EVERYTHING YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT THIS DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE

 NOTE:  If your mentality is that it’s a numbers game and you wish to meet someone every week…this is NOT the service for you.  This is a MATCHMAKING service NOT a dating service.  It is VERY specific in introducing you ONLY to people who fit your criteria and preferences, and of course, you fit theirs.  THAT is why it is so successful!

To understand my overall structure please read the HOME PAGE for an overview.  Just click on the link to go to that Page or Post.  Also you may wish to read WHAT AM I PAYING FOR AT BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE.  If you are married or separated please do not call me as my clients are only interested in people who are currently available for a long term relationship and/or marriage.

Be sure to read the lists of What Effects Your Investment Fee in Bon Jour.  Any one or more of those listed may bring DOWN your fee!

One of the biggest differences about Bon Jour Matchmaking from any other service is the Win/Win Policy.  Click on the link to go to that information.

It might interest you why I turn down so many potential clients.  I think this makes a lot of sense on both sides of the equation.  In addition you may want to read WHY YOU MAY NOT BE THE RIGHT CLIENT FOR THIS DENVER MATCHMAKER.

Another Page you may want to read is WHAT TO EXPECT FROM THE INTERVIEW so there won’t be any surprises and you can view my home office. Yes, I have a private office in which I keep all my client profiles and where you can be candid and open when we meet, unlike services who interview you in public forums.  Check out  YOUR PICTURES FOR BON JOUR. 

The next Page you should view is POSTS TO READ BEFORE JOINING ANY DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE. That Page has an abundance of Posts for you to access with both general information about dating/matchmaking services as well as advice in a variety of areas, i.e., selecting services, matchmaking service fees, what turns men off, how to be a collaborative Bon Jour Matchmaking client, etc. Of course you do not have to read every Post listed on that Page, just the ones that interest you the most.

Another Post of interest may be What types of singles are the most successful when working with a Denver Matchmaker.  This information is based on knowing personally each and every client, their priorities, their preferences and their criteria.

Exciting New Policy

CLIENTS’ TESTIMONIALS is a Page you should read as those reviews of Bon Jour Matchmaking go all the way back to 1989.  I could not include all Testimonials I’ve received over the 30 years, however those should give you an idea of how clients feel about the structure and working with me.

For personal background information on me you should view the Page entitled ABOUT THIS PROFESSIONAL DENVER MATCHMAKING EXPERT. This will give you info on my volunteer work in the community, how old I was when I started the service, etc.

There are approximately 186+ Posts on Michele’s Blog all of which give you an insight into the clientele, my work ethic, the structure of the service and more.  Also the Pages on the right hand navigation will take you to important information. Once you feel you understand the service, for the most part and have questions, please phone me to chat. Especially phone me if you do not understand my philosophy or have questions about things you have read or perhaps missed reading. For my hours you may go to HOURS, LOCATIONS AND FEES for specifics.

I hope this Post/Page helps you navigate the site more easily.  Call me to schedule your FREE phone consultation at 303-756-8106 or write to michelethematchmaker@gmail.com

How To Judge Whether a Matchmaking Service Is Right For You

If my friend has used a dating service and it has either been very successful for them or unsuccessful for them, is that a good way to judge the service? Will I likely have the same outcome?

A big mistake that many people make is to judge a service by their friend’s success or lack thereof. Each person has his/her own expectations, peculiarities, taste, personality and preferences. Consequently each person may have a different experience in one service.

I may present 10 profiles to your friend that they accept and want to meet.  When you come in, based on your preferences and other information I may show you 15 profiles and you only have an interest in 2.  Everyone is different…look at your married friends’ spouses.  Would you marry them or even go on a date with them?  To each their own.

I believe, from my observations, that timing and fate have alot to do with an individual’s success, along with the aforementioned characteristics which differ from person to person. So it is unwise to judge a service by the experience of another.

What you can judge are length of time in business, success rate, whether the clientele fits for your personality and background and whether the fees are reasonable.  It is very important that the structure of the service fits with your particular personality.

WHO IS MICHELE THE MATCHMAKER FIELDS?

Born and raised in Wilmington, Delaware I moved to Denver in 1981. I had never been here, did not know anyone here and did not have a job. Just showed up bright eyed and bushy tailed…like any 25 year old.

From 25 to 33 I had a variety of jobs but primarily was a legal secretary. Excited to be in this big city with so many options and people, I dated veraciously which in hindsight may have been my mistake. After 8 marriage proposals I never really met the “right” one for me…so I know that the “numbers game” is just that…a game not worth playing.

As a lifelong insomniac I realized that working specific hours was making it worse so decided to start my own business with my own hours. The only service then was GE and as a single myself looked at their structure and decided to do the total opposite thus creating my niche which has flourished for 32 years!

During all this dating and working I volunteered as a rape crisis counselor for RAAP, a counselor for Safehouse for Battered Women and a bereavement counselor for a hospice. I also was involved in fundraising through golf tournaments such as the NFL Alumni Association and the Restaurant Association. I also volunteered at Skyview Retirement Home for 6 years specifically for those who had no family support. Was even included in one of their weddings!

I have a PhD. in dating and relationships from 40 years of doing so unlike someone who has been married for years and doesn’t know the landscape or the current dating apps and internet dating sites. I can totally relate to the frustrations, disappointments, excitement, anticipation and all that goes with trying to find your life partner. Thus allowing me to counsel, console and hand hold my clients during this process. Also to make sure that each match has the best chance by clarifying, correcting and sharing communication between clients so this delicate match has every chance of succeeding.

HOW TO BE A REALISTIC DENVER MATCHMAKING CLIENT

When hiring a Matchmaker you share the responsibility with the Matchmaker to work together, put your best foot forward, have an amicable relationship with that Matchmaker and be realistic in your expectations.

If you join a matchmaking service it is their responsibility to show your profile to the most appropriate candidates. Not to waste your time setting you up with prospects that do not fit your preferences. It is your responsibility to be realistic with your criteria and realize that whenever you are shown a profile you have the right to turn it down. Conversely when your profile is shown to a prospect they have every right to turn you down.  Remember that although new clients come in every week they may not fit your preferences, be the opposite sex or select to meet you.  So the key is patience…sometimes there is a match right away and sometimes it can take time until the right person enters the service.  Try not to get discouraged if it takes time as it is better to be set up with a few great matches than tons of people who don’t fit your preferences!

The job of the Denver Matchmaker is to go over profiles with each client and be sure there are no misunderstandings in the information set forth, also that neither party overly analyzes this information or reads into it. Using a Matchmaker will help you answer questions you’ve never even thought of.  A Matchmaker will help you focus in on what’s important, even if it may seem superficial.

Additionally coaching is an important component of matchmaking.  Many good potential relationships get derailed during the first month or two due to lack of communication as well as miscommunication.  I am there to convey and correct these issues as well as if there is something you are doing consistently to sabotage relationships I will point that out to you so that you may address the issue.  The last two marriages in Bon Jour would never have happened had I not gotten in the middle in the first couple of months and straightened out a lack of communication in both instances!

As THE Matchmaker at Bon Jour Matchmaking Service in Denver I offer the most reasonable investment to new clients in the Front Range.  You are a client until you find your match with no additional fees than the one-time investment fee and per introduction fee of $35.  That’s it, call to discuss your personal situation with me at 303-756-8106 so that I may quote you your personal investment fee.

POSTS TO READ BEFORE JOINING ANY MATCHMAKING SERVICE

Read These Pearls of Wisdom Before Investing in a Service

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Everything You Want to Know About This Denver Matchmaking Service

IS THIS YOU? THEN YOU ARE A GOOD PROSPECT FOR BON JOUR MATCHMAKING

Bon Jour Matchmaking’s Mission Statement

How To Impress Your Denver Matchmaker

What Effects Your Investment Fee in Bon Jour Matchmaking

What Does Open-Ended Contract Mean?

Why Choose Bon Jour Matchmaking Service

How To Interpret Negative Yelp Reviews

What Am I Paying For At Bon Jour Matchmaking Service?

Why Matchmakers, Dating Coaches and Dating Services Don’t Work For Everyone

In Bon Jour We Are Partners

This Matchmaker Has a Behavioral Agreement

Myths and Truths About Matchmaking Services and Dating Services

New 2013 Changes for This 24-Year Old Matchmaking Service

The Role of a Professional Matchmaker

What Types of Singles Are the Most Successful When Working With a Denver Matchmaker?

Singles, You Must Be Better Consumers with Denver Matchmaking Services

What’s the Difference Between Bon Jour Matchmaking and Other Denver Matchmaking Services?

Michele “the Matchmaker” Fields…Denver’s Heart Hunter

Who Is Michele the Matchmaker?

Matchmaker’s Advice:  Ten Tradeoffs to Capture the Love You Seek

Professional Matchmaker’s Tips to Dating and Mating

Michele the Matchmaker Answers the Question, “Is Dating Really A Numbers Game?”

THE BEST ASPECTS OF BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE

  1. Open-ended contract…you are a client until…until you reach your goal;
  2. One Matchmaker who knows ALL of her clients;
  3. You are ONLY introduced to my clients who I’ve met personally, interviewed and who have had a background check;
  4. 32 years of experience in Colorado matchmaking;
  5. 300+ marriages;
  6. Feedback both positive and negative to assist you;
  7. Coaching to correct unproductive and unsuccessful dating patterns;
  8. Extensive profiles with current photos for clients to view;
  9. Collaborative effort between client and Matchmaker;
  10. Clients decide who they are interested in meeting after I select appropriate profiles that fit on both sides;
  11. VERY reasonable investment fee based on each individual client’s situation;
  12.  Make your investment fee back if you get married, move or leave Bon Jour.

These are just the highlights.  Please read through this web site to gain more in-depth information.

WORKING WITH A MATCHMAKER SHOWS YOUR WORTH

Rather than feeling like people perceive you as desperate or a loser, you should really feel that because you are so special and have so much going for you that you’ve chosen to have the exclusive representation of a professional matchmaker!

Working with a Denver matchmaker is not something you should feel embarrassed about.  Do you feel embarrassed that you have a CPA do your taxes?  That you have a hairdresser cut and/or style your hair?  That you have a stock broker manage your investments?  You choose to work with professionals who excel in their fields so that you will get the best results.  Why would that be any different with a professional Denver matchmaker?

You would think people would be more embarrassed to admit they met on the Internet dating sites or in a bar.  In this day and age those venues are more for the average single, whereas hiring a Denver matchmaking service to work with you is more for single, well educated professionals who have excelled in their chosen careers.  Denver singles who are discriminating in who they wish to introduce into their successful lives and share a future with.

So now in 2021 consider yourself intelligent, careful and worth hiring a professional Denver matchmaker to achieve your personal goal.

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WHAT AM I PAYING FOR AT BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE?

When you decide to become a client of Bon Jour Matchmaking you pay a one-time investment fee.  What you are basically investing in is the invaluable time to work with me for as long as it may take to find the right person for you through the open-ended contract and coaching along the way.

There are no monthly or annual fees.  No re-sign up fees due to my open-ended contract.  Your Investment Fee pays for the following:

  • It covers all the time spent before you become a client on advice and information in your phone consultation which could be more than one call before you decide to come in;
  • A Matchmaker who knows all of her clients personally and has interviewed each and every one;
  • 32 years of matchmaking experience!
  • An extensive background check (cost is mine) which includes a Google search as well as social media searches;
  • The 2-hour interview in my private office;
  • Viewing confidential client profiles at the time of the interview and getting to know each other;
  • Calling your selection(s) to read them your entire profile clarifying and correcting misinterpretations and then e-mailing them your photos;
  • Should that person decline, going through the same process with your next choice;
  • When your selection says YES, collecting the $35 per introduction fee from both sides;
  • Giving out both contact information and instructions as to how to proceed and rereading profiles before the  meeting;
  • Receiving phone calls from both clients after their meeting with feedback;
  • Coaching either or both clients as to how to make a better impression, not jump to conclusions, etc.;
  • Also letting a client know someone is or is not interested if they were not clear at your meeting and WHY;
  • Once you are on file, presenting YOUR profile to all new clients who fit your preferences and criteria;
  • There are many times I may present your profile that it is not selected and I do not earn a fee;
  • There may be many times you decline to meet someone who has selected you and I do not earn a fee;
  • Going through the above process of sharing, calling, collecting and coaching;
  • The one-time filing fee covers however long or short you may be in the service;
  • Updating pictures and information as we move along.

What does the per Introduction Fee pay for?

  • This fee is ONLY paid when both clients agree they would like to meet;
  • It is paid by both clients because they are both receiving the introduction;
  • It shows that both clients feel this is a viable match and might have potential;
  • This minimal fee invested by both clients shows they both have “some skin in the game”;
  • Collecting your fee, sharing contact information, receiving feedback and
  • Coaching based on the feedback and letting you know the interest level of the person you met;
  • If either client declines a match, there is no introduction fee from either side;
  • The client controls how much they spend on introduction fees based on how many people they feel are appropriate matches and who agrees to meet them.

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