When deciding to use a matchmaking service one of the most important considerations is are you looking to “date” or to “mate”.  You should feel that your investment is in your future, starting a brand-new life with someone who you have chosen who has chosen you.  If you are truly serious about finding love, then it may be time to get serious about how to achieve that goal.

If you are interested in immediate gratification than a REAL matchmaker is not what you are looking for.  I am from the old school of matchmaking combined with the realities of 2023.  If you are looking for “dates” i.e., buying a specific package of dates for a specific period of time, then Bon Jour is not for you.  If, however, you have played the numbers game with the Internet dating sites to no avail and/or other services who sell “dates” with no…

WHY MICHELE FIELDS IS SO SUCCESSFUL

Michele “the Matchmaker” Fields has not found her match in her 34 year career as a Denver Matchmaker but she has facilitated 312+ marriages since 1989!

It has become clear to Michele that her role in this life is to assist other singles to find love even though it has been elusive for her.  This alone shows that services are not magical fixes when the owner who meets everyone first has not sealed the deal herself.  There are just some people who will not meet that right person and there is no way to know who or why that happens.

The great part about Michele being single herself is that she can really empathize with each and every client in the service as to the challenges and insecurities that come along with dating.  That is an invaluable trait.  She is so hands-on and able to illuminate and…

Bon Jour Matchmaking Service is the name of a service, however matchmaking is my calling.  This isn’t just what I do, this is who I am.  In 1989 I felt that calling which became my career.  As with any successful career there will be imitators.  That was pointed out to me by a friend of 40+ years who, back in 1997 gave his sister, Renee Piane, my Press Kit detailing the structure and philosophy of Bon Jour.

I shared my Press Kit with the Piane family at the time because I had known them for years and had moved away in 1981 from back east to Denver.  It crossed my mind briefly that I was taking a chance leaving this information which was meant for future clients and the press with the Pianes but I trusted them and assumed they would just be proud of what I had created…

I guess the answer depends on your definition of a “Matchmaker”.  It also depends on your agenda when using Denver matchmaking services.  According to World English Dictionary it’s a limited definition (in my opinion)…
World English Dictionary
matchmaker 1 (ˈmætʃˌmeɪkə)
— n
1. a person who brings together suitable partners for marriage

It seems currently in Denver you have two viable options to go about selecting a “matchmaker” to assist you in finding a mate.  There are the packages that have become extremely popular with franchise and local matchmaking services because it takes all of the work out of it for them.  You sign a contract for a specific period of time (for thousands of dollars) for a specific number of “dates”. You receive very, very limited information about the person, no photos or profile per se and you rely entirely on either someone who has met you once or…

In many of the posts both on my Blog and Pages I’ve reiterated that I decline more prospects than I accept as I need to protect my clients and that person needs to fit in with the service.

This week a well known and controversial Denver personality contacted me to become a client of Bon Jour Matchmaking.  First the good stuff…he’s in great shape, attractive, intelligent, articulate, well read, financially well off and recently infamous…

In some other posts I referred to the fact that even though I’ve been practicing Denver matchmaking for 25 years, on this 25th anniversary situations are coming up that have NEVER come up before…

I was surprised to hear from this particular person as our paths have crossed in the past and according to him, he didn’t see any value in this type of service at that time.  So first of all he wanted to…

Rather than have a flat fee painting everyone with the same brush OR having preliminary interviews to assess how much I think a client can afford to quote their fee like most other Denver matchmakers…Bon Jour’s fee structure ranges from $4500 to $5500.

It is based on these four criteria:

• How much I think I can do for you
• How marketable you are within my service
• Challenges you may have
• Your expectations

So don’t get excited if I quote you a lower end fee.  It means I can help you but there may be challenges that will effect your success.

The higher to the upper end of the fee structure means I either know clients who might be interested in meeting you or you are the type of person most of my clients prefer.  Also you may be a person with less challenges, i.e. multiple divorces, lots of…