WHY CHOOSE BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE?

People constantly ask me whether matchmaking is lucrative and how much money I make. They seem to want to judge this vocation by monetary success rather than what the basis of my chosen vocation is which is how many people working with me have reached their life goal of finding a mate. The reason I don’t charge the types of fees other “matchmakers” charge is because that is not what it is about for me. The success of my clients is the yard stick with which I measure my success! NOT everything is about money…this is not my “job”, it is my calling which has little to do with the superficiality of wealth accumulation. But rather the satisfaction of achieving an elusive life dream for my fellow human beings.

NOTE:  If your mentality is that it’s a numbers game and you wish to meet someone every week…this is NOT the service for you.  This is a MATCHMAKING service NOT a dating service.  It is VERY specific in introducing you ONLY to people who fit your criteria and preferences, and of course, you fit theirs.  THAT is why it is so successful!

Starting with some demographics and statistics Denver is comprised of 50.4% men and 49.6% women.  Surprised?  Of that population (according to the Denver Demographics and Statistics Bureau) 25.3% have never married, 13.2% are divorced and 9.3% are widowed.  So 47.8% of the Front Range population is comprised of singles in those three categories.

It is no wonder why dating services and matchmakers have popped up here like cockroaches licking their chops for a slice of the proverbial pie.  Bon Jour Matchmaking Service was created in 1989.  What I did was, as a single myself, looked at another service at the time and structured Bon Jour to be the total opposite.  Meaning…eliminate as much overhead as possible, be the sole Matchmaker who has interviewed every client, have current photos with extensive profiles, offer an open-ended contract and charge a reasonable fee.  That is how Bon Jour has stayed for the past 30+ years.  There have been tweaks to the questionnaire/profile, specials, the way I share client photos and fee structure. But other than those updates there is always one Matchmaker who interviews and knows all of the clients, low overhead, straight Matchmaking through collaboration between Client and Matchmaker.  There have been more than 300 marriages and one new engagement to either the first or second person those clients met.  Those 300+ marriages equate to 600+ Front Range singles who have found their mate!

There has always been and will always be an open-ended contract for every client keeping in mind that timing and fate play a major role in this endeavor.  Fees are geared towards your particular situation taking into consideration your location, age and the age range you wish to date.  A one-time filing fee that is good for the duration of the time you are in the service.  Coaching during the interview and before and after introductions based on mutual feedback as well as hours that fit anyone’s schedule.  Bon Jour is open 7 days a week from 9am to 7pm and all holidays.  Your calls are always returned within 2-5 hours (unless there is an emergency situation and I am unable).  One of the points that seems to turn up in reviews of other Denver matchmaking services is that the owner and/or matchmakers working with clients don’t return their calls or respond to their e-mails.  There is a major frustration with that in other local services.  Also that they do not pay attention to the clients’ criteria making the huge investment in those services for nothing.

So for all of the above reasons Bon Jour Matchmaking Service IS the wisest choice in the Front Range for matchmaking.  And BTW I have a percentage of clients who are not necessarily interested in marriage.  They want a lifelong companion whether it be with or without marriage so you needn’t feel that you must want marriage to consider a Matchmaker.

WHAT TO EXPECT FROM THE INTERVIEW at Bon Jour Matchmaking Service

The initial interview is the time when we get to know each other both through the questions on the questionnaire as well as the information in-between the questions that we share.  This is when we form the basis of our relationship and get started on your journey to meet like-minded professional singles.  Based on the information you share this is when you view all of the CURRENT clients who are the most appropriate fit for you, and you decide who you would like to meet.

You can expect to ONLY be matched with people who fit the preferences and criteria you set forth at that time.  There is no limit to how many matches so you can feel comfortable selecting as few or as many people as you find interesting and compatible.  I learn just as much, if not more, information about you by the profiles that you decline as the profiles you select by exchanging feedback on both.

You will come into my office for a private two-hour interview. We will fill out a 6-page profile/questionnaire together and view profiles with pictures.

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YOU will decide who you are interested in meeting, we will make a list of those people and put them in the order you would like to meet them. This process is collaborative between client and matchmaker.  You are making all of the decisions on who you meet with my input and knowledge of the clientele.  YOU always have the final word on who you meet.

I offer open-ended contracts (in other words you are in the service until you reach your goal, whatever that is) for all clients.  There is a one-time investment fee especially designed for each client’s needs. There is a per introduction fee ($35) on each side of the match to insure that both clients have mutually decided this feels like a solid introduction. With both clients and the matchmaker feeling this is a good match it has the best chance of succeeding. So you control who you meet and how much you spend. I feel that timing is crucial in this endeavor and I give my clients the gift of time.  There is no way for me to guarantee how many matches you will select while you are in the service.  Each client has the control to choose who they do and do not wish to meet, including you.  I cannot force you or any other client to meet someone.  Patience is probably the most important quality one needs when hiring a professional Matchmaker.  You may meet several people in a short period of time or in a longer period meet “the one”.  OR meet “the one” right away!  View the Testimonials Section to further understand the process.

The one-time investment fee is to be paid at the time of the 2-hour interview by check or in cash.  At that time I interview you and show you proprietary confidential profiles of potential matches.  This is a Matchmaking Service not a dating service.

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MY ROLE AS A DENVER MATCHMAKER

Over the 33 years I’ve been matchmaking, one of my best attributes now is the ability to listen carefully. To follow my clients’ preferences and criteria and most importantly not to make decisions FOR them but rather WITH them.

Those qualities only come with years of experience in the business of professional matchmaking. Over all of these years I’ve seen clients choose people who surprised me and rejected people I thought they would like. So I’ve learned not to make matching decisions for them and to present people who I’m not sure they would be interested in. I don’t know everything and sometimes the clients don’t know themselves who may interest them ultimately.

I warn my clients be careful what you tell me in your criteria and preferences because I follow them closely. I will check to see if you have any flexibility and often most of my clients do. But when they don’t I respect that and carefully follow their desires.

Another important factor in being a great Colorado matchmaker is presenting enough information to each client so that together we can make the best choices. Along with the 6 page profile on each client, everyone has a minimum of 6 pictures. That information and the fact that I’ve met personally and work individually with every client as well as the open-ended contract are what has made Bon Jour Matchmaking Service so successful for 33 years and counting…

YOU ASK, WHAT IS MY SUCCESS RATE?

Very often when people contact me at Bon Jour Matchmaking one of the questions they ask is what is my success rate.

My success rate has everything to do with you as a client.  If you turn down everyone who would like to meet you, don’t select people to meet who are the best prospects (which I tell you), continue to make the same mistakes I have pointed out to you through my coaching, well your success rate will not be as good as a client who is more open minded with prospective matches or listens to my coaching and implements it.

We are a collaborative partnership.  It’s not just MY success rate in this Denver matchmaking service.  You as a client have everything to do with your success.  I have several clients who have superficial requirements that must be met or they are not interested.  I.e., one woman will not consider men who are conservative regardless of how good a fit they are in other ways.  Doesn’t even want to see their profiles.

I have some men in their late forties and early fifties who still want to have children and they are not negotiable about it. That really limits the women in their childbearing years who will consider them, as they are more interested in age-appropriate men.

Another is an avid skier and directly told me not to show anyone her profile who is not an avid skier as all of her vacations are ski vacations.  A male client is only interested in women who emulate Cameron Diaz.  If she is “exotic” like Angelina Jolie he’s not interested.  Well….I follow strictly what I’m told, unlike the other local Denver matchmaking or Denver dating services.  That’s the good news, but if you are so restrictive as these clients it may take forever to make that match.

So, in short, my success is based in large part on the client.

DENVER MATCHMAKER DATING SURVEY SAYS…

According to a 2013 Questionnaire, Denver Singles Responded Like This…

  1. Would you date or not date someone based on their job?  Generally singles said it depends on the job and how much time it would allow for the relationship.  Mostly they want to meet someone who has passion for their career.
  2. Is it polite to ask someone for a date via text message?  Overwhelmingly the women said either NO or NOT for the first several dates, it’s too impersonal.  Men overwhelmingly answered YES.  MEN, pay attention to this!
  3. What makes you stop and read a profile either on the Internet or local service?  Both men and women answered it was based on the photos first.
  4. What is the best love advice you have ever received?  Both men and women overwhelmingly answered, “Be Yourself”.  Are you people who lie on your Internet dating profiles listening?????
  5. What is the worst thing about aging?  Both men and women answered body changes; aches and pains.  Having less time to accomplish your goals.
  6. What is the best thing about aging?  Men and women said gaining wisdom, knowledge and patience.
  7. What is the one thing you definitely do not want to talk about on a first date?  Answers ranged from exes, politics, money, religion and sex.  But most people said their exes.
  8. Who do you think should make the first move when it comes to asking for a date?  Both sexes answered MEN.
  9. What is it about women that you like most?  They listen and communicate better; their feminine side.
  10. What is it about men that you like most?  Companionship; their different perspective on life.
  11. Who should pay on the first date?  For the most part both sexes answered MEN.
  12. What is the worst question someone asked you on a first date?  When someone calls your kids baggage; If I would sleep with them that night; How much money I make; Have you ever been arrested and many others…
  13. What is the one thing you always ask on a first date?  Tell me about your family; nothing specific, just follow the conversation; what their relationship with their family is and what their friends are like; do you like to travel?
  14. What is your definition of LOVE?  Some answers were:

When there is trust, commitment and both partners are better together than apart;

When I can’t stop thinking about the person…when I miss the person;

The ability to let someone be themselves without judging them, in addition to attraction, of course;

Mutual, unconditional caring for another;

Having someone who is always there for you, someone who you can tell your inner most thoughts to, someone who is protective of you, someone who can forgive and who is loyal and devoted to the relationship;

Mutual respect, passion and commitment through thick and thin;

Good question with no standard answer.  I’ll know it when it happens.

Keep some of these answers in mind by the opposite sex when dating and it may help you be more successful!  You need to meet a person to date first however, in which case you should continue reading this site and phone me for a FREE PHONE CONSULTATION at 303-756-8106.

DIRECT AND HONEST or CHARISMATIC AND UNTRUSTWORTHY

Which Do You Prefer?

Are you the type of person who falls for charm and charisma and lives to regret it?  Those charismatic charmers are often called scammers.  I have a relative who is very, very charismatic, however once he’s “got” you he’s like a snake and will bite you the minute you are off guard. Yes, they are wonderful to chat with but beware of doing business with them or getting romantically involved.

When you are doing business and making a financial investment whether it be with a financial advisor or a personal Matchmaker, is it more important to you that they have a “good bedside manner” even if they are not trustworthy?  There are many business owners like that in all categories of business who have left a trail of very pissed off people behind them.  In the long run the truth is the most important component regardless of the type of business.  Charisma only goes so far and in the long run cannot hide that you’ve been “taken”.

So, my personal preference is honesty, however that is delivered.  Preferably if it is delivered with tact, that would be the best scenario, but the two aren’t always compatible.  The recipient of the truth may not take it well no matter how it’s delivered if they don’t like the information.  After 33 years of working closely with various personality types I know “you can’t please all the people all the time”.  But I’d rather be known for being direct and honest than someone who is charming but can’t be trusted.

Because of my upbringing back East (although I’ve been in Denver for 41 years) you will notice the directness and perceive the honesty.  Believe it or not I have mellowed in the 41 years…you can take the girl out of the East but you can’t completely take the East out of the girl.  Most people living in Denver are from other states where they were raised and have brought that upbringing with them.  That’s one of the things that makes Denver cosmopolitan and diverse!

Everyone has a choice about how they wish to appear to others.  The length of time I’ve been matchmaking in Denver makes me an authority on my clients and how things work in my service. After all, I’ve created Bon Jour Matchmaking based on the structures of other services that I found to be not client friendly.  It also gives me insight into what does not work with Denver matchmaking services.  I have complete confidence in my approach which may be interpreted as cool or bottom line.  My choice has been and will continue to be direct and honest about the service, the clients and myself.  That does not appeal to everyone, but I feel if I’m asking you to entrust both with your heart and your investment in Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, you deserve the truth and nothing but the truth.  How else can you be successful in this endeavor?  We have to be honest with each other.  A lack of honesty is often what is missing in dating and that’s why potential relationships fail.  I hope to bridge the gaps that can come up, especially early in a relationship.

ASK THESE QUESTIONS BEFORE JOINING ANY DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE

Every week I receive calls from singles who have used or spoken to other local Denver matchmaking services. What shocks me every time is the few questions these people ask the other services. Maybe because I conduct at least a 1 hour preliminary phone consultation they think of more questions to ask me…I don’t know. But these are the types of questions you should ask when looking for a Denver matchmaker.

  1. Does the person who will be matchmaking me know ALL of the clients?
  2. How long have you been in business?
  3. How many marriages have you had?
  4. Where is the interview conducted? In a quiet, private place or at a coffee shop or hotel?
  5. Are you matching me with YOUR clientele or with other local matchmakers? Have you interviewed and met those clients if they are not yours?
  6. Have they interviewed and met with every client?
  7. What are the different contract lengths?
  8. Do I get to view a profile of each client?
  9. Are there pictures of each client that I view?
  10. Who makes the decision on who I meet…the matchmaker and/or me?
  11. Do you vett the people I will be meeting or just grab singles where you can find them to match with me?
  12. Do you do a background check?
  13. Do you share the background check with me…even generally?
  14. Is this truly a matchmaking service or a dating service?
  15. IF it’s matchmaking why am I buying a “package of dates”?
  16. Is there coaching to help me succeed with my matches?

So I will answer all those questions for you in Bon Jour Matchmaking Service:

I meet with each client in-person and interview every client.

I have been in business for 33 years.

I have had more than 300 marriages during that time.

I NEVER call other local services to use their clientele who I’ve never met. You are ONLY matched with MY clientele.

Every client has an open ended contract.

Clients view a 6 page profile of every client.

Each client has a minimum of 6 pictures which are shared with perspective matches.

We collaboratively decide who are the best matches but ultimately the client has the last word.

Clients are ONLY matched with other clients having their profile, pictures and having done a background check on each. All clients are vetted both for my safety and that of the clients.

Yes, background checks are done on every single who calls me for the service whether they become a client or not and no expense to the clients.

I do not specifically “share” the background check other than anything interesting. If there is something negative I may not accept them as a client.

This is an old fashioned matchmaking service.

There are no packages of anything, this is matchmaking. You may meet as many or few people as you are interested in who feel the same. But my goal is to hit the perfect match with the first or second introduction. There is as much coaching as you need to help you succeed. What’s the point of introducing you to people and then having you make the same mistakes you’ve always made?

Bon Jour Matchmaking Service IS a Matchmaking Service NOT a Dating Service…the difference?

After you have read through this site somewhat you should understand that I am a singular matchmaker who has met and interviewed every client face to face. I work alone with each client, there are no others in this service working with clients. How could I possibly matchmake if I hadn’t met and interviewed every single client?

So the basic differences between a Matchmaker and a dating service are:

  1. I have met and interviewed every single client;
  2. Every client has an extensive profile and pictures that are shared with prospective matches;
  3. Every client has an open-ended contract;
  4. Clients may meet as many people as they feel are a good match and that they both agree may have potential;
  5. Matchmaking is NOT about how many people you meet, which you certainly know if you’ve used the Internet Dating Sites and Dating Apps;
  6. Matchmaking is about quality prospects who genuinely are looking for the same type of relationship you are seeking;
  7. There are NO packages of dates in a matchmaking service where you are thrown together to meet a number on a contract;
  8. In a matchmaking service YOU decide who you are interested in meeting based on the prospects shared with you by the Matchmaker (me);
  9. A real matchmaking service doesn’t just grab people off the street knowing nothing about them OR contact other services whose clients they don’t know to set up their clients to meet a number on a contract or for any other reason;
  10. A real Matchmaker vetts ALL clients, interviews them and has a profile and pictures on them to share. That’s what you are paying for!

That’s what Bon Jour is and has remained for 35 years…A REAL OLD FASHIONED MATCHMAKING SERVICE.

So please don’t call me and argue with me about how many, how many. My focus is the RIGHT ONE not how many people can I throw at you. If your focus is how many, call another service!

Every couple for 35 years who has married in here, has married either the first or second person they met…regardless of how long that took. That should say it all!

EVERYTHING YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT THIS DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE

Hopefully by this time, the 33rd anniversary of the service, as well as the 11th year for this website, most everything you should want to know has been answered somewhere on here. Perhaps even multiple times. I’ve tried to keep things direct and concise as I, myself, am not a big reader and appreciate when a writer gets to the point.  Please view my Mission Statement.

The first thing you should read is the HOME PAGE for an overview. Just click on the blue print to go to that Page or Post.  If you are seriously interested in working with a matchmaker you should also read HOW TO IMPRESS YOUR DENVER MATCHMAKER.

Another Page you may want to read is WHAT TO EXPECT FROM THE INTERVIEW so there won’t be any surprises and you can view my home office. Yes, I have a private office in which I keep all my client profiles and where you can be candid and open when we meet, unlike services who interview you in public forums.

The next Page you should view is POSTS TO READ BEFORE JOINING ANY DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE. That Page has an abundance of Posts for you to access with both general information about dating services and matchmaking services as well as advice in a variety of areas, i.e., selecting services, matchmaking service fees, what turns men off, how to be a collaborative Bon Jour Matchmaking client, etc. Of course you do not have to read every Post listed on that Page, just the ones that interest you the most.

CLIENTS’ TESTIMONIALS is a Page you should read as those reviews of Bon Jour Matchmaking go all the way back to 1989 up to 2022. I could not include all Testimonials I’ve received over the 33 years, however those should give you an idea of how clients feel about the structure and working with me.

For personal background information on me you should view the Page entitled ABOUT THIS PROFESSIONAL DENVER MATCHMAKER. This will give you info on my volunteer work in the community, how old I was when starting the service, etc.

There are approximately 204 Posts on my Blog all of which give you an insight into the clientele, my work ethic, the structure of the service and more.  Once you feel you understand the service, for the most part, and have questions, please phone me to chat. Especially phone me if you do not understand my philosophy or have questions about things you have read or perhaps missed reading. For my hours you may go to HOURS, LOCATIONS, FEES  for specifics.

I hope this Post/Page helps you navigate the site more easily and we can chat very soon! 303-756-8106

IF YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND BON JOUR MATCHMAKING’S PHILOSOPHY I WILL DECLINE TO WORK TOGETHER

It’s really more than just that. I just hung up after an hour call with a guy whose ego is so large that he told me how I should operate my matchmaking service to make more money. He never got that it isn’t about the money for me! It’s about my clients’ success.

At 43 he wanted only to meet ages 27-37, begrudgingly, admittedly because of his ego according to him and he doesn’t want to have children. Then proceeded to complain about how my service is set up, I should connect in some way with Bumble (which he said he used and didn’t work), I should get people from various venues that I know nothing about and just argued the entire time with me. Periodically agreeing that his criteria was too narrow.

The one thing I have really honed in 33 years of matchmaking is my listening skill. I really listen! Based on everything I heard and the fact that in the preliminary consultation he argued with me about everything I said this was not the service for him. He asked why and I said you just don’t get it. This is our 2nd or 3rd call in about 2 years and he said he read through my website. So why call if you know how this operates and try to get me to change my philosophy?

After giving him advice for almost an hour he then said that I’m not a nice person…I guess he’s ok with being honest but when someone else is and rejects him that doesn’t work for him. That’s EXACTLY why I declined.

3/20/22: I had a new woman scheduled for today. She’s had a week and a half to call or email me any questions which I advised her to do when we spoke. First thing this morning she sends me her pictures which did not follow anything I directed her to do and did not follow the examples I sent her. So that’s already a problem. She doesn’t follow instructions. The pics she sent would not have helped her, that’s why she had no success on apps, etc.

After spending several days cleaning and prepping for her interview (remember, I work from home, so I like everything perfect when interviewing a new client). I spent all morning doing final preps as well. She calls for directions which I gave her, then I asked whether she had any questions…she came up with every excuse she could think of to cancel but came short of cancelling. Two hours before the interview…when I pointed some things out she cut me off, didn’t want to hear it and I finally said I don’t want to work with you. Mostly I think she felt it was a numbers game, which is the first thing I say, IT IS NOT! She’s been on dating service sites and dating apps with millions of people and she’s had no success, so obviously it is not a numbers game! Ten great prospects are better than thousands of lousy ones!

We have to be a match first to collaborate on this very personal endeavor. And I wouldn’t want to expose my female clientele to this kind of personality. If you are going to fight me all the way on our phone consultation, I’m not going to work with you period.