NOT IN BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE

Well my first call of the new year was from a man who claims to be 52 (looks considerably older by his photos), a multimillionaire and wants to meet women 25-40 and have children and does not want to deal with women in  menopause.  So when you call me and tell me your preferences and criteria my answer is always in the context of my service because that is what you are asking about.  If this sounds like you (even if you look younger and are a “multimillionaire”) it’s not going to happen in Bon Jour.  My women are very educated and make great incomes so wealth does not impress them at all.

How do I know?  I interview every client and know how flexible they are.  What they will agree to and what they won’t…unlike other services where there are several Denver matchmakers and not one who knows all of the clients.

I’m not saying that will never happen in the “world”, just not in my world.  Rather than take your money I opt to be honest!  If that makes you angry we are not a match!

Who Is Interviewing Who In Bon Jour Matchmaking Service?

Just as you call a company and “interview” them about their services, success rate and history, so does the service “interview” you (or they should) to make sure you are realistic, fit in with their clientele and there is some expectation that they can accomplish your goal.

In this Denver matchmaking service going on my 27th year of full time professional matchmaking, I have a set clientele who I have personally interviewed and work with.  I am their/your matchmaker, not a revolving door with matchmakers coming and going if they don’t make the quota.

I start evaluating the type of client and match you would make from your first call.  If you call and ask me to return the call, which I always do and then you never call me back until months or a year later that is not impressive.  I have a Behavioral Contract that each client signs stipulating time frames for calling, meeting and feedback so that each match flows with a good momentum which gives it more of a chance of success.  If you don’t return a call that you initiated to me that tells me you  may not be great at follow through.

If when you call you tell me how rich you are, how young you look and how picky you are that sets up a preconceived image of a person who may be hard or impossible to please and may not go with the flow or have patience with the process.

Just be thoughtful of how you present yourself when calling Denver matchmakers.  Some of them may assess your worth from that call in order to quote you a higher fee.  So watch what you say.  Remember, you may want this matchmaker to represent you in your best light so you need to present yourself that way.

What AFFECTS Your INVESTMENT in BON JOUR MATCHMAKING

Source: What AFFECTS Your INVESTMENT in BON JOUR MATCHMAKING

LENGTH OF TIME THIS DENVER MATCHMAKER HAS BEEN PRACTICING

Source: LENGTH OF TIME THIS DENVER MATCHMAKER HAS BEEN PRACTICING

A DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE THAT GOES THE DISTANCE…Can You Handle That?

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REVIEWS of BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE, Denver, Colorado

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FEES…HOURS…LOCATIONS…AND MORE…

Source: HOURS…LOCATIONS…FEES…AND MORE…

SO THIS IS WHY YOU WORK WITH A SEASONED PROFESSIONAL MATCHMAKER

A beautiful, successful mother, businesswoman and model joined Bon Jour Matchmaking in 2013.  She met a couple of men but not “the one”.  Recently I have been cultivating a relationship with a Denver meteorologist going through a divorce with this client in mind.  Once he was divorced he joined Bon Jour and she was the first one I suggested that he meet.

Since they laid eyes on each other they are crazy about each other and very hopeful this will go long term permanent.  Due to her patience with the process and his willingness to give this type of approach a try, although he was very skeptical about working with a professional Denver matchmaker, he now says that he feels they would not have had as open communication and feedback had he not gone this route.  He feels that having a professional matchmaker has made the process seamless and comfortable as well as added to the success.

So rather than ask how many people do I have in your age range right now at this moment in time, realize that good things come to those who wait.  Timing is everything…but do you have the patience to wait for the right one?  With my open-ended contract we work together until that time comes…

DO YOURSELF A FAVOR…WHEN CONSIDERING ANY TYPE OF DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE OR MATCHMAKER

For some reason when singles consider working with a matchmaker or joining a local Denver matchmaking service their expectations are almost totally unrealistic.  Do you use the stock market?  It goes up and down and is never a sure thing.  Neither is investing in real estate as we saw in the last few years.  You join fitness clubs and don’t lose weight or get in shape.  And the list goes on…

But when people hire matchmakers they expect a guarantee.  Why is that?  You are usually considering this because other avenues have not worked.  They didn’t give you a guarantee and didn’t work.  Neither can a matchmaker.  You come with your own criteria, preferences and baggage.  Those three things totally effect your success or failure.  They are yours so you need to own them and not blame Denver dating or matchmaking services for your lack of success.

You will do yourself a big favor if you stop having over-the-top expectations when using local services.  In the 34 years I’ve been matchmaking there have been clients who I was sure would be successful and weren’t, while others who I was not sure of married.  Of all the businesses you can use this one has the least predictability.  All I can do is my best to achieve your goal with your assistance.

A DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE THAT GOES THE DISTANCE…Can You Handle That?

Recently I have been contacted or worked with several women in their thirties who have had no patience.  They have never been married but expect that because they are paying a fee it should happen immediately.  They’ve even said they want this to happen yesterday.  Well, if you didn’t get it done either yourself or through other venues up to this point, why would you expect me to accomplish this immediately just because this is when you chose to come in?

I stack the deck in each client’s favor right off the bat by giving every client, for FREE, an open-ended contract.  That assures them that whenever the “right” person comes in for them they will be here.  But in this world of immediate gratification, for some people that is not good enough.  I recently spoke with a matchmaker in L.A. who said that when she charges women for her service their expectations go through the roof and she can’t deal with that anymore.  So she just has “cattle calls” for women for free but charges the ones she is sure she can match.

Nice lady but that doesn’t seem fair across the board.  Some pay, some don’t but all of the men pay.  I don’t find that equitable.  And yes, I deal with the same issue mainly from women but I have and will continue to deal with it.  Not every woman is like that and the majority understand this isn’t a quick fix.  That said it is surprising, even to me, how many clients have met their spouses on either the first or second introduction! They were so lucky and it was clearly meant to be.  Others it took however long it took but who cares as long as you achieve your goal with the “right” person!

So if you are looking for a quick fix from a Denver matchmaker proceed with packages of dates…there are many Denver matchmaking services out there who offer that.  If you are looking for real old fashioned matchmaking and the time to make it happen, perhaps Bon Jour Matchmaking is right for you…best of luck either way!