Source: A DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE THAT GOES THE DISTANCE…Can You Handle That?
REVIEWS of BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE, Denver, Colorado
FEES…HOURS…LOCATIONS…AND MORE…
Source: HOURS…LOCATIONS…FEES…AND MORE…
SO THIS IS WHY YOU WORK WITH A SEASONED PROFESSIONAL MATCHMAKER
A beautiful, successful mother, businesswoman and model joined Bon Jour Matchmaking in 2013. She met a couple of men but not “the one”. Recently I have been cultivating a relationship with a Denver meteorologist going through a divorce with this client in mind. Once he was divorced he joined Bon Jour and she was the first one I suggested that he meet.
Since they laid eyes on each other they are crazy about each other and very hopeful this will go long term permanent. Due to her patience with the process and his willingness to give this type of approach a try, although he was very skeptical about working with a professional Denver matchmaker, he now says that he feels they would not have had as open communication and feedback had he not gone this route. He feels that having a professional matchmaker has made the process seamless and comfortable as well as added to the success.
So rather than ask how many people do I have in your age range right now at this moment in time, realize that good things come to those who wait. Timing is everything…but do you have the patience to wait for the right one? With my open-ended contract we work together until that time comes…
DO YOURSELF A FAVOR…WHEN CONSIDERING ANY TYPE OF DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE OR MATCHMAKER
For some reason when singles consider working with a matchmaker or joining a local Denver matchmaking service their expectations are almost totally unrealistic. Do you use the stock market? It goes up and down and is never a sure thing. Neither is investing in real estate as we saw in the last few years. You join fitness clubs and don’t lose weight or get in shape. And the list goes on…
But when people hire matchmakers they expect a guarantee. Why is that? You are usually considering this because other avenues have not worked. They didn’t give you a guarantee and didn’t work. Neither can a matchmaker. You come with your own criteria, preferences and baggage. Those three things totally effect your success or failure. They are yours so you need to own them and not blame Denver dating or matchmaking services for your lack of success.
You will do yourself a big favor if you stop having over-the-top expectations when using local services. In the 34 years I’ve been matchmaking there have been clients who I was sure would be successful and weren’t, while others who I was not sure of married. Of all the businesses you can use this one has the least predictability. All I can do is my best to achieve your goal with your assistance.
A DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE THAT GOES THE DISTANCE…Can You Handle That?
Recently I have been contacted or worked with several women in their thirties who have had no patience. They have never been married but expect that because they are paying a fee it should happen immediately. They’ve even said they want this to happen yesterday. Well, if you didn’t get it done either yourself or through other venues up to this point, why would you expect me to accomplish this immediately just because this is when you chose to come in?
I stack the deck in each client’s favor right off the bat by giving every client, for FREE, an open-ended contract. That assures them that whenever the “right” person comes in for them they will be here. But in this world of immediate gratification, for some people that is not good enough. I recently spoke with a matchmaker in L.A. who said that when she charges women for her service their expectations go through the roof and she can’t deal with that anymore. So she just has “cattle calls” for women for free but charges the ones she is sure she can match.
Nice lady but that doesn’t seem fair across the board. Some pay, some don’t but all of the men pay. I don’t find that equitable. And yes, I deal with the same issue mainly from women but I have and will continue to deal with it. Not every woman is like that and the majority understand this isn’t a quick fix. That said it is surprising, even to me, how many clients have met their spouses on either the first or second introduction! They were so lucky and it was clearly meant to be. Others it took however long it took but who cares as long as you achieve your goal with the “right” person!
So if you are looking for a quick fix from a Denver matchmaker proceed with packages of dates…there are many Denver matchmaking services out there who offer that. If you are looking for real old fashioned matchmaking and the time to make it happen, perhaps Bon Jour Matchmaking is right for you…best of luck either way!
UNDERSTANDING BON JOUR MATCHMAKING’S FEE STRUCTURE
Rather than have a flat fee painting everyone with the same brush OR having preliminary interviews to assess how much I think a client can afford to quote their fee like most other Denver matchmakers…Bon Jour’s fee structure ranges from $5000 to $5700.
It is based on these four criteria:
- How much I think I can do for you
- How marketable you are within my service
- Challenges you may have
- Your expectations
So don’t get excited if I quote you a lower end fee. It means I can help you but there may be challenges that will affect your success.
The higher to the upper end of the fee structure means I either know clients who might be interested in meeting you or you are the type of person most of my clients prefer. Also, you may be a person with less challenges, i.e. multiple divorces, lots of pets, location, working hours, etc.
Neither your income nor career/job play any part in the fee I quote especially for you. Fees are based on the FREE telephone consultation we have before you decide whether we are a match. So, rather than keeping unflattering or questionable information from me during that consultation, the more challenges you have i.e., lots of pets, lots of children, lots of marriages, etc., the more your fee drops down from the $5700. That said, the man in the last couple who married was divorced 3 times so that is not always an indicator of success or failure. It depends on what other attributes, qualities, morals and values you bring to the table. So don’t hold back. Take advantage of this extended call as it dictates the fee you are quoted. Don’t forget that whatever your fee is you always receive an open-ended contract!
COMING SOON…Questions, Concerns, Advice…CALL ME FROM ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD
IT’S NOT THAT I DON’T WANT YOU IN BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE
When someone calls for their FREE phone consultation I not only ask specific questions but also perceive a general or specific frame of mind, set of expectations and flexibility.
My goal is not to brag to the media about how much money Bon Jour makes. Remember, to make a lot of money you don’t need lots of clients, you need to charge outrageous fees.
My goal is not about money, which has been proven over and over and over again, by the number of singles who call me that I decline to work with. My goal is and has always been for 33 years to brag about how many marriages I’ve facilitated.
Your goal is my goal. If, in that first conversation or consequent chats, I hear certain things that I know guarantee you to fail (in Bon Jour) or unrealistic expectations, a very narrow criteria without room for expansion or I merely feel that we are not the best fit to achieve your goal…I will politely decline to work together. It’s a win/win for you as if we do you may meet your mate and if we don’t you haven’t spent the money.
Rather than take offense to that suggestion, consider it a gift. I did not lie to you and take your money; I did not insult you; I know each and every client and their taste, goals and flexibility so if I decline to work with you it may be because I do not think I can achieve your goal with the type of make up of my clientele at that point in time. It’s called “Ethics”…
Last month I declined to work with 6 singles who contacted me for various reasons, which are stated above. I look out for my clients as to what types of people I work with in their future who will walk-the-talk, be realistic, show flexibility and be accountable, so that everyone has the best shot at achieving their dream. There is no point in accepting people just to make money who do not fit the current clienteles’ criteria.
For Your Clarification About the Structure of Bon Jour Matchmaking Service
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When you are considering a matchmaker I really feel the first thing you should do is your due diligence…meaning read through the pertinent parts of the Denver matchmaker’s website. That will form the basis as to whether you even want to call them to discuss their service. It will also help you form questions that you might otherwise not think of.
Because there is such a trend amongst both local Denver matchmaking services and national franchise services to sell “packages of dates” people occasionally find it difficult to understand Bon Jour Matchmaking. The reason for that is because this is a true matchmaking service. Because there is no way to promise you that the day you come in for your interview the “perfect” person will be waiting, I offer an open-ended contract to all of my clients. It would be unrealistic for you to think that even though you haven’t been able to find the “perfect” person, the day you interview and view profiles I will automatically have them. I might…in many cases of the couples who have gotten married clients found their forever partner the very first day they came in. With others there was more of a wait until that person appeared. There are new clients coming in all the time so the makeup of the clientele from one week or month to another changes. That’s why the open-ended contract is so important!
I’ve had a couple of women in their late thirties in a desperate hurry to find a man, get married and start a family after they’ve spent time either in a 9 year relationship that blew through their thirties and never worked out or focusing on their career. It is unrealistic to expect me to pull a man out of a hat who is perfect for you right out of the gate. Again, that MAY happen, but it may not. You have your own preferences, criteria and challenges that may preclude certain partners. You may be extremely selective which may eliminate many potential mates. Your success in my service or any Denver matchmaking service has a lot to do with you. Clients who are unsuccessful like to blame that on the service they used, when in reality they got in their own way. I’ve seen that many times over almost 27 years.
Bon Jour Matchmaking focuses on finding the right matches on both sides. There are no packages of dates and no limited contracts. If your goal is to date as many people as possible to find the needle in the haystack your best bet are the Internet Dating Sites. This is old fashioned matchmaking as it was meant to be…
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