REAL COUPLES HAVING REAL RELATIONSHIPS

CALL ME…This is NOT a “sales” call, merely an exchange of information. The following couples are not clients of Bon Jour, but friends of mine who have been married at least 30 years…

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Both male and female clients hire Bon Jour Matchmaking to find them fairly “perfect people”.  Minimum wrinkles, not too short, not fat, not too thin, not too tall, youthful, vibrant, athletic, etc., etc., etc.  My clients have much to offer in many categories which include sports, education, financially, careers, appearance, kindness and the list goes on.  But what gets in the way of many people’s success whether it be with me, other Denver matchmakers, Denver dating services or the Internet dating sites is that they are looking for perfection.  Above are pictures of happy, successful couples married 40+ years.  These couples did not meet through Bon Jour.  They met years before I started Bon Jour Matchmaking.  These are real people having real and successful relationships:  They are not models, they are people who were lucky enough to find the right person whether they are short, fat, taller than normal, sick, skinny or same age but look older, etc.  Those are the people having successful relationships.  Is that you????

DENVER MATCHMAKER CREATES LOVE FOR THE HOLIDAYS

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Denver Matchmaker, Michele Fields, has a history of matchmaking her clients diligently during the holiday season.  Her affluent clientele is excited to meet new singles who tend to hire Bon Jour Matchmaking Service in mass when the holidays are coming.

Singles may go comfortably through the rest of the year without a companion, but the holidays bring out one’s romantic, receptive and loving feelings.  It is a good time to be proactive with your love life with most people being happy, friendly and open to each other.  Unions are very successful during this period.

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DENVER DATING ETIQUETTE FROM THE DENVER MATCHMAKER

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Michele the Matchmaker says guys, guys, guys…here’s the scoop. If you show up for a date late, dressing inappropriately for the activity and/or unkept it sends a very clear message to the woman you don’t care enough to take the time to “primp”. It’s really quite basic…comb your hair, brush your teeth, shave (even with facial hair to keep it neat), wear deodorant (not everyone likes cologne but AT LEAST wear deodorant). Make sure clothes are ironed and the right attire for the activities planned.

Good dating etiquette states, don’t be a wimp. If you know you are not interested or going to call, don’t say you will. If you are interested call soon. Don’t play little games with waiting to phone. The longer you wait the more she begins writing you off.

Michele the Matchmaker says ladies, ladies, ladies…wear clothes that are flattering! So many women don’t know what…

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MATCHMAKING, COACHING, LISTENING AND LEARNING AT THIS DENVER SERVICE

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Hiring a matchmaking service is a lot like hiring a financial advisor to direct you in the stock market.  You invest your money hoping for a large return; you have patience because the market can go up and down and you are basically making an educated decision about this form of investment.  Likewise in a matchmaking service your investment is in the hopes that you will meet people with the same goal as you; you are directed by the matchmaker which candidates (like stocks) will give you the best return; it can take time to meet the most appropriate matches and they may be successful or not.  It’s an investment in the process.  Again, patience is key.  With my open-ended contract you have the best opportunity to meet the “right” person when they present themselves.

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I ALWAYS DATE WOMEN 20 YEARS YOUNGER

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Periodically I receive calls from men in their late fifties or early sixties who proclaim that they always date women 20 years younger and it’s never been a problem.  If it’s never been a problem why are you calling a Matchmaker?  As I’ve shared throughout this website I interview every client so I know the age range they prefer and how far they will stretch.  So if I say I have no women in their early forties who are interested in dating men 20 years older that’s not a guess.  I’ve interviewed them and it’s merely a fact.

When investing with a Matchmaker neither women nor especially men will deviate very much from what they specify at the time of the interview.  Both sexes are pretty inflexible in a service compared to how they would be meeting someone by chance.

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ANOTHER SUCCESSFUL MATCH FROM BON JOUR MATCHMAKING

The most recent successful match from Bon Jour Matchmaking is a great couple.  Unfortunately, as with some couples who have met through Bon Jour they do not tell the truth when asked how they met.  How do I know?  They both told me.  And in addition I have received nasty notes from her since then.  Go figure…

When I started matchmaking I thought that one of the main perks would be how happy and appreciative clients would be when they met their spouse.  But it turns out that this can be a very thankless career, which still surprises me and saddens me.  When someone like a Matchmaker changes the rest of your life I think it’s appropriate to thank them (regardless of the fact that you hired them, not everyone attains that success who uses a Matchmaker) and show your appreciation by telling the people who ask how you met the truth.  That shows respect both to the Matchmaker AND your friends and family!

In 25 years I will never understand why some couples are not honest with their friends and family about meeting through a Denver Matchmaker…one would think that they would be grateful and appreciative to have found each other, however that happened.

As I said, they are not the first couple to not admit this and I have to say I really take issue with that.  Because I don’t advertise so that I may keep my fees lower than other services it is most important that successful couples tell the truth when asked how they met.

Keep in mind singles, what goes around comes around.  If you meet through any matchmaker please don’t mislead people about it.  Nobody really cares and it makes for an interesting story.  Also, you may help someone else who is looking for love.

YOU CAN COUNT ON BON JOUR MATCHMAKING CLIENTS TO WALK THE TALK!

As mentioned in previous posts I have a Behavioral Agreement that each client signs at the time of their interview.  The reason for this is two-fold.

The first reason for this Agreement is that clients are viewing or hearing a 6 page profile and viewing pictures.  If they get excited about meeting someone that excitement is only going to last, maybe, a couple of weeks.  After that it starts to wain, and they start thinking of other things and other people.  They lose interest.  So, to keep them excited the follow through needs to happen in a specific period of time.  If not, you run the risk of having them lose interest.

The second reason is feedback from clients who have used the Internet dating sites and local Denver matchmaking services that people just disappear with no explanation.  Or they don’t follow through on phone calls or making plans.  I don’t want my clients to have those experiences so everyone very happily signs this Agreement.

Bon Jour is set up to do everything possible to help relationships prosper.

WOMEN ARE GIVING MEN A TASTE OF THEIR OWN MEDICINE

For 29 years of the 34+ I’ve been matchmaking, I periodically receive calls from men who want to meet women 15+ years their junior.  I have not accepted those men as women that much younger, especially if they are looking to have children, prefer to date men in their own age range…specifically in the context of Bon Jour Matchmaking Service.

But an interesting twist has started in the past three years that has never happened before.  I am receiving more and more calls from women saying almost the exact same thing.  How great they look, they don’t look or act their age and they are often being hit on and have dated men up to 8 years younger than they are.  This comes up when I ask the age range they wish to meet.  So I explain that men, in Bon Jour which is the venue we are talking about, in that younger age range do not want to meet older women.  On occasion a man will agree to meet a woman a year or two older than themselves, but all of Bon Jour’s clients are looking for permanent, lasting relationships and I personally do not feel that an older woman with a younger man will last.  Or vice versa.  Obviously there are exceptions.  But when did this new revolution happen?  Sure, you hear of it from time to time, but the amount of women who call with this criteria is probably every other woman who phones now.  So this is a really new trend locally and in society that has reached a majority of women who feel as I describe above.

They say the same things that men have always said, that men in their age range are inactive, out of shape and they don’t want to be some old guy’s nurse.  I have to say to those women the same things I say to the men…if you are in shape, active, curious about life, sexual why wouldn’t there be men your age who are also?????

As men age they tend to turn to younger women for a variety of reasons.  So where will these women be when they age and his eye starts wandering?  As I said previously I only work with clients who prefer age appropriate matches as those are the ones that have lasted.  Look around the world, for the most part when two people of different generations marry it tends not to last.

Bon Jour Matchmaking’s main goal is to facilitate matches that will go the distance and both in my experience and general history around me I see that age appropriate matching lasts.  If you prefer to date MUCH younger as a man or woman I think the Internet dating sites are your best resource.

ANYTHING ELSE IS MERELY AN IMITATION

Bon Jour Matchmaking Service is the name of a service, however matchmaking is my calling.  This isn’t just what I do, this is who I am.  In 1989 I felt that calling which became my career.  As with any successful career there will be imitators.  That was pointed out to me by a friend of 40+ years who, back in 1997 gave his sister, Renee Piane, my Press Kit detailing the structure and philosophy of Bon Jour.

I shared my Press Kit with the Piane family at the time because I had known them for years and had moved away in 1981 from back east to Denver.  It crossed my mind briefly that I was taking a chance leaving this information which was meant for future clients and the press with the Pianes but I trusted them and assumed they would just be proud of what I had created and accomplished.

Well I guess they were as in short order my structure and philosophy appeared on a website for Renee Piane.  I happened to see it and it was no coincidence that she had actually taken the wording from my Press Kit verbatim and transferred it onto her website.  Another old friend of mine from Denver who moved to California and worked for Renee told me that she regularly “borrowed” ideas from other venues.  For me matchmaking is a calling, for others it is a business.  Like so many other dating/matchmaking companies she has expanded into many areas to generate income and basically, like so many others, it is a money machine.

I can’t help but be flattered and fulfilled that she, and I dare to say others around the United States and the world based on my STATS page, have taken my structure and philosophy and made a business venture from it.  So in these past 34 years I have not only forged 300+ marriages but also inspired so many people to imitate my creation.  Sadly, like Ms. Piane, they rarely match-make anymore as they are so busy going off in other directions and now focus on the bottom line.

You can tell the difference between a “calling” and a “business venture” by the many directions they go in an effort to make money, rather than basic matchmaking to stay true to a “calling”.  I can tell by the amount of time people spend from different states and countries what their agenda is because it says boldly on this site that I only work with singles living in the Front Range of Denver.

Bon Jour Matchmaking is what it has always been and was meant to be…a straight forward old-fashioned matchmaking service.  There are elements that have been brought into the 21st century, i.e., this Blog and website, but the original philosophy and the way the service is run has remained true to my calling.  This is not a money machine, this is my passion.  Anything else is merely an imitation.

WE ALL WANT A “GOOD” MAN

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If you are a “good” man defined by my female clients as kind, considerate, communicative, funny, supportive, well educated, SINGLE and stable I am looking for YOU!  A “good” man genuinely seeking to find the right woman for life.

Men from the ages of 30-65 are in demand in this well established Denver matchmaking service.  If you feel that you fit most or all of the above adjectives and fit in this age range you should STOP right now and pick up your phone, then dial me at 303-756-8106 to chat.

My female clientele is comprised of appealing, educated, stable, SINGLE and open-hearted women genuinely looking to meet the right man for them.  If you are not intimidated by educated, successful and stable women and you have tried other avenues that have not worked please read through the site and determine if Bon Jour Matchmaking Service resonates with you.  If so, please CALL me and let’s see if we are a match first before I can match you with your preferences.