FINDING A MATE IS LIKE BUYING A HOME

CALL ME…This is NOT a “sales” call, merely an exchange of information.

When I was searching for my home there were very specific things I wanted and specifically did not want.  The home had to have air conditioning and a foyer.  I absolutely did not want a basement.  Well, the home I fell in love with did not have air or a foyer and it did have a basement.  But my home had so many other outstanding features that I traded those for my “must haves” list.  Refer to post called Ten Tradeoffs to Finding the Love You Seek.  The difference between a “house” and a “home” is like the difference between “dating” and “matchmaking”.

It works the same way with finding love.  Sure all men want a model and all women want a loyal, sincere, educated, tall, clean shaven guy with hair.  But that is not always who you fall in love with or can fall in love with.  As I explained on my post Real Couples Having Real Relationships look at those couples.  Do you really think in every case the spouse was exactly what that person had on their list of qualities?  Also check out my post on Denver Men Do You Look Like This?

So whether you use the Internet Dating Sites, local Denver dating services or a Denver matchmaker have some flexibility and be open minded, you never know in whom you will find love!

WHY HIRE A PROFESSIONAL DENVER MATCHMAKER?

If you find a professional matchmaker who is doing her job well, she will not play a numbers game.  A numbers game is for the Internet dating sites and Denver dating services who sell packages of dates.

A matchmaker considers both sides of the match carefully to be sure they fit based on the information shared with her by those clients.  The clients are always involved in the matching process as that is how your matchmaker gets to know your likes and dislikes as well as your flexibility or lack of.

A matchmaker shares lots of information on each client so that you can perceive whether they would be a good match for you, including photos.  Also the input of your matchmaker is invaluable.  Your matchmaker should also coach you when necessary and give you feedback both good and bad to assist you in making your matches successful.

If you are in a race to find a mate then you are looking for a dating service.  If you genuinely wish to find the most compatible life partner then you seek a professional Denver matchmaker.  You’ve waited this long to find the right person so why would you suddenly rush the process by buying packages of dates or meeting everyone you can on the Internet?  My process is tried and true and has a proven track record over 29 years of Denver matchmaking!

WHY CHOOSE BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE?

Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields's avatarBon Jour Matchmaking Service

Starting with some demographics and statistics Denver is comprised of 50.4% men and 49.6% women.  Surprised?  Of that population (according to the Denver Demographics and Statistics Bureau) 25.3% have never married, 13.2% are divorced and 9.3% are widowed.  So 47.8% of the Front Range population is comprised of singles in those three categories.

It is no wonder why dating services and matchmakers have popped up here like cockroaches licking their chops for a slice of the proverbial pie.  Bon Jour Matchmaking Service was created in 1989.  What I did was, as a single myself, looked at another service at the time and structured Bon Jour to be the total opposite.  Meaning…eliminate as much overhead as possible, be the sole Matchmaker who has interviewed every client, have current photos with extensive profiles, offer an open-ended contract and charge a reasonable fee.  That is how Bon Jour has stayed for…

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What’s the Difference Between BON JOUR and Other Denver Matchmaking Services?

Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields's avatarBon Jour Matchmaking Service

Following is a list of reasons why Bon Jour Matchmaking Service stands out in the Denver dating marketplace:

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1.     Matchmaker Michele’s goal is that you marry the first or second person you meet;

2.     Matchmaker Michele, the owner and operator, has interviewed and knows ALL of her clients;

3.     Bon Jour provides an open-ended contract to ALL clients at no extra fee;

4.     The filing fee is based upon the specific information from each client, there is no flat fee;

5.     Clients view profiles with current photos (headshots and full length shots);

6.     Clients decide, with the assistance of Michele, who they would like to meet;

7.     Fees are the lowest of all matchmaking services or dating services in the Denver marketplace;

8.     Michele matches ALL of the clients, there are no other employees doing the matching (there are no other employees);

9.     Bon…

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BE CAREFUL OF FLASHY NEW DENVER MATCHMAKERS

People always ask me what types of services to steer clear of…the concise answer is NEW Denver matchmaking services.  Particularly new services charging high price tags who really have no clients yet, no background in this business or anything remotely connected with it, i.e., “I’m single and like setting up my friends” or “happily married and enjoys setting up friends” as their bios. 

One of the services below is a takeoff from eHarmony’s overpriced thing where you do all the work online and talk over the phone with a “matchmaker” but are paying hundreds of dollars.  Don’t do it, you’ll be sorry.

Sleek websites are nice but the content is most important.  Be sure to read the content before getting excited about what a website looks like.  Denver matchmaking services who get clients from the Internet Dating Sites with no vetting or background info are just overcharging you for something you can do yourself (i.e. Denver Matchmaker or Monday at 8).  Why would you pay people with no background to charge you an optimum fee for something you can do yourself?  The kind of information you want from any Denver matchmaker’s website is:

  • Bios of the owner(s)/matchmaker(s) with experience in this field or psychology.  At least something working with singles professionally;
  • How long they have been in business;
  • How many clients they have;
  • Do they vet their clients;
  • Their success rate;
  • Their hours!
  • Why they deserve the fee they are charging;
  • Testimonials (more than one);
  • Always check out their BBB rating and read some reviews (if they’ve been around long enough to have any).  Remember, the longer a business has been operating the more people they have dealt with who may not have had success along with the ones who have reached their goal.
  • Do they have any legitimate Press acknowledging them?
  • Great information to help you navigate both their site and dating in general.

I am here 7 days a week from 9am to 7pm to answer any questions you may have…303-756-8106.

 

LOVE IS NOT A QUICK FIX

I heard a story on the news yesterday about a way to fast track your love for someone.  I know we live in a society of quick fixes and immediate gratification but not all things should go that way.  This particular gimmick was pages of questions for 45 minutes and then staring at each other for FOUR minutes to create intimacy.

Is it really necessary to create intimacy on the first meeting or date?  The usual recommendation for a first meeting is not to get too serious about any subject.  It is a preliminary “date” to see if there is a reason to pursue.  That is more of a feeling than an inquisition!  Reading through this site you will see that Bon Jour Matchmaking’s philosophy is quite the opposite.

I also realize there are times when there is love at first sight that can be long lasting.  I’ve seen it with clients and in my own family.  But that is not the norm.  Not everything is a quick fix and especially love…this new gimmick is just that.  A way to get the media to pay attention and do a story, which they did.  So they have accomplished their goal.  Clearly the goal was not to genuinely advance love and connections between people.

35 Years of Matchmaking Success By Bon Jour Matchmaking Service

300+ marriages in 35 years of personalized professional Denver matchmaking is the track record for this Denver matchmaker!  Not only that accomplishment but also MOST of those couples married either the first or second person they met through Bon Jour.

What is this success attributed to?  Several components that are a part of being a client of Bon Jour Matchmaking.  This is not a buy a package of dates for a finite period of time.  This is real matchmaking!  Selective matching on both sides by a professional matchmaker and the client.  All the time in the world for the right person to present themselves with the open-ended contract.  Loads of information on each client along with current photos to assist in the selection.

The acceptance of only Denver singles who fit in with my current clientele and are what my clients are seeking.  That is a unique quality specific to Bon Jour in that there is little to no overhead making accepting just anyone into the service NOT a priority to meet overhead as in other services.  Accepting only singles who really understand the old-fashioned approach to matchmaking so that all clients have that same mindset.

Celebrating year 35 of professional Denver matchmaking!

WHY THIS MATCHMAKER’S OPEN ENDED CONTRACT IS INVALUABLE

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About 11 years ago I met a lovely woman at a party in Cherry Creek.  She was and is a sophisticated, intelligent, accomplished and extremely attractive person.  She was single and I was pointed out to her as someone she might like to get to know.  We had an immediate chemistry.  She had unquestioned faith in my matchmaking abilities and joined Bon Jour Matchmaking Service.

Because this woman is so spectacular I was extremely selective in who I shared her profile with.  They had to be worthy, have similar qualities and a lifestyle she could relate to.  Consequently there were not that many men over those years that I introduced her to.

But this wonderful lady never wavered in her faith in me and never gave up like some people do.  A few months ago a gentleman signed with Bon Jour who was a great fit for this woman.  He selected her from her extensive profile and photos and put her first on his list to meet.  They’ve been dating ever since.  Although this man is a great match for her and she is very excited, there are challenges in his life with family and distance from her that could have made either of them decline the introduction.  But because they were and continue to be open minded they spent New Year’s Eve together and are continuing to get to know each other.

If I had not had an open ended contract, if she had not been so patient and/or given up on me she would certainly not have met this lovely man.  So along with what I offer you as a seasoned 26 year veteran matchmaker, you have to bring to the table qualities like patience, cooperation and faith in the process.

DO YOU WANT TO DATE OR A MATE?

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It’s Your Choice…

When deciding to use a matchmaking service one of the most important considerations is are you looking to “date” or to “mate”.  You should feel that your investment is in your future, starting a brand new life with someone who you have chosen who has chosen you.  If you are truly serious about finding love then it may be time to get serious about how to achieve that goal.

If you are interested in immediate gratification than a REAL matchmaker is not what you are looking for.  I am from the old school of matchmaking combined with the realities of 2015.  If you are looking for “dates” i.e., buying a specific number of dates for a specific period of time, then Bon Jour is not for you.  If, however, you have played the numbers game with the Internet dating services to no avail and/or other services who…

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THE BEST ASPECTS OF BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE

  1. Open-ended contract…you are a client until…until you reach your goal;
  2. One Matchmaker who knows ALL of her clients;
  3. You are ONLY introduced to my clients who I’ve met personally, interviewed and who have had a background check;
  4. 34 years of experience in Colorado matchmaking;
  5. 300+ marriages (600 singles reaching their goal);
  6. Feedback both positive and negative to assist you;
  7. Coaching to correct unproductive and unsuccessful dating patterns;
  8. Extensive profiles with current photos for clients to view;
  9. Collaborative effort between client and Matchmaker;
  10. Clients decide who they are interested in meeting after I select appropriate profiles that fit on both sides;
  11. VERY reasonable investment fee based on each individual client’s situation;
  12.  Make your investment fee back if you get married, move or leave Bon Jour.

These are just the highlights.  Please read through this web site to gain more in-depth information.