I DON’T ACCEPT EVERYONE WHO CALLS BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE

In receiving a FREE phone consultation call today from a 47 year old woman I could tell in minutes that this is not someone I would be able to assist or want to work with.  I was very direct and clear about that and although she could dish it out, she wasn’t as good at taking it.  She was shocked that I would turn her down (because you better believe that no other service would, they’d want her money) and I pointed out that isn’t it better that I don’t accept you as a client and take your money knowing I can’t help you rather than lie and just take your money?????

I will always be honest with you to the best of my knowledge through this FREE phone consultation as to whether I feel you have a good chance in the service and we can work well together or not. If I don’t feel the above I will not accept you as a client and suggest alternatives.

However, like with a recent client, the phone consultation went great, we had a great rapport so he joined the service.  He was very concerned about the very minimal investment fee that he was paying and brought it up every time we communicated.  Unfortunately once he became a client his attitude changed and when asked to follow through on things he not only didn’t but did not communicate that he couldn’t or why.  The reason always turned out to be that he was too busy…but he always mentioned the investment fee. When we first spoke he was focused and eager to find his mate, once he joined he didn’t walk the talk…we are no longer working together.  I had no way of knowing he would have an attitude change after he became a client.

Do you know there is a service in town who charged my most recent new client $5600 for 18 months and 12 “dates”.  She said NONE of the men met her criteria and she was told by the men that they were allowed to see pictures of her but the women never see pictures of the men.  Also they only read you a paragraph about the person THEY have chosen for you.  The last man she was set up with it turned out was not even a client of the service but a friend of the owner.  So she paid this ridiculous exorbitant fee and he paid nothing.  Can you guess which service?  It is a local Denver “matchmaking service” not a franchise.

I’m asking you to understand that paying a service $4,000+ does not get you a better service.  It merely makes that service rich.  READ the reviews, they are all the same.  Read the reviews of Kelleher on this site under Blog as well as Millionaire Matchmaker.  They both charge up to six figure fees and do less for their clients than I do!

WORKING WITH THIS DENVER MATCHMAKER IS A COMMITMENT

When you decide to work with me at Bon Jour Matchmaking there is an agreement on both parts.  As your personal Matchmaker I will make every effort to point you in the right direction, counsel you when you receive negative feedback, step in when I feel you may be doing something to sabotage your success and coach you in a variety of areas.  I will select people especially for you who you describe at the time of your interview you wish to meet and you will always have the final say based on photos and a detailed profile whether this person feels good to you.

As a client of Bon Jour Matchmaking presumably you have hired me, not only for my expertise in matching you and for the high quality of clientele I represent, but also to steer you in the right direction when you lose your way.  To coach you when I feel that your behavior may sabotage a potential relationship and understand and give me credit for knowing my clients so personally, how they may react to certain types of behavior, etc.  If you do not want that type of hand holding perhaps this is not the service for you.  Denver matchmaking services are filled with packages and hands off owners whose goal it is to earn as much income as possible with as little work as possible.  If we work together my goal is to accomplish your goal with as much assistance and support as you need.

In Bon Jour I try to stack the deck in your favor.  The timing, the right person, your response to that person, follow up and communication so that this very delicate match may bloom into forever.

CHECK MICHELE “THE MATCHMAKER” FIELDS OUT ON CUPID’S LIBRARY!

I received a request for an interview with Cupid’s Library last week.  That interview is now active on the Blog on that site.  Check it out on this link: http://www.cupidslibrary.com/blog/Matchmaking-Chronicles-Interview-Michele-Fields

I am always appreciative of people who want to know more about matchmaking, Bon Jour in particular and me!

BETTER LATE THAN NEVER WHEN FINDING LOVE

After a 35 year career of Denver matchmaking it is clear to me that my clients are patient and willing to wait for the right person to come along.  To help them with that goal I give every client an open ended contract, meaning they are a client until….until they meet that right person and achieve their goal.

More than half of the marriages through Bon Jour Matchmaking Service happened at that first interview when a new client was presented with the perfect match.  I lit the fire, and the rest is history.  But others have taken longer on one side or both.  Remember, this is matchmaking NOT buying a package of dates (that’s a dating service).  Thus, several things need to match up on both sides and then have chemistry.  But the majority of marriages have come from the first or second match made through Bon Jour regardless of how long that took to happen.

I tell all new clients, even if you are Miss or Mr. America I can’t promise that the perfect person is sitting here waiting for you at the exact time of your interview, they may be, but I have no way of knowing that.  So, the open-ended contract is absolutely invaluable!

Additionally, the coaching to both sides is what takes Bon Jour to the next level and has been what has made most of these matches successful!

Isn’t it better to have the “perfect” mate however long that may take then to have just somebody to call a date?

HOW MANY PEOPLE WILL I MEET IN THIS DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE?

When you call for your FREE phone consultation you may ask how many people you will meet.  First of all that is primarily up to you.  When I show you profiles at the time of your interview if you do not select anyone that is your prerogative.  If once you are on file as a client you turn down every one who wants to meet you then, again, that is up to you.

I have no way of knowing how many people you will meet and my goal is not to set you up with everyone in town.  This is matchmaking.  The phone consultation does not go into the detailed depth that the interview does so by the time I know your background and all of your criteria and preferences at the interview the number of prospective matches obviously will go down.  This is matchmaking, the information has to fit on both sides to make a match.

Most people choose to meet one person at a time, however, again that is up to each individual.  You are NOT buying a “package of dates” so however many people seem to fit and appeal to you over time you are welcome to choose.  Then it is up to each of them whether they are interested.  But there is no limit to how many people you meet.  Other than MY goal which is to hit “the one” with as few matches as possible.

The fact is you only need ONE…the right ONE.  My goal is and has always been to set you up with only the most appropriate people so that you may achieve your goal sooner than later and with as little stress as possible.

FINDING A MATE IS LIKE BUYING A HOME

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When I was searching for my home there were very specific things I wanted and specifically did not want.  The house had to have air conditioning and a foyer.  I absolutely did not want a basement.  Well, the house I fell in love with did not have air or a foyer and it did have a basement.  But my home had so many other outstanding features that I traded those for my “must haves” list.  Refer to post called Ten Tradeoffs to Finding the Love You Seek.  The difference between a “house” and a “home” is like the difference between “dating” and “matchmaking”.

It works the same way with finding love.  Sure all men want a model and all women want a loyal, sincere, educated, tall, clean shaven guy.  But that is not always who you fall in love with or can fall in love with.  As I explained…

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UNDERSTAND THIS ABOUT BEING THE CLIENT OF A DENVER MATCHMAKER

Out of all the various Denver dating services, Denver singles groups and Denver Matchmakers this is the only service that shares pictures of all clients that I am aware of.

If you choose to work with this service particularly because I share pictures and extensive profiles than understand this…the effort that you expend both during the interview for your profile and in giving photos to Bon Jour is perceived by potential matches as how really interested you are in finding love.

In fact so much so, that if a client who is not as attractive as you takes the time to get the right pictures I requested and they are great pictures…but you, even though you are more attractive, just throw pictures together for me, the PERCEPTION will be that you are not as motivated to find love.  Consequently they may select to meet the other person strongly based on that perception.

So, if you decide to work with a Denver matchmaking service like mine because of the amount of information as well as the photos do so with the mindset that you are going all in.  NOT because you are paying a fee, but because you are genuinely looking for love.

BASIC FACTS ABOUT DENVER SINGLES

Almost every single, both male and female, regardless of age has tried Match.com, eHarmony and It’s Just Lunch before calling me.  Another smaller percentage has tried POF (Plenty of Fish).  You can guess the results if they are calling me.

A small percentage have been afraid to try Internet Dating Sites for a variety of reasons.

Another percentage have not done anything proactive to advance their love lives…and chose Bon Jour for that first step.

Locally a large percentage of the above have tried services that sell packages of dates.  FYI, I call those Denver dating services, NOT Denver matchmakers or Denver matchmaking services.

A fair percentage of these singles have spent thousands of dollars on services who sell packages.  The result is that they are now calling Bon Jour Matchmaking.

Be sure to choose the appropriate service for your personality and finances.  Don’t expect the service to be a guarantee just because you’ve paid a fee, regardless of how much that fee is.  A lot of your success depends on you.  The people you choose or reject (in Bon Jour), your dating behavior and patterns and your attitude.  This is a true collaboration between client and Matchmaker.

YOUR LAST VALENTINE’S DAY ALONE

Don’t worry, if you are spending Valentine’s Day without love make up your mind this is the last one.  It’s time for you to get serious about finding the love of your life.  If you’ve played around on the Internet Dating Sites, tried dinner services or just lunch, had friends set you up with the most inappropriate people it’s time to go to a professional.  27 years in collaboration with my clients Bon Jour Matchmaking, Denver’s oldest and most successful matchmaking service, is what you are looking for IF you are serious about finding love.

Read the reviews of how hands on I am as your very own matchmaker.  Read through this web site about how Bon Jour works and my philosophy and see if it resonates with you.  If so, call me, even on Valentine’s Day and let’s talk about your goals.  Just pick up your phone, you have nothing to lose and lots to gain.  I’ve worked with some of the most skeptical singles in Denver and they have met their spouses through Bon Jour.  303-756-8106

ANOTHER NEW DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE – BE CAREFUL THEY COME AND GO

Today I am interviewing a guy who recently wasted much time and money on one of Denver’s newer “matchmaking” services.  Yes, another package deal where you receive no information or photos and they decide who to throw you together with.  This gentleman, 36, is very sincere and serious about finding love and was most disappointed in the structure of the service and lack of quality of the clients.

Now yet another gimmicky service has appeared trying to take a piece of the proverbial Denver’s singles pie with an owner with no track record, no relationship history of her own and no experience in this field.  There is a very slick website and an upfront fee to do a short pre-interview, which BTW you get for free with Bon Jour Matchmaking Service for up to TWO hours.

It is debuting with a game show from the sixties, but be careful.  You work hard for your money, unless a new service with no experience or track record signs you for FREE don’t rush into that.  The length of time in business, track record and experience are the most important factors along with the structure of the service, testimonials, reviews and BBB rating.  They also need a clientele which none of the new services have yet they charge the fees of established services.  Many of these new services have broken their services into various compartments of which you pay individually for each service.  Then they try to move you into another one to charge an additional fee.  Yes, it’s great for them to generate money from you from every direction.  But the definition of a REAL professional Matchmaker is that all of those services are under the one umbrella “MATCHMAKER”.  One fee to hire a Matchmaker who interviews, coaches, advises, directs, facilitates/matches and gives you feedback directly from clients to increase your success!  This is about maximizing your experience, not generating income for the service.

There have been so many services with the same slick websites, high fees, no clientele, no experience, etc. who have popped up, taken your money and disappeared with it in short order.  Do your research, find a service structure that fits for you, a track record, been in business for at least 5 years, experience in this field not some other and took some questionable courses with initials that are not vetted.  New services have no business charging you the fees that established Denver matchmakers with a track record charge…so be careful!