REVIEWS OF BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE THAT YELP WON’T PUBLISH

Below are several reviews that clients took time out of their busy lives to write in support and appreciation of Bon Jour Matchmaking on Yelp.  However, Yelp in it’s wisdom has hidden ALL of them under “reviews currently not recommended”.  So here are a few of them:

Another hidden review by Yelp:

I have worked for and with match makers in the past and having been with Michele’s services for the past several years, I can say she is the real deal. She is honest, direct, and truly cares for your success. While my perfect match remains elusive, I have been introduced to the highest quality of women I can imagine meeting who are all looking for the same thing: relationship success. You are not only investing in a relationship goal with Michele, but also your personal growth with her coaching. You just have to be honest with yourself in what you are looking for, be able to accept sound and direct advice, and Michele will help with the rest.

I’m happy my contract with her is open-ended until I meet the right woman. There’s no worry that you have ‘X’ amount of matches, and you’re done. You will need to fill out some very detailed information about who you are and what you are looking for. You are never presented with a match you are not a good fit for. You simply pay a $35 introduction fee to meet with interested matches. Please bear in mind her services aren’t for everyone. She knows what her clientele is looking for and will be honest whether you’re a good match for her services or not. If you’re done with the rat race that is dating these days, invest some time in communicating with Michele to see if she’s a good fit for your relationship goals.

Dr.  Allen Mok, Arvada, CO

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8/2/19 Reviews Yelp has hidden:

It has truly been a pleasure to get to know and work with Michele Fields, Bon Jour Matchmaking. She is honest and upfront and also warm and personable, a combination that is perfect for what she does. Her commitment to keep looking for the right person for each client as long as the client wants her to (for just one initial fee!) is unique in my experience. Although I have not yet found that “special someone,” I know Michele will do everything she can to help me. I highly recommend Michele’s matchmaking service.   Ann O., Denver, CO

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I decided to use a matchmaking service for several reasons. I did not seem to be meeting women who really wanted to be serious, and I felt I needed some honest feedback about me and how I present myself. I researched several options, but always came back to Michele’s Bon Jour web site, and finally decided to sign up with her. The main thing that sold me was that she is an independent owner-operator, not an “agent” of a larger company or franchise. Her web site, and a couple of phone discussions, gave me the impression of someone who will deal with me openly and honestly, who is sincere and grounded, and who truly seems to be interested in making a match for me rather than just collecting another client fee. There have been no surprises, everything that Michele outlines on her web site, and what we discussed on the phone has been exactly how the process has worked for me. She has been very responsive to my questions and concerns as we have started working together, and is definitely giving me suggestions of things that I can improve in myself. I am really looking forward to working together with her to have my last first date.   Brad K., Denver

1/17/19 Another client review hidden by Yelp…5 stars

Last year, I was tired on online dating sites/apps and began looking for a service with a more personal approach. Someone who would be on my side, listen to me, get to know who I am, and provide honest, concise feedback. In my search I found Bon Jour Matchmaking and reached out to Michele to discuss her service. We had a very good, down-to-earth, and honest discussion on dating and relationships. I found her to be quite refreshing and logical. Shortly hereafter I was dating through her service. Michele’s coaching prior to the dates helped my getting to know my date, resulting in conversations flowing smoothly. The feedback afterwards was also very useful for me. It clearly showed me how potential mates are viewing me, so I can make adjustments prior to the next date. Looking back over my experience and my many conversations with Michele, I do trust her to provide good dating advice and high quality assistance in my achieving my goal.

Brian, Age 58

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I’ve tried a couple of local Denver matchmakers and was very dissatisfied.  For 3 basic reasons, no info on my matches per se, they didn’t follow my preferences we discussed at length and they either didn’t return or answer my calls or emails or it took forever.  So I decided to try one more time and contacted Bon Jour.  Immediately it was obvious that Michele has been in this business for a very long time.  Her website was loaded with info and she spent as much time as needed to answer all my questions and I had a lot.  So we’ve been together for several months and I’ve found her warm, accessible, interested in me and very promptly answers calls and emails.  Her clientele is far superior to who I met in the other services and she shares tons of info and pictures of each potential match.  I’m not the easiest person to work with and with that said I’ve found Michele to excel in our interactions.

Katie, Age 32

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8/30/17 Another client review hidden by Yelp…5 stars

Michele’s reputation as, “The Matchmaker” in Denver is well deserved! I joined Bon Jour and have only very positive things to say about my experience. I had my first introduction in 2 weeks and my experience with Michele has exceeded my expectations. Bon Jour focuses on having clients meet quality people. All of the profiles Michele reviewed with me were very attractive and successful women. Her in person interview included reviewing photos and detailed profile descriptions of other women together. Michele’s matchmaking service is much different than other matchmaking companies in Denver, which pay very little attention to their client’s requests. I used to be a member of a Denver based match making service and all of my matches for 1 year were completely off base, especially from a physical standpoint. Most importantly, Michele takes the guess work out of dating. She’s in constant communication with you and guides you in the right direction when you meet someone. This includes coaching and giving advice when it’s needed. That’s invaluable in my opinion! Let’s face it…dating can be exhausting and frustrating. But it’s wonderful to know that Michele is honest and sincerely cares about her clients.
D. H., M.D., Age 41

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5/4/17  Another client wrote this review yesterday and Yelp has already hidden it.  She is NOT happy!  Review follows:

5 Stars

I just joined Michele’s service a couple of months ago and have nothing but great things to say! I contacted her because I’m feeling entirely burned out with online dating and am looking for a mate. Michele is supportive, genuine and forthright. I know she has my best interests in mind because she vets potential clients. Her service is very hands on and she coaches her clients–so you have to be able to communicate honestly with good rapport. I was impressed by her open-ended contract and the fact that she has been doing this for 28 years. This is her calling. Only a person confident in their service and with a strong track record of success would offer an open-ended contract (all the other local services in town contract for a certain period of time and charge, in my humble opinion, confiscatory amounts). Her website has a ton of great information and the goal isn’t to provide you with a million matches. The goal is to zero in on what her clients are looking for and for them to find a strong connection with one of the first few people they meet. While the the right man for me hasn’t presented himself yet, I know that joining Michele’s service makes it more likely I meet someone perfect for me! 🙂 EDIT: Also, not sure why over 20 reviews aren’t recommended by Yelp? But, be sure to check those out too.  Taylor H.

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Here’s another but they may hide this one too:

5 Stars

I’ve used the dating websites for years, but it wasn’t until Michele provided a better match for me than the websites ever did, that I realized how wrong the websites were. They claim that their matches are based on different aspects of your personality, but there’s no one-on-one conversation to truly understand the personality. Michele told me about a couple of personal issues that were holding me back from meeting the right person, and I appreciated that bluntness. When she matched matched me with someone recently that has the same thought process that I do, I realized that the long-term relationships from my past, from the website, were extremely far off. Those previous relationships, despite being 6-18 months long, were actually not very good matches, despite what the website suggested. I recommend Michele’s Matchmaking service because it’s an actual person doing the matching and not a computer algorithm that thinks it knows better.  Aaron Q.

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5 Stars

When I decided to go with a service, I had heard horror stories from friends who had been charged confiscatory amounts by other agencies and who had been matched randomly with other women regardless of their preferences to satisfy those agencies’ “annual number of dates” policies. I put in a lot of time investigating matchmaking agencies and decided to go with Michele, and am very glad I did.

From the beginning, you can tell Michele’s is not merely a service, but rather a calling for her. She first spends a fair amount of time with you on the phone in order to get a sense of your personality, what you’re looking for in a person and in life, and why you’re coming to her. She thus weeds out both people whom she feels she can’t help and those who are just “gold diggers,” “players” or otherwise aren’t serious about finding a lasting relationship.

She follows this up with a substantially longer in-person interview at which you pay your one-time, open-ended fee (I paid $1700.) This is just a fraction of what other agencies charge, and other agencies charge their (in many case FIVE FIGURE) fees ANNUALLY; Michele’s fee is good for however long it takes to find your match.

Michele’s service isn’t like other dating agencies where you’re provided with a database or book of profiles to leaf through and pick out what you think you might want, but rather Michele uses her skills and experience to pick out the people she feels would make the best match for YOU. This is why her interview process is so extensive; how could you trust a matchmaker that didn’t truly know you AND your prospective match in detail? Anyone can puff up a profile or provide years-old photos; you can’t get away with those tricks with Michele. She’ll only introduce you to clients who meet the criteria you are looking for, and more importantly, who are also looking for YOU.

Michele is very honest and up-front about herself, her service, and what you can expect from her, something I appreciated ever so much given the very slimy tactics of many other agencies in the business, especially those that spend a lot of money on glossy magazine ads. More importantly, Michele will not accept you as a client unless she feels she can truly help you find your match and that you would be the kind of match her other clients are looking for; it would be trivial for her to just accept fees from ANYONE but that’s simply NOT in her nature.

Michele’s the real deal. She naturally can’t promise that she’ll find you the love of your life, but at the very least you’ll certainly meet people of a much higher caliber than those found on online dating sites or that you’re likely to run into “organically.”

If you’re sick of the dating game and are truly looking for the match of your life, I couldn’t possibly recommend Michele’s service more.   William K.

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5 Stars

Michele had a page on her matchmaking service site about another service and ‘how people like this other woman’ reduce the credibility of legitimate matchmakers! Well I happened to have used this other woman that Michele was talking about . I sent Michele a brief email and she called me right away to discuss my options and I learned from my mistake. I found Michele very honest and upfront. Michele was also so sweet and spent so much time with me speaking about my situation with the other matchmaker . Bon Jour was charging initial $1000 fee compared to $5-10k for other matchmaking agencies. I wish I would have used her service from the get-go!  Ella S.

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5 Stars

I’ve been a member of BonJour for about 3 months. Michelle invests a lot time getting to know her clients and coaching them on how to change their behavior and how to attract, and keep, a quality mate. Michelle personalizes each match for her clients after meeting them IN PERSON and getting to know their personality. She reviews potential matches with each client and speaks with each person after the initial few dates. By doing this, she is able to provide feedback and additional coaching. This personalized aspect, in my experience, is unique to BonJour. The reasonable prices are a huge bonus as well. I would highly recommend Michelle.  Natalie B.

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5 Stars

So far so good. I joined during the summer and met a couple of fantastic women. The quality every man hopes to meet. Unfortunately there was no chemistry but because of the high quality of women I look forward to meeting the match for me that clicks on both sides. I have the utmost faith in Michele’s process and did a long research of local matchmakers prior to joining Bon Jour Matchmaking. I believe I made the right decision and because of the open contract I have lots of time to find the right woman for me. I would recommend this service if you are sincere about finding a lifelong mate. I’m putting 5 stars in anticipation of meeting my future wife with the assistance of Michele the matchmaker. Tom T.

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5 Stars

Michele Fields has been a matchmaker in Denver for 24 years. I have been in her service for a couple of years and she does an excellent job. We are lucky to have such a great local matchmaker. I have tried Match, JDate, E Harmony, and a couple of others. These services don’t compare to Bon Jour. I have met way more quality people thru Michele’s service. You never know who and what you are meeting with these other services. I have been scammed thru a couple of these national services.

Bon Jour’s price is very reasonable and well worth it. She has a great client base and you know you are going to meet a quality individual.  She is a pleasure to deal with and I highly recommend this service.  Cliff B.

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5 Stars

I became a member in 2009 and paid $600 at the time. Michele is honest and forthright, earnest and interested, and works really hard for me as an individual. I think using her service is a great idea because its so hard to find people that are serious about finding a lifelong partner – Michele has clients that on ONLY serious about looking for a lifelong partner, and she knows each of us really well. She contacts me regularly for updates about my life and interests and encourages me a lot. I am a fan, as you can see.  Camille B.

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5 Stars

I joined Bon Jour Matchmaking service in December. I was hesitant at first because I’ve always just done internet dating. But, I decided to go ahead and contact Michele anyway. During our conversation she asked me my age and I told her 41. At that time she said she didn’t have as many clients in the age range of my preference, but she said we could stay in touch in the future just in case she had someone come in asking for someone my age. But a few days later, Michele called me to let me know after we spoke, she changed her mind and decided to expand her age of clients and that I had persuaded her to do so. She was very up front over the phone about expectations and policies and what I needed to do. She set an appointment for me to come down and meet her to go over everything more in detail including the fee. She was very personable and took the time to get to know me and it was then that I knew she would be looking out for my best interest. I was very satisfied and comfortable with her and found the fee to be very reasonable. She has continued to touch base with me through email and phone providing me with updates as to the pool of potential dates. I realize she doesn’t have a magic wand to make a match and make love happen, but I figured I’d have better chances with her than trying to do it on my own via internet dating. They say the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result…well, I’m putting the end to insanity and going with Michele; so when I do meet someone through Michele, it’s not up to her whether it works or not, it’s up to me. If you are single and looking to meet a professional and educated potential match….I highly recommend you call Michele and set an appointment.   Jeff F.

YELP REVIEWS OF BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE

I guess I don’t understand how Yelp works…it seems to have lost all credibility.  There are positive reviews by clients that Yelp has hidden who have actually USED Bon Jour Matchmaking.  As soon as they get something negative they post it.  They shouldn’t be posting reviews of people who have never used the service.  At the bottom of my page on YELP it says 44 reviews not currently recommended in light gray print…click on that and read those reviews also!  Those reviews were from clients, not one-time callers who I declined to work with and got mad and wrote a review.

Currently there is a post by a Kirsten S. who has never been a client of mine.  She phoned me yesterday and I got up out of a sick bed and half asleep to chat with her.  I spent an hour explaining both how Denver matchmaking and Denver dating services work.  Going into great detail as to the differences in Bon Jour from the other local services.  As always, I spent a lot of time answering her questions as I’ve been in this field for 36+ years and have a lot of information to share.

Towards the end of the conversation, she asked me questions that left me thinking that the information I shared went in one ear and out the other.  She never mentioned that she was in school for her Phd. so, on her post I don’t even know if that is true.  Reading her review she STILL doesn’t get it, can you imagine that with all the info on this site as well as an hour phone consultation…anyway, your FREE phone consultation is exactly for this reason.

I assessed that she did not understand the philosophy of Bon Jour Matchmaking or the structure, so I suggested that she keep looking for a more suitable matchmaking service and wished her good luck.  In short order she called back apologizing for I guess not getting it or not listening or something I presume trying to get me to reconsider, but it was clear to me that she would not make a good client.  I am very protective of my clientele and only accept about half the people who phone me for the service to keep it upscale and safe.  You can meet unstable people on dating apps and other services.

If her description of the service in her review had been correct, I doubt I would still be matchmaking after 36+ years.  It is absolutely scary that just because I declined to accept her as a client she would go to this length.  Can you imagine someone complaining because I did NOT take their money?

She has now posted the same negative review on Yelp.com, Pissedconsumer.com and Kudzu.com on Bon Jour.  I sure made the right call on that.  Instead of thanking me for saving her the money (I quoted her my lowest fee BTW), she is dealing with my honesty by bashing a service she has never used and clearly does not understand.  I have another post on this Blog explaining that not all reviews are a reflection of the service, but rather the reviewer and their own issues.  This is obviously one of those.

HOW TO IMPRESS YOUR DENVER MATCHMAKER MICHELE

I start evaluating everything about you from your first contact with me.  If written I notice grammar, spelling, and politeness.  If by phone, attitude, philosophy (i.e., it’s a numbers game, how many are in your “database”?), and our communication styles with each other.  This is such a personal endeavor it is important that we communicate well with each other.  As I’ve said many times on this site, I turn down more people than I accept based on a wide variety of factors.

I had a woman call me and leave a message.  So, I returned the call promptly and didn’t hear back.  (I do not chase after clients like other Denver Matchmaking Services.  I want to see your level of interest, reliability and motivation).  Months later she called again leaving another message.  Again, I returned her call promptly and again never heard from her.  This shows me a number of things about her and none of them are good.  IF she calls again I will not work with her. My clients deserve people who are sincerely motivated and reliable and that’s what I try to give them.  She has already made a bad impression.

More than likely you will only meet with me face to face once, at your initial interview.  When you dress for the interview remember I am your representative, agent, promoter, confidant and coach.  I am your advocate, I’m on your side to facilitate the best result in your quest.  So just like a job interview you need to make a good impression at this one opportunity.  That means visually as well as personality and attitude.  The more you cooperate, collaborate and follow through in a timely manner, the better our relationship will be.

As with your pictures you need to put a lot of thought into what you wear to the interview.  Also, if you are difficult, indecisive or combative throughout the interviewing process that does not make a good impression.  This is an interview like any other so put your best foot and attitude forward.  The nicer and more appealing you are the more I will be apt to recommend you over someone else and push someone towards you when they are on the fence!

WHAT TYPES OF SINGLES ARE THE MOST SUCCESSFUL WHEN WORKING WITH A DENVER MATCHMAKER?

Since 1989 I’ve observed the types of people who have the most success working with me.  Contrary to popular belief they are not the most beautiful or handsome, in fact they are usually average to a bit above average.  They are not the richest men, they are realistic men and women.  They pay attention to the feedback I give them and suggestions I make to improve their success.  Bon Jour Matchmaking does not accept people who are married or separated.  So below is a short list of the qualities that will make a single successful in the Denver matchmaking market:

1.   Realistic – If you come in with the expectation that you can place your order and expect that person to either currently be on file waiting for you or that I can conjure them up you are not being realistic.  You know your strengths and weaknesses and you should expect to meet someone who both accepts and compliments those.  Timing has much to do with your success so patience is also a requirement.  You are not looking to meet someone who is 15+ years younger than you.

2.   Patient – You realize that the person you are seeking may not be in the service at the exact time you join.  This is the reason for the open-ended contract.  So that you will be in the service when that “right” person comes along, whenever that may be.

3.   Open-Minded – At the time of your 2-hour interview you are shown all of the profiles of clients belonging to Bon Jour Matchmaking Service who are a fit for you personally.  Don’t compare them against each other, but evaluate each profile on a per person basis whether this person is a good match for you.  Your expectations are the same as they would be outside of the service rather than higher because you’ve made a financial investment.  Instead of thinking that you only want to meet the exact same type of people that you usually date, consider that may be the problem and open up to other types.  I.e., don’t look at a person and say they remind you of someone who didn’t work out so you won’t meet them.  They are not that person.  Obviously, there was something that attracted you to that person but this may be a better version of them…open your dating palate.

4.   Reasonable – You don’t judge whether a person is “cheap” or insecure by something they do or don’t do during the first meeting.  Everyone is uncomfortable with a first meeting and may not do everything perfectly.

Those are just a few of the reasons certain people are successful with Bon Jour Matchmaking.  They are realistic, patient, open-minded and reasonable.  Are you?

 

MYTHS AND TRUTHS ABOUT MATCHMAKING SERVICES AND DATING SERVICES

  1. In my opinion the number 1 myth is…the more expensive a service is the more successful it is and the higher quality their clients are.  If you look at reviews of the most expensive services around the country as well as Denver matchmaking services, you will see many, many negative reviews.  So you should not judge a service by what they charge you.  Many are just greedy and want to make lots of money for doing nothing.
  2. If a service says they have lots of clients for me should I trust that?  MYTH,  NO, NO, NO.  A real matchmaking service has no idea how many clients fit for you until they interview you thoroughly.  To throw out arbitrary numbers over the phone is unprofessional and merely a sales tactic.
  3. If a service has been covered by the media that means it is a good service and you can trust what you see in the news story.  MYTH,  Again, if you look at reviews of some of those services you will see that clearly the reporter/writer did not do their due diligence before writing or reporting the story.  It is not wise to join a service or use any company JUST because they were covered by the media.
  4. If you make a major financial investment in a service then it should work for you.  MYTH,  A service cannot overcome, in many cases, your own personal issues/habits or force clients to meet each other.  If you work with a Professional Matchmaker who coaches you that should increase the odds of it succeeding.  It is just one of many options of how to meet like minded, appropriate people who have the same goal.
  5. All you have to do is join a service and you do not have to put any effort into it.  MYTH,  If you decide to make the financial investment you should also realize you have to invest psychologically.  If you are coached to update a look, write something to be more appealing, cooperate when sending in photos or whatever you should be prepared and willing to do so.  To just plop down some money and expect everything to take care of itself is not realistic and not the point of working with a Professional Matchmaker.
  6. If you join a Denver matchmaking or Denver dating service that does not show you profiles or photos, but selects FOR you because you have bought a package of so many dates for so many months you will be happy with that.  MYTH,  Most people who contact me have either looked at that structure or tried it or know someone who has and were very unhappy with the results.  Check out their reviews…  How can someone select FOR you after meeting you once briefly and not showing you any information?  What are you paying for?
  7. That because you are a “mature” man who is financially set you deserve to meet beautiful, YOUNG women since you are paying to use a Matchmaker.  MYTH,  I can’t speak for other services but my female clients are highly educated, financially stable/secure, attractive, extremely interesting individuals (even the younger ones) who are interested in meeting ONLY age appropriate men, especially if they are younger and looking to start a family.
  8. I’ve been asked by some singles if they will for sure meet someone.  TRUTH,  My response is that is primarily up to you.  If you turn down every profile you are shown and say no to every person who selects you, then NO, you will not meet anyone.  But you are in control of that, not I.  I can present clients who fit what you are looking for and are good matches but if you always say NO then I guess the answer is no.
  9. You specifically join a Denver matchmaking service that offers coaching so one would assume you are open and willing to accept suggestions and feedback.  TRUTH,  Why else would you join a service with coaching?  If you don’t listen to the suggestions and feedback, again you may not be as successful.  What other venue can give you feedback about what the other person is thinking?  Only working with a Professional Matchmaker.
  10. That reviews of matchmaking/dating services are a reflection of the service.  MYTH,  NOT ALWAYS TRUE.  As listed above the client has a lot to do with their own success.  Lots of people get mad because they are disappointed that a service didn’t solve all of their dating issues.  Sometimes those reviews are a reflection of the client not the service.  If you are narrow in your criteria and inflexible that is your prerogative, however that probably will reflect your success.
  11. The length of time in business is not a reflection of how successful a service is.  MYTH,  This is a very competitive field especially in Denver.  The longer a company (like any company) has been in business the more credibility it should have…of course you have to figure that in with many other factors.  But length of time in business is certainly one.  Bon Jour Matchmaking Service is celebrating 34 years of full-time Denver matchmaking success!
  12. Aren’t dating services and matchmaking services the same?  MYTH, a dating service sells packages of dates, with no information or photos and selects for you.  You buy a package for 6 months with 6 introductions.  They merely throw someone at you once a month disregarding your criteria and preferences to meet the contract…THAT’S A DATING SERVICE!  A genuine matchmaker gets to know you, shares profiles and pictures with you and guides you through YOUR selection process based on taste and common information presented in that profile.  A matchmaker should extend to every client an open-ended contract as well to give the right person for you the time to present themselves.

A Moment In Time

40 years passed by like a moment in time

He made us laugh many moments in time

His acting drew us in at moments in time

We heard he was gone at a moment in time

His light will shine every moment in time

We’ll miss him through the rest of our moments in time.

Missing Robin Williams…

RobinWilliams2009

AN INVITATION FOR DENVER SINGLES AGES 30-70 FROM DENVER’S PREMIERE MATCHMAKER

Bon Jour Matchmaking Service invites you to call for a FREE phone consultation.  Ask any and all questions you would like prior to making a decision as to whether this is the best service to fulfill your romantic goals.

I am available Monday thru Sunday 9am-7pm to chat with you.  If I am with a client I will phone you back at my earliest convenience.  Before phoning please click on the following link and read several of the posts on the Page named POSTS TO READ BEFORE JOINING ANY DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE so that you understand both how this service works and the advantages of Bon Jour Matchmaking over other Front Range services.

Unlike other local matchmaking services I do not do a “Meet and Greet” session at Starbucks or hotels to look you over.  After 25 years of matchmaking thousands of singles I am adept at discerning whether you and the service are a good match through an extensive phone consultation.  Not everyone who calls is an appropriate potential client.  I will tell you directly and save you both time and money if I feel either this is not the right service for you or you and I are not a match.

I am not interested in “talking you into” using my service.  My main goal is to exchange mutual information and we both decide whether you are the right fit.  I am not a salesman, I am a Matchmaker.

 

BON JOUR ON ANDY ROONEY ON WOMEN OVER FORTY…GET IT?????

Andy Rooney’s thoughts on women over forty:

As I grow in age, I value women who are over forty most of all. Here are just a few reasons why: A woman over forty will never wake you in the middle of the night to ask, “What are you thinking?” She doesn’t care what you think.

If a woman over forty doesn’t want to watch the game, she doesn’t sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do. And, it’s usually something more interesting.

A woman over forty knows herself well enough to be assured in who she is, what she is, what she wants and from whom. Few women past the age of forty give a hoot what you might think about her or what she’s doing.

Women over forty are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won’t hesitate to shoot you, if they think they can get away with it.

Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it’s like to be unappreciated.

A woman over forty has the self-assurance to introduce you to her women friends. A younger woman with a man will often ignore even her best friend because she doesn’t trust the guy with other women. Women over forty couldn’t care less if you’re attracted to her friends because she knows her friends won’t betray her.

Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over forty. They always know.

A woman over forty looks good wearing bright red lipstick. This is not true of younger women. Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over forty is far sexier than her younger counterpart.

Older women are forthright and honest. They’ll tell you right off if you are a jerk, if you are acting like one! You don’t ever have to wonder where you stand with her.

Yes, we praise women over forty for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it’s not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed hot woman of forty-plus, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some twenty-two-year-old waitress.

Ladies, I apologize.

For all those men who say, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free,” here’s an update for you. Now 80 percent of women are against marriage, why? Because women realize it’s not worth buying an entire pig, just to get a little sausage.

Wasn’t a big fan of Andy Rooney but love this!

 

Fees of Denver Dating Services vs. Bon Jour Matchmaking Service

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Bon Jour Matchmaking Service is owned and operated by me/myself/and I, Michele the Matchmaker.  There are no other employees working on commission, there is no fancy office space, no advertising and as little overhead as is possible to run a business, consequently Bon Jour is able to offer a more reasonable investment than other Denver dating or matchmaking services.  In addition, I offer all clients an open-ended contract (at no extra fee), meaning they are a client until…until they reach their goal in the service.

I believe two of the most important ingredients involved in a successful match are timing and fate.  Every client receives the benefit of those at an extremely reasonable investment.  Your investment in Bon Jour is based upon client’s age, height, age range they wish to date, location and other information shared at the time of the phone consultation.

There seems to be a trend lately with Denver matchmakers to charge for a certain number of dates; only to charge the men and sign the women for free (or vice versa) or a combination thereof.  Often you may pay $3500 for 6 dates on a six month contract.  And $5500 for 12 dates in 12 months…or more. In addition, you receive very little information (I am told by past clients of those services), no pictures or profile and have to accept that service’s opinion as to whether it’s a good match.  If you wish to be a “VIP” you may pay $7,000-$10,000…or more.  I’ve also been told that because of the lack of male clientele, select male clients are set up with all new women, even though their preferences preclude many of these matches, leaving both sides very frustrated.  The main complaints seem to be the expensive fees and the services not paying any attention to the clients’ criteria.  Also the owner(s) and or “matchmakers’ not returning calls or e-mails.

So take your time, do your homework when searching for the best type of service for you and your finances.

DENVER SINGLES’ LIFESTYLE TRENDS

Denver singles have specific lifestyles that may indicate the way singles throughout the country are thinking and feeling.

Almost all of the Denver singles that I’ve interviewed in the past 25 years are pro choice.

The majority are in favor of capitol punishment.

They are open minded about people who have children outside of marriage.

Although most were raised in a specific religion, the majority do not practice that religion and consider themselves spiritual.

Most people in my service do not own guns for safety and a few own guns for hunting.  Most clients say they will date someone who owns guns.

Most of my clients say they do not currently use pot.

Most of my clients have traveled Internationally.  Most have also done volunteer work both in the United States and abroad.

Almost every client in Bon Jour Matchmaking Service has at lease one pet.

Men tend to be mostly conservative while their female counterparts tend to be mostly middle of the road or liberal.  A percentage of both say they are fiscally conservative and socially liberal.

The men show little concern about the income of the women while the women ONLY request that the men either make around the same income as they do or are financially stable.  No gold diggers here on either side!