HOW MANY PEOPLE WILL I MEET IN THIS DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE?

When you call for your FREE phone consultation you may ask how many people you will meet.  First of all that is primarily up to you.  When I show you profiles at the time of your interview if you do not select anyone that is your prerogative.  If once you are on file as a client you turn down every one who wants to meet you then, again, that is up to you.

I have no way of knowing how many people you will meet and my goal is not to set you up with everyone in town.  This is matchmaking.  The phone consultation does not go into the detailed depth that the interview does so by the time I know your background and all of your criteria and preferences at the interview the number of prospective matches obviously will go down.  This is matchmaking, the information has to fit on both sides to make a match.

Most people choose to meet one person at a time, however, again that is up to each individual.  You are NOT buying a “package of dates” so however many people seem to fit and appeal to you over time you are welcome to choose.  Then it is up to each of them whether they are interested.  But there is no limit to how many people you meet.  Other than MY goal which is to hit “the one” with as few matches as possible.

The fact is you only need ONE…the right ONE.  My goal is and has always been to set you up with only the most appropriate people so that you may achieve your goal sooner than later and with as little stress as possible.

FINDING A MATE IS LIKE BUYING A HOME

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When I was searching for my home there were very specific things I wanted and specifically did not want.  The house had to have air conditioning and a foyer.  I absolutely did not want a basement.  Well, the house I fell in love with did not have air or a foyer and it did have a basement.  But my home had so many other outstanding features that I traded those for my “must haves” list.  Refer to post called Ten Tradeoffs to Finding the Love You Seek.  The difference between a “house” and a “home” is like the difference between “dating” and “matchmaking”.

It works the same way with finding love.  Sure all men want a model and all women want a loyal, sincere, educated, tall, clean shaven guy.  But that is not always who you fall in love with or can fall in love with.  As I explained…

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UNDERSTAND THIS ABOUT BEING THE CLIENT OF A DENVER MATCHMAKER

Out of all the various Denver dating services, Denver singles groups and Denver Matchmakers this is the only service that shares pictures of all clients that I am aware of.

If you choose to work with this service particularly because I share pictures and extensive profiles than understand this…the effort that you expend both during the interview for your profile and in giving photos to Bon Jour is perceived by potential matches as how really interested you are in finding love.

In fact so much so, that if a client who is not as attractive as you takes the time to get the right pictures I requested and they are great pictures…but you, even though you are more attractive, just throw pictures together for me, the PERCEPTION will be that you are not as motivated to find love.  Consequently they may select to meet the other person strongly based on that perception.

So, if you decide to work with a Denver matchmaking service like mine because of the amount of information as well as the photos do so with the mindset that you are going all in.  NOT because you are paying a fee, but because you are genuinely looking for love.

BASIC FACTS ABOUT DENVER SINGLES

Almost every single, both male and female, regardless of age has tried Match.com, eHarmony and It’s Just Lunch before calling me.  Another smaller percentage has tried POF (Plenty of Fish).  You can guess the results if they are calling me.

A small percentage have been afraid to try Internet Dating Sites for a variety of reasons.

Another percentage have not done anything proactive to advance their love lives…and chose Bon Jour for that first step.

Locally a large percentage of the above have tried services that sell packages of dates.  FYI, I call those Denver dating services, NOT Denver matchmakers or Denver matchmaking services.

A fair percentage of these singles have spent thousands of dollars on services who sell packages.  The result is that they are now calling Bon Jour Matchmaking.

Be sure to choose the appropriate service for your personality and finances.  Don’t expect the service to be a guarantee just because you’ve paid a fee, regardless of how much that fee is.  A lot of your success depends on you.  The people you choose or reject (in Bon Jour), your dating behavior and patterns and your attitude.  This is a true collaboration between client and Matchmaker.

YOUR LAST VALENTINE’S DAY ALONE

Don’t worry, if you are spending Valentine’s Day without love make up your mind this is the last one.  It’s time for you to get serious about finding the love of your life.  If you’ve played around on the Internet Dating Sites, tried dinner services or just lunch, had friends set you up with the most inappropriate people it’s time to go to a professional.  27 years in collaboration with my clients Bon Jour Matchmaking, Denver’s oldest and most successful matchmaking service, is what you are looking for IF you are serious about finding love.

Read the reviews of how hands on I am as your very own matchmaker.  Read through this web site about how Bon Jour works and my philosophy and see if it resonates with you.  If so, call me, even on Valentine’s Day and let’s talk about your goals.  Just pick up your phone, you have nothing to lose and lots to gain.  I’ve worked with some of the most skeptical singles in Denver and they have met their spouses through Bon Jour.  303-756-8106

ANOTHER NEW DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE – BE CAREFUL THEY COME AND GO

Today I am interviewing a guy who recently wasted much time and money on one of Denver’s newer “matchmaking” services.  Yes, another package deal where you receive no information or photos and they decide who to throw you together with.  This gentleman, 36, is very sincere and serious about finding love and was most disappointed in the structure of the service and lack of quality of the clients.

Now yet another gimmicky service has appeared trying to take a piece of the proverbial Denver’s singles pie with an owner with no track record, no relationship history of her own and no experience in this field.  There is a very slick website and an upfront fee to do a short pre-interview, which BTW you get for free with Bon Jour Matchmaking Service for up to TWO hours.

It is debuting with a game show from the sixties, but be careful.  You work hard for your money, unless a new service with no experience or track record signs you for FREE don’t rush into that.  The length of time in business, track record and experience are the most important factors along with the structure of the service, testimonials, reviews and BBB rating.  They also need a clientele which none of the new services have yet they charge the fees of established services.  Many of these new services have broken their services into various compartments of which you pay individually for each service.  Then they try to move you into another one to charge an additional fee.  Yes, it’s great for them to generate money from you from every direction.  But the definition of a REAL professional Matchmaker is that all of those services are under the one umbrella “MATCHMAKER”.  One fee to hire a Matchmaker who interviews, coaches, advises, directs, facilitates/matches and gives you feedback directly from clients to increase your success!  This is about maximizing your experience, not generating income for the service.

There have been so many services with the same slick websites, high fees, no clientele, no experience, etc. who have popped up, taken your money and disappeared with it in short order.  Do your research, find a service structure that fits for you, a track record, been in business for at least 5 years, experience in this field not some other and took some questionable courses with initials that are not vetted.  New services have no business charging you the fees that established Denver matchmakers with a track record charge…so be careful!

WHY HIRE A PROFESSIONAL DENVER MATCHMAKER?

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If you find a professional matchmaker who is doing her job well, she will not play a numbers game.  A numbers game is for the Internet dating sites and Denver dating services who sell packages of dates.

A matchmaker considers both sides of the match carefully to be sure they fit based on the information shared with her by those clients.  The clients are always involved in the matching process as that is how your matchmaker gets to know your likes and dislikes as well as your flexibility or lack of.

A matchmaker shares lots of information on each client so that you can perceive whether they would be a good match for you, including photos.  Also the input of your matchmaker is invaluable.  Your matchmaker should also coach you when necessary and give you feedback both good and bad to assist you in making your matches successful.

If you…

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FINDING A MATE IS LIKE BUYING A HOME

CALL ME…This is NOT a “sales” call, merely an exchange of information.

When I was searching for my home there were very specific things I wanted and specifically did not want.  The home had to have air conditioning and a foyer.  I absolutely did not want a basement.  Well, the home I fell in love with did not have air or a foyer and it did have a basement.  But my home had so many other outstanding features that I traded those for my “must haves” list.  Refer to post called Ten Tradeoffs to Finding the Love You Seek.  The difference between a “house” and a “home” is like the difference between “dating” and “matchmaking”.

It works the same way with finding love.  Sure all men want a model and all women want a loyal, sincere, educated, tall, clean shaven guy with hair.  But that is not always who you fall in love with or can fall in love with.  As I explained on my post Real Couples Having Real Relationships look at those couples.  Do you really think in every case the spouse was exactly what that person had on their list of qualities?  Also check out my post on Denver Men Do You Look Like This?

So whether you use the Internet Dating Sites, local Denver dating services or a Denver matchmaker have some flexibility and be open minded, you never know in whom you will find love!

WHY HIRE A PROFESSIONAL DENVER MATCHMAKER?

If you find a professional matchmaker who is doing her job well, she will not play a numbers game.  A numbers game is for the Internet dating sites and Denver dating services who sell packages of dates.

A matchmaker considers both sides of the match carefully to be sure they fit based on the information shared with her by those clients.  The clients are always involved in the matching process as that is how your matchmaker gets to know your likes and dislikes as well as your flexibility or lack of.

A matchmaker shares lots of information on each client so that you can perceive whether they would be a good match for you, including photos.  Also the input of your matchmaker is invaluable.  Your matchmaker should also coach you when necessary and give you feedback both good and bad to assist you in making your matches successful.

If you are in a race to find a mate then you are looking for a dating service.  If you genuinely wish to find the most compatible life partner then you seek a professional Denver matchmaker.  You’ve waited this long to find the right person so why would you suddenly rush the process by buying packages of dates or meeting everyone you can on the Internet?  My process is tried and true and has a proven track record over 29 years of Denver matchmaking!

WHY CHOOSE BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE?

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Starting with some demographics and statistics Denver is comprised of 50.4% men and 49.6% women.  Surprised?  Of that population (according to the Denver Demographics and Statistics Bureau) 25.3% have never married, 13.2% are divorced and 9.3% are widowed.  So 47.8% of the Front Range population is comprised of singles in those three categories.

It is no wonder why dating services and matchmakers have popped up here like cockroaches licking their chops for a slice of the proverbial pie.  Bon Jour Matchmaking Service was created in 1989.  What I did was, as a single myself, looked at another service at the time and structured Bon Jour to be the total opposite.  Meaning…eliminate as much overhead as possible, be the sole Matchmaker who has interviewed every client, have current photos with extensive profiles, offer an open-ended contract and charge a reasonable fee.  That is how Bon Jour has stayed for…

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