed in the service, in me and in the structure, they were patient, and it paid off!

I truly aim to only connect people with the type of match they specified which can take time. This is a matchmaking service and all that implies. I don’t just throw people at you to meet a contract. And, ultimately, each client makes the decision who they wish to meet. I cannot make clients meet each other, I just give them the space and information to make a solid choice.

So, that’s the story…

DO NOT CALL BON JOUR IF…YOU ARE CALLING FOR SOMEONE ELSE

I’ve been a personal/professional matchmaker for 36 years in Bon Jour Matchmaking. Consistently when someone, a parent, sibling, friend or grandparent has called for their single loved one it has never worked out.

That person has to be interested enough for a relationship and have the initiative themselves to make that call. There are questions I need to ask that person the one calling does not have the answers to.

Every time someone else has called, the actual single has never followed up with a call. So clearly, THEY are not the one desiring a relationship, or at least not through a service.

So, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE do not call for that single. If they don’t do the research and instigate the call, they are not interested even though you have the best of intentions.

YOU CAN’T WIN THEM ALL AS A DENVER MATCHMAKER FOR 35 YEARS

I meet and represent 100s of clients a year and have been for 35 years. Realistically there will inevitably be a client here or there who is disappointed. Either because they really didn’t understand the process or that this is a matchmaking service NOT a dating service.

Others because they got in their own way. Joining Bon Jour Matchmaking is an emotional commitment, not just a financial one. Clients should make time, in a timely manner, to meet people and put in the effort to cultivate a relationship.

When we first have the FREE initial phone consultation, I can only go by what you represent to me. Additionally, during the extensive interview I can only believe what you tell me. On the rare occasion, I find that is not consistent with their behavior going forward.

This, obviously, is not going to work for everyone. That’s why I have a more reasonable fee than other Denver matchmaking services, as well as the open-ended contract which gives clients much more of a chance of success. That is not always enough because people have their own agendas and expectations. I really do the best I can, but that’s not always enough for some people…

BON JOUR IS REAL MATCHMAKING

Because Bon Jour Matchmaking Service is REAL matchmaking, clients have to have the patience for the right match(es) to present themselves. Thus, the open-ended contract.

If you are in a hurry, it may happen right away, it has many times over 35 years, but there are times that it has taken substantial time for the right person to appear. One woman was with me for 11 years before the man she married presented after his wife died. Meanwhile, that man met and married the first and only woman he met right after becoming a client!

I have no way of knowing how long it will take or how short. That’s why the open-ended contract AND reasonable investment fee!