First of all, remember I’ve been matchmaking for 34 years so I have a lot of history to draw from. When I share info about singles who call me and either become clients or not, I am referring strictly to MY clientele NOT the whole world.

Over these many years I have gotten calls from men 55+ who are dead set on only meeting women 35-45. Of course, it varies depending on the person but usually 15-20 years younger or more. I choose not to work with those men in that my clients in that age range are only interested in age-appropriate men. Not a judgment call on my part merely the facts about my female clients. That scenario has been going on for years.

BUT in the past about 3 years I have been getting calls from women 55+ who say they’ve been dating men 10 and 15 years younger since they look so youthful themselves and are so energetic. Well, the same goes for them. My men who are that much younger are not interested in women 10-15 years older. So I decline to work with them as well.

This is a fairly new phenomenon recently with the women. I don’t know when there was that switch, but I can’t help women in that mindset any more than I can help men. My feeling is the reason they are coming to me (both sexes) is that dating people so much younger obviously isn’t working out…so why would you come in here and do the same thing that isn’t working?

I always assess how much I can help a prospective client. In those cases, knowing all of my clients and their preferences I have to decline. Unfortunately, I decline more people who call than I accept mostly based on my clients’ preferences and criteria. On occasion it’s because someone is hung up on numbers and this is not a dating service, it is a matchmaking service. My clients understand that finding the right person and not wasting time with lots of dates is my goal for them. In the over 300 marriages since 1989, all couples married either the first or second person they were introduced to. Not always both people but at least one, and in some cases both.

Published by Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields

I have been a professional Matchmaker for 34 years in Denver, CO. My service, Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, has facilitated 300+ marriages of 600+ Colorado Front Range singles through hand holding, personalized matchmaking. For more information go to

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